<ul class="summary-list"><li>Sources close to <keyword id="618313" type="PERSON" weightage="60" keywordseo="Armie-Hammer">Armie Hammer</keyword>'s ex-wife told <a href="https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2021/03/the-fall-of-armie-hammer-a-family-saga-of-sex-money-drugs-and-betrayal">Vanity Fair</a> the actor is obsessed with <keyword id="6523068" type="PERSON" weightage="60" keywordseo="shibari">shibari</keyword> <keyword id="72990" type="PERSON" weightage="60" keywordseo="bondage">bondage</keyword>.</li><li>The practice involves a rigger (the person tying) and a model (the person being tied). </li><li>Originating in Japan as a form of torture, shibari is now a popular sexual trust exercise for couples.</li></ul>Armie Hammer has been mired in controversy since January, when internet users named him as the author of <a href="https://www.insider.com/armie-hammer-cannibal-dms-controversy-explained#:~:text=In%20early%20January%2C%20an%20Instagram,and%20even%20acts%20of%20cannibalism.">screenshot</a><a href="https://www.insider.com/armie-hammer-cannibal-dms-controversy-explained#:~:text=In%20early%20January%2C%20an%20Instagram,and%20even%20acts%20of%20cannibalism.">ted</a> messages describing sexual fantasies like <a href="https://www.insider.com/armie-hammer-what-are-kinks-blood-play-vorarephilia-cannibal-2021-1">cannibalism and heavy BDSM.</a> While the screenshots have not been confirmed as Hammer's, the rumors sparked an interest in his supposed kinks.<a href="https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2021/03/the-fall-of-armie-hammer-a-family-saga-of-sex-money-drugs-and-betrayal">According to a new article in Vanity Fair,</a> there is one <keyword id="684315" type="ENTERTAINMENT" weightage="60" keywordseo="Kink">kink</keyword> in particular that became something of an "obsession" for the 34-year-old actor: Shibari.Shibari is a <a href="https://www.insider.com/what-is-shibari-bondage-too-hot-to-handle-2020-4">form of rope bondage</a> that originated as a kind of torture, and is now used by couples as a trust-building exercise in the bedroom.Sources close to Hammer's ex-wife, Elizabeth Chambers, told the publication she introduced Hammer to Shibari "several years back." From then on, Hammer would constantly practice his complicated knot-tying on mannequins when he wasn't working on movies. Hammer's hobby became so intense, the sources said, that Chambers even <a href="https://www.insider.com/armie-hammer-ex-wife-tried-monetize-his-japanese-bondage-obsession-2021-3">suggested he write a book</a> about the practice called "Why Knot" to make the venture lucrative. Vanity Fair also reported that Hammer had a secret Instagram account, @el_destructo_86, on which he posted a picture of a tied-up mannequin in the past year, writing in the caption he would "f--- this thing" if the pandemic doesn't end soon.Here is everything you need to know about the form of rope play.<h2>Shibari is a form of Japanese bondage involving rope and intricate knots</h2><a href="https://www.theguardian.com/stage/2016/jan/21/shibari-pushing-boundaries-in-the-ancient-japanese-practice-of-knot-tying">Shibari originated in 1900s</a> Japan but didn't become popularized in the country until the <a href="https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2020/04/9717350/what-is-shibari-too-hot-to-handle">1960s and 70s when BDSM bars emerged</a>. Originally called Kinbaku, the practice evolved from a way to bind and torture prisoners of war into a form of sexual bondage. In Shibari, couples take on roles called the rigger, or person tying the knots, and the model, person being tied up. The rigger is meant to tie their model, staying in tune with how the model is feeling and their body language to make the experience pleasurable for both people. Shibari is unique from other types of rope play because the knots are meant to be <a href="https://www.kinkly.com/definition/1356/shibari">tied over pressure points</a> in the body rather than just restraining the wrists or ankles. <h2>Shibari, like <keyword id="1173975" type="ORGANIZATION" weightage="60" keywordseo="BDSM">BDSM</keyword> in general, is all about trust and consent</h2>While <a href="https://www.insider.com/myths-about-bdsm-according-to-kink-specialists-2020-2">misconceptions about BDSM</a> and bondage often paint the practice as nonconsensual or abusive, people who engage in BDSM ethically are often fantastic models for what clear consent and communication during sex should look like. Shibari specifically is even <a href="https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a32145034/what-is-shibari/">recommended by sex and relationships experts</a> as a fun, trust-building activity couples can do in the bedroom. Because the model is putting their trust in the hands of the rigger to handle and restrain their body, the two must rely on clear communication. Shows like <a href="https://www.insider.com/what-is-shibari-bondage-too-hot-to-handle-2020-4">"Too Hot To Handle"</a> have show-cased Shibari as a good icebreaker activity for new couples learning about each other's bodies. "Even though it is bondage, which can tend to feel a bit more risque, it really does teach people how to trust which is the foundation for any long-lasting relationship," <a href="https://www.shanboodram.com/about">Shan Boodram,</a> the show's relationship expert, said during an episode.

Armie Hammer is reportedly 'obsessed' with Shibari, a type of sexual bondage that started out as a torture method

<ul class="summary-list"><li>Hammer introduced his ex Elizabeth Chambers to shibari, a form of Japanese bondage several years ago.</li><li>According to <a href="https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2021/03/the-fall-of-armie-hammer-a-family-saga-of-sex-money-drugs-and-betrayal">Vanity Fair,</a> she suggested he could monetize his intense interest by writing a book titled "Why Knot."</li><li>Hammer reportedly invested heavily in the hobby, purchasing multiple mannequins and inventing intricate knots.</li></ul>Armie Hammer's estranged ex-wife Elizabeth Chambers once suggested that the actor could monetize his interest in Japanese bondage after he became intensely involved in the hobby.According to <a href="https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2021/03/the-fall-of-armie-hammer-a-family-saga-of-sex-money-drugs-and-betrayal">a Vanity Fair exposé</a>, a source close to Chambers said that she had "tried to find a lucrative spin on (his) obsession" with shibari, a form of Japanese bondage where people are tied up in a series of intricate knots.This suggestion came after Hammer became incredibly involved in shibari several years ago during a time when he was not working. Hammer reportedly invested in multiple mannequins and spending his time practicing and inventing new knots. The source told Vanity Fair that Chambers "suggested he write a book about a hobby called 'Why Knot?'" as a means of monetizing this new interest. Insider earlier reported that Hammer and Chambers had separated last year after a decade of marriage, with <a href="https://www.insider.com/armie-hammer-elizabeth-chambers-raunchy-text-divorce-2021-3">the "last straw"</a> being a raunchy text meant for another woman that was mistakenly sent to Chambers.The Vanity Fair article follows many disturbing allegations that were made regarding unverified text messages sent by Hammer that supposedly <a href="https://www.insider.com/armie-hammer-cannibal-dms-controversy-explained#:~:text=In%20early%20January%2C%20an%20Instagram,and%20even%20acts%20of%20cannibalism.">detail his desire to indulge in cannibalism</a> and <a href="https://www.insider.com/armie-hammer-what-are-kinks-blood-play-vorarephilia-cannibal-2021-1">heavy BDSM</a>. Hammer's shibari kink was previously highlighted on social media when he was found to have <a href="https://pagesix.com/2021/01/15/armie-hammer-follows-instagram-hashtags-for-rope-bondage-knife-skills/">followed Instagram hashtags for rope bondage.</a>The actor also deactivated his Twitter for some time in 2017 after some eagle-eyed followers pointed out that he had <a href="https://decider.com/2017/03/13/armie-hammer-rope-bondage-twitter/">liked a bunch of tweets about rope bondage</a>. But he has not hidden his fondness for the knot-tying activity. He <a href="https://web.archive.org/web/20130621093923/http://www.playboy.com/playground/view/20q-armie-hammer-interview">waxed lyrical about the hobby </a><a href="https://web.archive.org/web/20130621093923/http://www.playboy.com/playground/view/20q-armie-hammer-interview">during a 2013 Playboy interview</a><a href="https://web.archive.org/web/20130621093923/http://www.playboy.com/playground/view/20q-armie-hammer-interview"></a>, calling it "fascinating" and "a man's version of knitting." During the interview, he added that he was a "dominant lover" and that he carried "a rope and a knot guide with him wherever he goes."Hammer later said he regretted speaking so explicitly about sex and blamed it on <a href="https://www.eonline.com/news/432297/armie-hammer-explains-explicit-sex-talk-in-playboy-blame-it-on-the-alcohol">drinking too much</a> during the interview. In 2016, he admitted to being a "knot enthusiast" during an interview with late-night show host Stephen Colbert, demonstrating the speed at which he could do and undo knots. "Knots just make sense. There's a weird... language to them," Hammer told Colbert, before <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MpW5VzKGHWA">challenging him to a knot-tying contest</a>. "They're the coolest!" he added.It is unclear if Hammer is currently still as interested in shibari, as a Page Six report noted that movers that helped him vacate his LA home in the middle of the night this week had <a href="https://pagesix.com/2021/03/01/armie-hammers-movers-leave-behind-rope-bound-mannequin-in-la/">left behind a female mannequin torso</a>, half-hanging out of a trash bin.

Armie Hammer's ex-wife tried to monetize his Japanese shibari bondage obsession

<ul class="summary-list"><li>Netflix's newest reality dating show "Too Hot To Handle" featured a workshop on <a href="https://www.kinkly.com/definition/1356/shibari">Shibari</a> — a Japanese form of rope <keyword id="72990" type="PERSON" weightage="60" keywordseo="bondage">bondage</keyword>.</li><li>The singles are not allowed to have <keyword id="6355231" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="Sex">sex</keyword> or even kiss, but the <keyword id="6523068" type="PERSON" weightage="60" keywordseo="shibari">Shibari</keyword> workshop was meant to "improve intimacy and trust in [their] relationships." </li><li>In Shibari, a rigger — or person tying their partner up — binds their model's body with rope into different positions <a href="https://www.kinkly.com/definition/1356/shibari">based on their body language and emotional responses </a></li><li>"Even though it is bondage, which can tend to feel a bit more risque, it really does teach people how to trust which is the foundation for any long-lasting relationship," <a href="https://www.shanboodram.com/about">Shan Boodram,</a> the show's resident relationship expert, said.</li><li><a href="https://www.insider.com/?hprecirc-bullet">Visit Insider's homepage for more stories</a>.</li></ul>Netflix's newest reality dating show "Too Hot To Handle" puts 10 of the self-proclaimed "world's hottest people" in a tropical resort together for eight weeks for the chance to win $100,000 as a group. The catch: none of the singles can have sex or even kiss without risking their cash prize. That's not to say the show avoids intimate situations. One episode featured scantily-clad contestants tying each other up. The steamy scene was actually a workshop on Shibari — an ancient form of Japanese bondage meant to "improve intimacy and trust in relationships," according to the show's narrator, <a href="https://www.elle.com/culture/movies-tv/a32213292/too-hot-to-handle-narrator-desiree-burch/">Desiree Burch. </a>Led by relationship expert Shan Boodram, the singles divided themselves into pairs and decided who would play each role: the rigger (the person tying their partner up) or the model (the person being tied up).The rigger binds their model with rope into different positions <a href="https://www.kinkly.com/definition/1356/shibari">based on their body language and emotional responses.</a> "Even though it is bondage, which can tend to feel a bit more risque, it really does teach people how to trust which is the foundation for any long-lasting relationship," <a href="https://www.shanboodram.com/about">Boodram</a> said on the show.<h2>Shibari is about trust and differs slightly from other kinds of rope play</h2><div type="image" title="Shibari bondage" height="1414" width="1885" msid="75297339" hostid="261"></div>Shibari became popular in the 1960s and 70s in Japan when people started frequenting bondage-themed bars and strip clubs. "Shibari is a Japanese word to mean 'tie.' Today, Shibari is associated with Japanese-inspired rope bondage style for fun, kinky sex," <a href="https://sanfranciscosextherapy.com/midori-midor-sexologist-sex-educator-sex-therapist-workshops-sexuality-coaching">Midori</a>, a sexologist and author of the first English instruction book on Shibari, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Seductive-Art-Japanese-Bondage-Midori/dp/1890159387?ots=1&amp;tag=rf29amazon-20&amp;linkCode=w50Code=w50" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage</a>, <a href="https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2020/04/9717350/what-is-shibari-too-hot-to-handle">told Refinery 29.</a>Unlike many other representations of rope play, the knots of the rope are intentionally positioned throughout the body's pressure points in Shibari <a href="https://www.kinkly.com/definition/1356/shibari">rather than just at the ankles and wrists</a>. This is meant to give the model pleasure while the rigger listens to their needs and positions them. <h2>Shibari can be a tool to help couples develop better communication in their sex life and relationship </h2>The exercise is meant to build strong communication because it relies on consent and constant communication between the rigger and model. This makes it potentially a useful tool for couples looking to improve their communication — whether it be inside or outside of the bedroom. "Shibari is based in power play, but in a really unexpected way because truly, when you're the person with the rope, you're the one who is surrendering and trusting your partner," Boodram said on the show. "How tight do you want things? How much pressure? Does this feel good for you? They're teaching them the principles of how to take that same language and apply it to every other facet of their intimate connections."Read More:<a href="https://www.insider.com/sex-party-company-is-hosting-an-online-orgy-on-zoom-2020-3">A sex club is hosting a Zoom orgy with 100 masked attendees, burlesque dancers, and fire performers during the coronavirus lockdown</a><a href="https://www.insider.com/love-is-blind-couples-ranked-most-least-likely-to-last-2020-3">Every 'Love Is Blind' couple ranked from most to least likely to last, according to therapists</a><a href="https://www.insider.com/myths-about-bdsm-according-to-kink-specialists-2020-2">4 myths about BDSM you need to stop believing, according to kink experts</a>Read the original article on <a href="https://www.insider.com/what-is-shibari-bondage-too-hot-to-handle-2020-4">Insider</a>

How Shibari, the Japanese rope bondage shown on Netflix's 'Too Hot to Handle,' could help your relationship

<ul class="summary-list"><li>Anyone can have <keyword id="2212153" type="PERSON" weightage="60" keywordseo="vanilla-sex">vanilla sex</keyword>, including people in <keyword id="684315" type="ENTERTAINMENT" weightage="60" keywordseo="Kink">kink</keyword> spaces.</li><li>Vanilla <keyword id="6355231" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="Sex">sex</keyword> and kink lie on a gradient of desires rather than having rigid differences. </li><li>Vanilla sex isn't clearly defined because what is considered unconventional changes over time and with society, experts say.</li></ul>Kink in sex has gotten more attention over the last few years than it has in decades prior.With films and shows like <a href="https://www.insider.com/what-is-fifty-shades-of-grey-about-2016-9">"50 Shades of Grey"</a> and <a href="https://www.insider.com/bonding-intimacy-coordinator-end-50-shades-of-gray-bdsm-portrayals-2021-2">"Bonded"</a> gaining traction in the pop culture zeitgeist, some people may wonder if they need to get more creative with their sex lives. As a result, people who practice "vanilla sex" may feel self-conscious about their sex being boring or dry.Insider spoke to sex experts about where the concept of vanilla sex originated and why we shouldn't shame people who practice it. <h2>What is vanilla sex?</h2>While vanilla sex is commonly used to describe bland or boring sex, its actual definition originates in kink and <keyword id="1173975" type="ORGANIZATION" weightage="60" keywordseo="BDSM">BDSM</keyword> communities. According to Marika Leila Roux, CEO and founder of <a href="https://shibaristudy.com/">Shibari Study</a>, vanilla sex was developed to distinguish sex outside of kink from BDSM and other sexual practices considered outside of the mainstream. Over time, vanilla sex warped into a way to describe sex as mundane or conventional."When people hear the word 'vanilla' they associate it with plain or bland. People often look down upon vanilla sex because of the judgment that comes along with the label," Tyomi Morgan, a sexologist and <a href="https://sweetvibes.toys/pages/tyomi-morgan-sweetvibes-sexpert" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Sweet Vibes in-house sexpert</a>, told Insider. "It's the idea that those who participate in vanilla sex are boring, inflexible, and unwilling to try new things in sex."While the stereotypes indicate vanilla sex is boring, this is far from the truth."Having vanilla sex doesn't mean there is a lack of variety, so talking with your partner about the different things you want to try helps enhance pleasure," Kristie Overstreet, <a href="https://drkristieoverstreet.com/">a sex therapist</a>, told Insider. <h2>Anyone - including people in kink spaces - can have vanilla sex</h2>The important thing to remember about sex is that it is a spectrum. While the labels "kink" and "vanilla" can make the two seem very separate, the difference between the two is more of a gradient or ven diagram. For example, a common misconception about vanilla sex is that people who like kink can't have it. In fact, Roux told Insider most people who practice kink likely enjoy some aspects of vanilla sex. "There might be a few, particularly fetishists, who get nothing out of [vanilla sex], but the essence of kink really is about getting to explore a spectrum of experiences, and yes, most of what we tend to consider vanilla sex falls onto the spectrum," Roux said. <h2>Vanilla sex and kink have changed over time, so don't think too much about the label behind your sex</h2>Roux told Insider because what is considered "typical" is subjective and has changed over time as society has become more open to queerness, gender, and sex in general, "vanilla" isn't a fixed term. "We tend to define vanilla sex by what we consider typical or conventional. Most of us probably think of oral sex as pretty 'conventional' but remember that up until as recently as the mid 20th century, it was still considered taboo," Roux told Insider. "There is no set-in-stone answer as to what defines vanilla and what defines kinky because these are dictated by societal norms that are constantly in flux and evolving." Ultimately, the labels behind the sex don't need to be the most important thing defining your intimate life. Instead, discussing consent, boundaries, and desires with your partner can make any form of sex enjoyable.

Don't feel self-conscious about loving 'vanilla sex' - pleasure is all about variety

<ul class="summary-list"><li>Olivia Troy is an <keyword id="7000925" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="intimacy-coordinator">intimacy coordinator</keyword> for Netflix's "Bonding" and Showtime's "Billions."</li><li>Troy works with actors and directors to create safe and inventive <keyword id="6355231" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="Sex">sex</keyword> scenes.</li><li>She wants to do away with the "50 Shades of Gray" style of BDSM on film.</li></ul>Olivia Troy was an intimacy coordinator before the role had a name.It wasn't until 2018 she noticed the title being used to describe her job of helping theater and television actors navigate intense sex scenes on set.Most recently, <a href="https://oliviatroy.com/intimacy-coordinator">Troy</a> was an intimacy coordinator and writer for "Bonding," a Netflix original series about a woman who moonlights as a <a href="https://www.insider.com/what-its-like-to-be-dominatrix-wrestles-trash-talks-men-2020-2">dominatrix</a> to pay her way through graduate school.The show's second season was a standout for its handling of consent, a concept other on-screen kink portrayals tend to miss. Troy is behind this standout portrayal, and was brought on by "Bonding" creator Rightor Doyle after <a href="https://variety.com/2021/tv/features/bonding-season-2-bdsm-intimacy-coordinator-1234891879/">season one was criticized by the BDSM</a>, or <a href="https://www.insider.com/myths-about-bdsm-according-to-kink-specialists-2020-2">bondage-discipline, dominance-submission, and sadism-masochism</a>, community.Troy's job was to show kinky people in a positive light.<blockquote class="instagram-media" style="background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:540; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px); data.width~540;"><div style="padding:8px;"><div style="background:#F8F8F8; line-height:0; margin-top:40px; padding:62.4537037037% 0; text-align:center; width:100%;"><div style="background:url(data:image/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAACwAAAAsCAMAAAApWqozAAAABGdBTUEAALGPC/xhBQAAAAFzUkdCAK7OHOkAAAAMUExURczMzPf399fX1+bm5mzY9AMAAADiSURBVDjLvZXbEsMgCES5/P8/t9FuRVCRmU73JWlzosgSIIZURCjo/ad+EQJJB4Hv8BFt+IDpQoCx1wjOSBFhh2XssxEIYn3ulI/6MNReE07UIWJEv8UEOWDS88LY97kqyTliJKKtuYBbruAyVh5wOHiXmpi5we58Ek028czwyuQdLKPG1Bkb4NnM+VeAnfHqn1k4+GPT6uGQcvu2h2OVuIf/gWUFyy8OWEpdyZSa3aVCqpVoVvzZZ2VTnn2wU8qzVjDDetO90GSy9mVLqtgYSy231MxrY6I2gGqjrTY0L8fxCxfCBbhWrsYYAAAAAElFTkSuQmCC); display:block; height:44px; margin:0 auto -44px; position:relative; top:-22px; width:44px;"></div></div><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CKxHCPbDK-m" style=" color:#000; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none; word-wrap:break-word;" target="_blank"></a> <p style=" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;">A post shared by Troy (@oliviatroy)<time style=" font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px;" datetime=""></time></div></blockquote>She pulled it off, both on "Bonding" and Showtime's "Billions," using her deep understanding of power dynamics, bondage techniques, and visual art to create realistic, respectful, and empowering scenes in a society that's <a href="https://www.insider.com/americans-have-never-respected-consent-pandemic-is-time-to-change-2020-12">just now starting to understand sexual consent</a>. It's something she wants to repeat on other sets, and to see other intimacy coordinators, writers, and directors bring to their work."I think consent is something that we culturally have only recently started to be conscientious about," Troy told Insider. "Because we have that language for it now, I think that there's a responsibility to use it and, more importantly, to model it."<h2>The intersection of kink and theatrics</h2>Troy got her start in theater production, but it was her personal relationship with the BDSM community as a shibari (Japanese rope bondage artist) that makes her expertise unique. She's also dabbled in leather bondage techniques.Her artistry has proven invaluable in scenes that push traditional limits, like in "Bonding" season two when a dominatrix's client hangs from the ceiling while wrapped in full-body ropes.For the scene, Troy recruited an experienced bondage bottom, or person who receives sex, who'd been tied up before."I worked with him before [filming the scene], and we did some test rigging so he knew physically what he was going to need," Troy said.It's a process she goes through on every project."When I'm working with the actors, I'm going to each of them and talking to them privately about what their limits are, what their boundaries are, what they're comfortable with," Troy said.She then speaks with the director about their vision. Using that information, Troy crafts scenes using props, body movement, and language.Filming the precarious bondage scene, which took multiple takes, involved hoisting the actor in the air and then lowering him between tries so he could quickly remove the ropes and relieve stress points, Troy said.In addition to logistical planning, Troy led the charge in portraying the dominatrix's expertise and her ability to uphold consent while in a position of sexual power over her submissive.Decking out the set's sex dungeon with high-end leather gear and sex toys showed the dominatrix's stunts were part of her hard-earned skillset as a seasoned sex worker, according to Troy.<h2>'Women can also be in control, and the men who submit to them aren't grovelling worms'</h2>Replacing inaccurate BDSM portrayals, which play into gender stereotypes, paint kinksters as freaks, and ignore consent, is Troy's goal as an intimacy coordinator, she said.That's why she showcased a variety of relationships in "Bonding," including friendships, relationships between sex workers and their submissives, and the dynamics sex workers have with lovers in their personal lives."So much of what we see when it comes to BDSM relationships in film and television is one, they're rare, or they're not consensual, or there is some kind of extreme power dynamic that's happening," Troy said.She pointed to "50 Shades of Gray," the book and movie adaptation that explores the BDSM relationship between wealthy mogul Christian Gray and young Anastasia Steele. "He effectively stalks her and he kind of compelled her to do [kinky] things rather than allow the space for her to say yes or no to something, or give any kind of like enthusiastic consent," said Troy.She wants to do away with the trope of violent and painful BDSM experiences, and the idea that only men can hold sexual power, to help viewers see them as a way people express joy, caring, and connection.<iframe width="560" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/9iIZEXxwsjY" frameborder="0"></iframe>"I'm very excited to redefine it, to say, 'Yes, women can also be in control and the men who submit to them aren't grovelling worms,' or all that horrible language," Troy said."Instead, these men are also strong, competent, powerful people who in their own right crave the control and guidance of a dominant woman. That is also a valid representation. I want to see more of these things."

How an intimacy coordinator is putting an end to '50 Shades of Gray' BDSM portrayals

<div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table float_right"><div><div class="image on-image"><a href="http://www.cnbc.com/id/102381529"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/54ce75b769bedd1820806328-600-450/jessica-drak-asa-akira.jpg" alt="Jessica Drak Asa Akira" border="0">Getty Images Adult film actress Jessica Drake</img></a></div></div></div>CNBC went to the Adult Video News (AVN) Awards and asked some of the stars of the adult film industry how they would invest $10,000 right now.
While some of the investment ideas offered might be attractive, the rationales offered by some of the actors and actresses reflect one of the most common mistakes made in investing: the assumption that good companies make good stocks.
Let's examine a few of the <a href="http://www.cnbc.com/id/102381529">quotes CNBC got</a>.
Jesse: "Apple. [The company] is always inventing new technology [and] everyone's going to want it, so it will never go down."
Anikka Albrite: "I'm a huge fan of biotechnology, so anything that seems like it's good for the future and the health of other people."
Kelly Shibari: "Tesla, absolutely. It's a great company. It's green. They're coming out with a more consumer friendly price point for the car. I think that's a really, really good idea."
Tasha Reign: "If I had $10K to invest in a company…I think I would invest in Uber-because I use it for everything and all of the porn community is obsessed with it, and so is LA and NY. Or maybe my favorite restaurant Chipotle."
Each of these four porn stars are off to a good start in that they have a sense of how these businesses work. They're attracted to things like growth and innovation.
However, not one of these porn stars address valuation. In other words, they don't consider the possibility that all of these growth prospects are already priced into the stock.
One could argue that Starbucks makes great coffee, and they might be right. But it's going for $100 a cup, than it's probably a bad purchase.
You'd be ill-advised to make investment decisions based on what these porn stars said.
<h3>But, two good things came out of CNBC's feature.</h3>
Porn star Ron Jeremy had some pretty good insight into the <a href="http://www.cnbc.com/id/102381529/page/3">real estate market</a>:
"Real estate. I own a few condos and they all went up. See, there have been a lot of economic problems with real estate, but...you don't get off the roller coaster in the middle of the ride…I didn't. Everything has gone back again. I have a bunch of good condos. They make a lot of money. I think that, right now, is the best place to invest. Entertainment is the worst place to invest."
Jeremy exhibited a valuable trait that's lacking in most investors. He didn't sell at the low.
There are countless studies in the field of behavioral finance that repeatedly show that investors tend to by high during the manias and sell low during panic. This is a money-losing strategy.
Ultimately, investing is hard. And even if we do understand investing, it's hard to be as disciplined as Ron Jeremy.
For most people, the best idea may just be to defer to a professional.
"I would put it into my [simplified employee pension] where my financial advisor makes all the decisions," Jessica Drake told CNBC.
Check out the whole feature at <a href="http://www.cnbc.com/id/102381529/">CNBC.com</a>.

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