<ul class="summary-list"><li>I experienced preeclampsia at the end of my first pregnancy and <keyword id="14375607" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="hellp" source="Orion">HELLP</keyword> syndrome with my second.</li><li>At 39, I thought I was having perimenopause symptoms when a pregnancy test turned positive.</li></ul><p>Last August, I was a month away from turning 39 when I learned I was pregnant for the fourth time after two live births and a miscarriage.</p><p>After I delivered my youngest, my OB-GYN cautioned my husband and me against having more children, as I'd experienced <a href="https://www.insider.com/guides/health/reproductive-health/what-is-preeclampsia">preeclampsia</a> at the end of my first pregnancy and then <a href="https://www.insider.com/guides/parenting/postpartum-preeclampsia">HELLP syndrome</a> with my last. It seemed as though each time my body delivered new life, I was pushed closer to the edge of my own. I couldn't continue with the pregnancy.</p><p>It was actually my husband who suggested I take a pregnancy test after noticing my swollen breasts, moodiness, and fatigue. "Are you sure you're not pregnant?" he asked one night, eyeing me suspiciously as I ate my sons' leftover chicken tenders after eating my own dinner.</p><p>"I've been having symptoms of perimenopause for months," I said confidently. "I'm a woman of a certain age now. There's no way I'm pregnant."</p><p>But I was. </p><h2>I chose to have an <keyword id="11901426" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="abortion" source="Orion">abortion</keyword></h2><p>I found some comfort in the numbers, learning I'm just one of many who become pregnant in midlife and didn't plan to be. In 2019, women in their 30s accounted for about 31% of <a href="https://www.insider.com/guides/health/reproductive-health/at-home-abortion">abortions performed in the US</a>, and women in their 40s accounted for about 4%, <a href="https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2022/06/24/what-the-data-says-about-abortion-in-the-u-s-2/">according to CDC figures cited by the Pew Research Center</a>.</p><p>But when I explained to my boss why I needed a few days off from work, or when I shared with a trusted friend I was having an abortion, I was quick to chastise myself for getting pregnant. My shame became a silent, desperate plea for them to continue thinking of me as a responsible woman.</p><p>I felt as though I needed to justify my decision, as if the logic behind being unable to have more children because of my prior complicated pregnancies softened the edges around a harsher truth: that I didn't want to be pregnant.</p><p>I didn't want more children. I no longer wanted to rearrange and make space in my life for everything that comes with having a baby. Nearing 40, with two young boys, a marriage that may not survive the stress of a third baby, and full-time work as a clinical social worker, I felt my life was full and then some.</p><p>I had been saying no to my husband and boys for months when they'd ask about getting a dog. "No way. Having a puppy is like having a baby," I'd say, my chest tightening at the thought of additional responsibility. I knew my limits. No puppy. No baby.</p><p>I love being a mother, but it's been a journey filled with complications and an exhausting need to tap into my well of resilience. I remember bouncing my youngest in the middle of the night to help him fall back to sleep, trying not to step on the creaky floorboard so I didn't wake up my oldest, my shirt soaked in breast milk and tears. I soothed myself with a newfound mantra: "You never have to do this again."</p><p>That memory became a worry stone as I made my decision, those words grounding me, reminding me how I struggled with postpartum depression, anxiety, and PTSD, how truly sick I was after having my youngest.</p><p>The real power of those words, however, was in the permission they granted me to make a choice based on what I wanted and not what I couldn't have. And what I wanted was what I already had.</p>

I'm a 39 year-old mom with 2 kids, and I had an abortion because I didn't want to be pregnant again. I don't regret it.

<ul class="summary-list"><li>I'm the mom of an only child. </li><li>People always like to comment on why I have just one, saying things like he's spoiled. </li></ul><p>I have <a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/child-free-life-only-child-guilt-2023-6">one child</a>. </p><p>And for some reason, that fact tends to set aside conversational decorum. You name it, I’ve heard it. “Oh, the spoiled only!” “He’s your golden boy.” And once from a medical professional during a consultation: “Are you sure you don’t want another one?” Behind every question or comment, the shade is searing. How dare I <a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/i-liked-being-an-only-child-as-adult-hate-it-2022-8">not give my child a sibling</a>?</p><p>The simple answer: it’s none of your business. But here’s the longer version. </p><h2>I was diagnosed with HELLP syndrome</h2><p>My husband and I advanced our careers and grew as a couple before welcoming a new person into our family. After we’d been married five years, I found out <a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/what-i-wish-i-knew-about-pregnancy-before-getting-pregnant-2022-10">I was pregnant</a>. We were thrilled.</p><p>I was simultaneously awed and freaked out by my body’s metamorphosis. Once <a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/guides/health/reproductive-health/what-does-morning-sickness-feel-like">morning sickness</a> subsided, cravings kicked in, and all was well at first. </p><p>But in my <a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/guides/health/reproductive-health/second-trimester">second trimester</a>, each sip of water I took seemed to stay in my system, inflating me like a balloon. My tests were normal; my doctor wasn’t overly concerned. But my mother — a registered nurse — suspected something was very wrong. She begged me to stay on top of my blood pressure, but it stayed in the normal range. </p><p>Turns out, I had what’s known as <a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/guides/parenting/postpartum-preeclampsia">HELLP syndrome</a>. I got the rare diagnosis during a scheduled induction the day after my son’s due date. HELLP is a dangerous and sometimes deadly pregnancy complication that can lead to hemorrhage, seizures, and liver failure. The only remedy is for the baby to be born as soon as possible.</p><h2>The delivery was scary</h2><p>I had always planned for pain remediation, but my doctor explained to me and my husband that an epidural was impossible. My blood platelets were now dangerously low, and a spinal injection might cause spinal hemorrhaging and paralysis.</p><p>The rest is mostly a blotted-out blur to me, but after 15 hours, my baby boy arrived. Only after the fact could I fully comprehend how scary his birth really was. Every day, I’m grateful I made it through and that my son was born at term and healthy. </p><p>Later, my doctor advised me that I was at an increased risk of HELLP should I become pregnant again. I was not a risk my husband or I wanted to take.</p><h2>He's OK being an only child</h2><p>It’s been the honor of a lifetime to raise my child. Once he was old enough to fully understand his birth story, he accepted his “only” status without quibble or question. He’s never expressed sorrow or regret that he lacks a sibling, and <a target="_blank" href="https://www.jstor.org/stable/352302?mag=myth-lonely-only-child&amp;Search=yes&amp;resultItemClick=true&amp;searchText=Only&amp;searchText=Children&amp;searchText=and&amp;searchText=Personality&amp;searchText=Development:&amp;searchText=A&amp;searchText=Quantitative&amp;searchText=Review,&amp;searchText=Denise&amp;searchTe"><u>studies show</u></a> common myths about maladjustment or selfishness in single children are just that: myths. </p><p>Several years after his birth, there was a barrage of inquiries, most along the lines of “When will you try for another?” Now that I’ll soon be an empty nester, I field them again. </p><p>Sometimes, I gently recount to them the circumstances of my son’s birth and that I chose not to risk another pregnancy to ensure I was around for the child I had. If I’m especially annoyed, I retort that having my only child nearly killed me. That tends to end the conversation. </p><p>Raising kids, or even just one, is hard. The choices we make to get them here, keep them here, and prepare them for launch are deeply personal, no matter how many we have. </p><p>Let’s extend some empathy and think before asking irrelevant, invasive questions about choices that are not our own. It might benefit all of us as we fumble through this thing called parenthood.</p>

I have an only child. It's none of your business why. 

<ul class="summary-list"><li><strong>I've always felt I missed out because I was an only child.</strong></li><li><strong>When it came to having kids, I wanted a big, noisy family.</strong></li></ul><p><span>I wasn't always </span><a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/i-liked-being-an-only-child-as-adult-hate-it-2022-8"><span>an only child</span></a><span>; I became one when I was 4 and my brother, who was 18 months old, died. I was too young to remember him, but I always longed for the brother I didn't get to grow up with.</span></p><p><span>With the tragedy of his death too much to bear, my </span><a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/wife-and-i-divorced-relationship-wound-down-2023-7"><span>parents divorced</span></a><span> soon after, and my mom became a single mom. We moved in with my grandparents, and although I adored them, I often got bored and lonely. I did get pretty good at entertaining myself, racing frogs from the pond in our yard, helping my grandfather in his vegetable garden, or talking to make-believe fairies in the apple orchard.</span></p><p><span>Three of my cousins lived on the farm next door, and I spent as much time there as possible, grateful for the company of my own age. Even when we moved to a nearby town, I constantly pestered my mom to see them. It was way more fun hanging out with them, playing </span><a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/guides/home/best-cheap-outdoor-entertaining-essentials"><span>backyard games</span></a><span>, and enjoying noisy dinners than when the two of us were in our quiet house. </span></p><p><span>I was envious that they had each other and knew when it came to my turn to have kids, I wanted a </span><a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/only-child-married-big-family-grateful-attention-2024-4"><span>big, noisy family</span></a><span>.</span></p><h2><span>My first birth was traumatic</span></h2><p><span>The birth of my first daughter was traumatic as I developed symptoms of </span><a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/guides/parenting/postpartum-preeclampsia"><span>HELLP Syndrome</span></a><span>, a life-threatening illness considered a variant of preeclampsia. This resulted in me needing a C-section under general anesthesia and a 10-day stint in hospital for both of us. Thankfully, we were both OK.</span></p><p><span>A year later, I got pregnant but miscarried. After two more miscarriages, </span><a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/midwife-language-procedures-miscarriage-or-termination-can-be-the-same-2022-6"><span>D&amp;Cs</span></a><span>, fertility testing, and even surgery to remove scar tissue after being diagnosed with Asherman's Syndrome, which is a rare condition that can affect the ability to stay pregnant, it seemed like the odds of having more kids were stacked against us.</span></p><p><span>"Perhaps you're only destined to have one child," my mother said one day. It came from a good place, as she could see the toll it was taking on me and my husband. Desperate for my daughter not to be </span><a target="_blank" href="https://www.businessinsider.com/only-child-parent-wish-people-less-judgmental-2024-4"><span>an only child</span></a><span>, I couldn't give up.</span></p><h2><strong>Despite the challenges, I didn't want to give up trying for another child</strong></h2><p><span>Three years after my first daughter was born, I got pregnant again, and this time, it stuck. After what happened the first time, I lived in constant fear something might go wrong again. But my fears were unfounded, and we were blessed with a healthy baby girl — and a sibling for my daughter.</span></p><p><span>I was thrilled, but I wanted more children. However, my husband thought we were lucky to have two healthy daughters, so why push it? For the sake of my health, marriage, and sanity, I agreed we should stop there.</span></p><p><span>Almost 15 years ago, we moved from the UK to Singapore and then New York. My dad eventually remarried and had kids who are much younger than me, but my mom didn't remarry and lives alone. As the years go by, and she gets older and her grandkids, whom she adores, grow up fast, I feel increasingly guilty that we live far away. Despite the distance, we have a close bond, and I'm thankful for that.</span></p><p><span>Although I don't love being an only child, it did have some benefits, from always being the favorite to never having to share toys or deal with sibling rivalry. These days, when my kids are driving me mad because they're arguing, getting angry when one takes the other's phone charger, or accusing us of having favorites, I remember how lucky I am to have them and remind them how lucky they are, too.</span></p>

I was desperate to have a second baby because I disliked being an only child

<ul class="summary-list"><li><strong>Jamie Grumet went viral for breastfeeding her then-3-year-old in 2012.</strong></li><li><strong>She says many parenting "choices" are not really intentional because society does not support mothers.</strong></li></ul><p>In the<a href="https://time.com/3450144/behind-the-cover-are-you-mom-enough/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"> photo</a>, her 3-year-old son stands on a stool, craning to latch onto her breast. </p><p>It wasn't the photo Jamie Grumet thought that Time magazine would run. The staged pose wasn't the "best representation" of what it's like to breastfeed a toddler, she said. Still, when the photo of her breastfeeding her son, Aram, ran on a 2012 cover of the magazine with the words, "Are you mom enough?" Grumet went viral.</p><p>Whoopi Goldberg and Elisabeth Hasselbeck<a href="https://abc7chicago.com/archive/8658210/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"> ridiculed</a> the photo on "The View," Rush Limbaugh memed it, TMZ<a href="https://www.tmz.com/watch/0-en71okzy/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"> chased down</a> Grumet and her family in a Los Angeles park, and men mailed letters, calling Grumet a "pedophile" to her apartment along with religious paraphernalia. Many of those letters said, "I need to submit and go to my husband, or they tried to call my ex-husband a beta male," she told Insider.</p><div type="image" title="Time Magazine cover" height="682" width="910" msid="100329980" hostid="261"></div><p>Aram is now a confident 14-year-old. And by the way, he loves the photo of himself as a breastfeeding toddler. </p><p>"Everybody was so worried he was going to get made fun of. That never happened because kids aren't the assholes everybody makes them out to be — their parents are," said Grumet.</p><h2><strong>Grumet identifies with attachment parenting</strong></h2><p>Grumet was a proponent of pediatrician William Sears and registered nurse Martha Sears' ideas on attachment-parenting, which they detailed in their 2001 book of the same name. In the decade since the cover ran, the ideas have become more widely adopted. </p><p>Dr. Sears' <a href="https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/parenting/attachment-parenting/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">website</a> describes the parenting style as "being responsive and sensitive to your baby's needs, nurturing your child through touch, and creating a bond that allows the child's needs to be easily deciphered and cared for" — qualities that most parents incorporate whether or not they identify with attachment parenting. </p><p>More specifically, people with an attachment-parenting style <a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/attachment-parenting#basic-principles" target="_blank" rel="noopener">commonly cosleep, babywear, and practice extended breastfeeding</a>. The sight of dads<a href="https://www.growingyourbaby.com/chris-hemsworth-elsa-pataky-arrive-in-la-with-their-crew/chris-hemsworth-carries-his-daughter-india-and-son-at-lax/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"> wearing</a> baby carriers is common now, as are magazine images featuring<a href="https://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/olivia-wilde-breastfeeding-photos-us-glamour-baby-pics" target="_blank" rel="noopener"> breastfeeding</a> and<a href="https://www.elle.com/culture/celebrities/a25628292/rachel-mcadams-breastpump-magazine-cover/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"> pumping</a>. </p><p>The American Academy of Pediatrics updated its<a href="https://www.aap.org/en/news-room/news-releases/aap/2022/american-academy-of-pediatrics-calls-for-more-support-for-breastfeeding-mothers-within-updated-policy-recommendations/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"> breastfeeding recommendations</a> last year, detailing that breastfeeding is encouraged exclusively "for the first 6 months" and recognized the benefits of breastfeeding "up to 2 years, especially in the mother."<br /><br />It did not have guidance for mothers who breastfeed until the age of 4, which is when Grumet <a href="https://www.today.com/parents/times-breast-feeding-cover-mom-has-no-regrets-1c7662776" target="_blank" rel="noopener">stopped breastfeeding her son.</a></p><p>"Mothers who choose to breastfeed beyond the first year need support from their medical-care providers, as well as protections against workplace barriers," the AAP said.</p><p>Grumet felt that many of the women who reacted negatively to her cover in 2012 were expressing a sense of shame or guilt around their own parenting practices. Breastfeeding, bottle-feeding and other parenting decisions aren't really a "choice" though, she added. </p><p>"Some people who are feeling guilty about doing one thing — insert whatever you want — they don't have a choice," she said. "You haven't failed your child in whatever parenting decisions that…you've made, that you haven't made because you have no other choice. Society has failed you."</p><p>Goldberg, for instance, criticized Grumet by saying that breastfeeding her son at 3 was "insane," but has<a href="https://twitter.com/TheView/status/1630980416797540374" target="_blank" rel="noopener"> spoken</a> about the difficulties in breastfeeding her own daughter 50 years ago.</p><p>"Mothers internalize societal failures as personal failures," Grumet, who has a background in theological anthropology, said. "We try to tell mothers how to parent their children, but then we don't support them in doing it." </p><p>Grumet went through her own struggles to feed. Aram was born prematurely at 31 weeks of gestation after she developed HELLP syndrome, a dangerous form of preeclampsia. </p><p>She was essentially in a "magnesium coma" after her C-section and had lactation induced by her ex-husband and sister-in-law, who placed a breast pump on her while she lay in recovery, something she is grateful for, she said.</p><p>Grumet also tandem nursed her son Samuel, whom she adopted at age 4 from Ethiopia.</p><h2><strong>Grumet's family trauma shaped her parenting style</strong></h2><p>The story of Grumet's larger family is also shaped by attachment. Her older sister and brother were born in the '70s, when the pediatric recommendation was to "put the babies on the schedule, leave them in a crib, and there was a lack of touch," she said.</p><p>Her mother suffered mastitis, weaning Jamie's sister from breastfeeding at two weeks and her brother at two months of age. Grumet said that the family believes that mental health issues later in her brother's life could have been exacerbated by attachment issues.</p><p>While breastfeeding does have some potential impacts on psychological development, the authors of a <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6096620/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">2018 review noted</a> that "caution is needed" when explaining how it can impact a person specifically, since it's difficult to control for <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3753522/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">socioeconomic</a> and other factors.</p><p>"My brother ended up having a bad drug problem that [my mother] thinks was related to that," Grumet said, noting that her brother was shot and <a href="https://www.sfgate.com/bayarea/article/TRI-VALLEY-Armed-Suspect-Killed-In-Gunfight-2772159.php" target="_blank" rel="noopener">killed</a> in 2000 by San Francisco police. Authorities later ruled it a sucide-by-cop incident after he provoked a police response. He was 25.</p><div type="image" title="Samuel and Aram with their grandmother at uncle John's grave" height="2268" width="3023" msid="100329983" hostid="261"></div><p>"The impact of trauma rarely comes down to a single factor," said Lucy Hutner, MD, a reproductive psychiatrist in New York City. "But one protective factor that stands out is the degree of social support — the depth to which each person feels like other people are really there for them when they really need it."</p><p>Grumet was born 11 years after her brother, and said her mother took a different approach to raising her. For instance, she was weaned at 5 or 6 years of age and coslept with her parents until 8. </p><p>"She just parented me completely intuitively," she added. </p><h2><strong>Her son is now almost 15 and proud of his viral moment</strong></h2><p>Aram has a framed photo of the Time cover on his wall that "he's never not been proud of." </p><p>The viral outrage cycle surrounding the photo now seems short-lived set against the multigenerational story of the Grumet family. </p><p>"What's happening in society is we're telling these women to endure things that they shouldn't be enduring," Grumet said of not supporting mothers despite what choices they make. </p><p>Today's controversies have moved on to new topics — such as gentle parenting, screen time, and cosleeping — but Grumet's advice for the mothers coming behind her remains clear.</p><p>"My mom always says, 'You know, you have to parent the way that you know because you know your child the best,'" she said. </p><p>"Society may say terrible things to you, which I've seen in the comment section of things, but they're not going to be there when the coroner shows up for your child," Grumet continued. "You have to own your own decisions. Those people aren't parenting your children."<br /><br /><br /></p>

After an image of her breastfeeding her then-3-year-old son went viral, Jamie Grumet was ridiculed. Today, moms still have an impossible task, she says.

<ul class="summary-list"><li>Preeclampsia can also develop after childbirth and cause seizures and other <keyword id="11894571" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="100" keywordseo="health" source="Orion">health</keyword> complications.</li><li>Common symptoms include severe headache, blurry vision, and swelling in your face and limbs.</li><li>Treatment for <keyword id="12292467" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="postpartum" source="Orion">postpartum</keyword> preeclampsia may involve IV or oral medication and a brief hospital stay.</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.insider.com/what-is-preeclampsia" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Preeclampsia</a> is a blood pressure condition that impacts about <a href="https://medlineplus.gov/genetics/condition/preeclampsia/#frequency" target="_blank" rel="noopener">5% to 8%</a> of people during <keyword id="6357793" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="pregnancy" source="Orion">pregnancy</keyword>. You might think you're no longer at risk after giving birth, but preeclampsia can still develop once your baby is born.</p><p>Postpartum preeclampsia may affect anywhere from <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6922052/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">less than 1% to nearly 28%</a> of people after childbirth, experts believe, though research on this condition is limited compared with research on preeclampsia that occurs during pregnancy.</p><h2>Symptoms</h2><p>Postpartum preeclampsia often sets in during the first <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6922052/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">48 hours after delivery</a>, but you can develop it for up to six weeks after childbirth. A <a href="https://academic.oup.com/biolreprod/article/100/1/187/5053797" target="_blank" rel="noopener">small 2019 study</a> suggests postpartum preeclampsia may actually develop near the end of pregnancy but go unnoticed until after you give birth.</p><p>Symptoms of postpartum preeclampsia include:</p><ul><li>Severe headache</li><li>Blurry vision or seeing spots</li><li>Swelling in your arms, legs, or face</li><li>Trouble breathing </li><li>Abdominal pain</li><li>Nausea and vomiting </li></ul><p>Headaches are the most common symptom for people with postpartum preeclampsia, with one <a href="https://journals.lww.com/greenjournal/Abstract/2011/11000/Delayed_Postpartum_Preeclampsia_and_Eclampsia_.19.aspx" target="_blank" rel="noopener">small 2011 study</a> reporting that nearly 70% of people experienced them. But it's also possible to be asymptomatic — a <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6922052/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">small 2020 study</a> found that just over 6% of people diagnosed with postpartum preeclampsia didn't notice any symptoms.</p><p><strong>Note:</strong> You can experience postpartum preeclampsia even if you didn't have preeclampsia during pregnancy. In fact, around <a href="https://academic.oup.com/biolreprod/article/100/1/187/5053797?login=true" target="_blank" rel="noopener">6% to 10%</a> of people with postpartum preeclampsia may not have had any previous preeclampsia symptoms.</p><p>In a <a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/s12884-017-1245-4" target="_blank" rel="noopener">2017 study</a>, some new parents said that when they reported symptoms of preeclampsia after childbirth, medical staff assumed their symptoms related to general postpartum concerns. Some of the parents experienced medical complications as a result, which emphasizes the need for increased awareness of postpartum preeclampsia. </p><p>In short, it's unclear how often symptoms of this condition go unrecognized — but it's important to advocate for yourself when your symptoms concern you. </p><p>"If someone is being sent home, but they still don't feel right, they should insist on being seen by an OB-GYN directly," says <a href="https://renitawhitemd.com/about/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Renita White</a>, an OB-GYN at Georgia Obstetrics and Gynecology.</p><p>If you're worried you might be experiencing postpartum preeclampsia, you can also track your blood pressure by taking readings at home with <a href="https://www.insider.com/guides/health/best-blood-pressure-monitor" target="_blank" rel="noopener">your own blood pressure monitor</a>.</p><h2>Causes and risk factors</h2><p>Experts don't know the exact causes of preeclampsia, but they <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0165037819300701" target="_blank" rel="noopener">propose</a> that the <a href="https://www.insider.com/when-does-placenta-form-pregnancy-like-a-mother-2018-7" target="_blank" rel="noopener">placenta</a>, the organ that provides nutrition and oxygen to the fetus during pregnancy, plays an important role.</p><p>Childbirth used to be <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0736467908004988" target="_blank" rel="noopener">considered</a> the standard treatment for preeclampsia, but experts now recognize that preeclampsia can develop even after you've delivered your baby and the placenta.</p><p>As it turns out, the placenta's impacts on your body can linger even after the organ is gone. According to a <a href="https://academic.oup.com/biolreprod/article/100/1/187/5053797?login=true" target="_blank" rel="noopener">small 2019 study</a>, differences in the placenta before birth were connected to changes in the immune system that may have brought on symptoms of preeclampsia after the placenta was delivered.</p><h2>Risk factors for postpartum preeclampsia</h2><p>Certain risk factors can also increase your chances of developing postpartum preeclampsia, including: </p><ul><li><strong>Previous preeclampsia. </strong>If you had preeclampsia during a previous pregnancy, you may be <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0736467908004988" target="_blank" rel="noopener">more likely</a> to have postpartum preeclampsia. </li><li><strong>BMI.</strong> Your chances of developing postpartum preeclampsia <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6922052/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">are higher</a> if your BMI, or body mass index, is 30 or above.</li><li><strong>Age.</strong> If you're 40 years of age or older, you might have a <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0002937813019984" target="_blank" rel="noopener">higher chance</a> of developing postpartum preeclampsia. </li><li><strong>Race.</strong> Coming from a Black racial background is <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6922052/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">connected</a> to higher chances of developing postpartum preeclampsia. </li><li><strong>Delivery method.</strong> Having a <a href="https://www.insider.com/how-long-does-a-c-section-take" target="_blank" rel="noopener">cesarean section</a> delivery is <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6922052/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">linked</a> to higher risk for postpartum preeclampsia. </li><li><strong>Gestational diabetes.</strong> If you received a <a href="https://www.insider.com/gestational-diabetes" target="_blank" rel="noopener">gestational diabetes</a> diagnosis during pregnancy, you have a <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0002937813019984" target="_blank" rel="noopener">higher chance</a> of developing postpartum preeclampsia.</li></ul><h2>Possible complications</h2><p>Untreated preeclampsia can become life-threatening, so it's important to reach out for medical help if you notice any symptoms of the condition.</p><p>"Postpartum preeclampsia is a complex diagnosis that can have serious repercussions," says White.</p><p>Many of the complications associated with postpartum preeclampsia overlap with those associated with preeclampsia. Getting evaluation and treatment as soon as you recognize the signs can lower your chances of experiencing: </p><ul><li><strong>Eclampsia.</strong> Preeclampsia can lead to eclampsia, which <a href="https://journals.lww.com/greenjournal/Abstract/2005/02000/Diagnosis,_Prevention,_and_Management_of_Eclampsia.31.aspx" target="_blank" rel="noopener">causes</a> seizures and convulsions. About <a href="https://www.ajog.org/article/S0002-9378(20)31201-1/fulltext" target="_blank" rel="noopener">one in every five</a> cases of eclampsia happen in the postpartum period.</li><li><strong>HELLP syndrome.</strong> HELLP — hemolysis, elevated liver enzymes, and low platelets — syndrome is a severe form of preeclampsia. Signs include abdominal pain and nausea. <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0009898115300267" target="_blank" rel="noopener">About 30%</a> of HELLP syndrome cases happen after childbirth.</li></ul><p>Meanwhile, <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0270929510001804" target="_blank" rel="noopener">research from 2011</a> suggests the following could be longer-term complications of preeclampsia:</p><ul><li><a href="https://www.insider.com/what-is-diabetes" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Diabetes</a></li><li>Chronic <a href="https://www.insider.com/hypertension" target="_blank" rel="noopener">hypertension</a>, or high blood pressure</li><li><a href="https://www.insider.com/signs-of-kidney-problem-2019-4" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Kidney disease</a></li><li><a href="https://www.insider.com/thyroid-symptoms" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Hypothyroidism</a> </li><li>Problems with memory </li></ul><p>A <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6922052/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">large 2019 study</a> also suggests that because of its connection to standard preeclampsia, postpartum preeclampsia could increase your risk for heart disease in the future — but <a href="https://www.insider.com/how-to-lower-blood-pressure" target="_blank" rel="noopener">taking steps to manage your blood pressure</a> can help reduce these risks.</p><h2>Diagnosis and treatment</h2><p>Preeclampsia is diagnosed the same way whether you're currently pregnant or have already delivered your baby, says <a href="https://www.drjenniferconti.com/about" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Jenn Conti</a>, an OB-GYN and medical advisor for <a href="https://modernfertility.com/blog/author/dr-jenn-conti/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Modern Fertility</a>.</p><p>Learning to recognize the key symptoms of preeclampsia noted above can help you get a prompt diagnosis. Checking your own blood pressure can also give you a good idea of when it's time to call your doctor or midwife. </p><p>A healthcare professional can diagnose preeclampsia during a postpartum checkup based on a <a href="https://www.insider.com/high-blood-pressure" target="_blank" rel="noopener">high blood pressure</a> reading, typically 140/90 mm Hg or above. </p><p>They may order blood and urine tests to confirm a postpartum preeclampsia diagnosis.</p><p>If you have postpartum preeclampsia, your doctor may want to observe symptoms more closely before you begin treatment, but they may recommend beginning treatment right away.</p><p><strong>Note: </strong>Postpartum preeclampsia can require admission to the hospital, even if it's just for a few hours to do some tests, says White.</p><p>Treatment <a href="https://www.ajog.org/article/S0002-9378(20)31201-1/fulltext" target="_blank" rel="noopener">can involve</a>:</p><ul><li><strong>IV medication to lower your blood pressure.</strong> The first step of treatment is usually lowering and stabilizing your blood pressure. Your doctor might use medicines called antihyperintensive agents, such as <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6133790/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">hydralazine or labetalol</a>, to do this, especially if your blood pressure is <a href="https://www.ajog.org/article/S0002-9378(20)31201-1/fulltext" target="_blank" rel="noopener">160/110 mm Hg or higher</a>.</li><li><strong>Oral medication.</strong> Once your blood pressure lowers to at least 140/90 mm Hg,  you might take a prescription medication to help lower your blood pressure further and keep it level.</li></ul><p>Some medicines you might receive for postpartum preeclampsia include:</p><ul><li><strong>Magnesium sulfate</strong>, an anticonvulsant used to prevent and control seizures. Since seizures are a risk of preeclampsia, your doctor might use magnesium sulfate to reduce that risk.</li><li><strong>Diuretics</strong>, which promote urination. These medications <a href="https://www.ajog.org/article/S0002-9378(20)31201-1/fulltext" target="_blank" rel="noopener">may help lower your blood pressure</a> by helping your body get rid of excess fluids.</li></ul><p>Experiencing postpartum preeclampsia once can mean you have a <a href="https://www.ajog.org/article/S0002-9378(20)31201-1/fulltext" target="_blank" rel="noopener">higher risk</a> of high blood pressure going forward. Your doctor might recommend monitoring your blood pressure at home to keep ahead of any symptoms before they become severe.</p><h2>Prevention</h2><p>Many of the approaches used to lower the risk of preeclampsia will also help lower your risk of postpartum preeclampsia.</p><p>Screening and consistent check-ups can help with prevention. "We now screen every pregnant person for preeclampsia at the start of pregnancy to see if they qualify for low dose daily aspirin beginning at 12 weeks gestation," says Conti.</p><p>The following could help reduce your chances of developing postpartum preeclampsia:</p><ul><li><strong>Aspirin.</strong> If you're considered to be high risk, your doctor <a href="https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/preventing-preeclampsia-may-be-as-simple-as-taking-an-aspirin-202111092634" target="_blank" rel="noopener">might recommend</a> aspirin to help prevent preeclampsia. </li><li><strong>Lifestyle changes.</strong> Habits that help you maintain a healthy weight for you, such as eating nutritionally dense foods and getting regular exercise, <a href="https://www.researchgate.net/profile/John-Apaza/publication/343362752_New_Approach_for_the_Prevention_of_Preeclampsia/links/5f253fb0a6fdcccc439fe1de/New-Approach-for-the-Prevention-of-Preeclampsia.pdf" target="_blank" rel="noopener">could help lower your risk</a> of developing preeclampsia. </li><li><strong>Hydration</strong>. Drinking enough water <a href="https://www.researchgate.net/profile/John-Apaza/publication/343362752_New_Approach_for_the_Prevention_of_Preeclampsia/links/5f253fb0a6fdcccc439fe1de/New-Approach-for-the-Prevention-of-Preeclampsia.pdf" target="_blank" rel="noopener">could help</a> lower your risk of developing high blood pressure during and after pregnancy. The <a href="https://www.acog.org/womens-health/experts-and-stories/ask-acog/how-much-water-should-i-drink-during-pregnancy" target="_blank" rel="noopener">American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists</a> recommends drinking 64 to 96 ounces of water each day during pregnancy.</li><li><strong>Calcium.</strong> Taking calcium supplements during pregnancy <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4785477/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">may help</a> lower your risk of preeclampsia. </li></ul><p>You can do all these things and still develop preeclampsia — and that doesn't mean you did anything wrong. Many of the ways pregnancy impacts your body are out of your control.</p><p>Your doctor or midwife can offer more guidance on lowering your risk of postpartum preeclampsia, along with recommendations specific to your needs and situation.</p><h2>Insider's takeaway</h2><p>Knowing preeclampsia remains a possibility even after delivery can help you stay aware of the signs of this potentially life-threatening condition. </p><p>"It's scarier postpartum because people often think they're out of the woods and may not be screening for it, so it can go unnoticed for longer," says Conti. </p><p>If you've just had a baby and think you might have preeclampsia, call your OB-GYN or seek emergency care as soon as possible.</p>

You can still develop preeclampsia after giving birth — here's the signs to help you get treatment right away

<ul class="summary-list"><li><a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/facebook-papers-mark-zuckerberg-frances-haugen-leaked-docs-2021-10">17 news outlets</a> reported further findings from <keyword id="11892960" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="facebook" source="Orion">Facebook</keyword> <keyword id="12110043" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="whistleblower" source="Orion">whistleblower</keyword> <keyword id="12236552" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="frances-haugen" source="Orion">Frances Haugen</keyword>'s leaked internal documents.</li><li>Zuckerberg helped reinstate an inaccurate anti-abortion video after Republican politicians protested its removal, records reviewed by the <a href="https://www.ft.com/content/67ad6eda-eb1c-4c97-bb3e-464c65bd63e7">Financial Times</a> reveal. </li></ul><p>New revelations from Facebook whistleblower Frances Haugen's leaked internal documents show that employees repeatedly urged CEO <keyword id="11896062" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="mark-zuckerberg" source="Orion">Mark Zuckerberg</keyword> to stop bending content moderation rules for politicians, <a href="https://www.ft.com/content/67ad6eda-eb1c-4c97-bb3e-464c65bd63e7">The Financial Times</a> reported. </p><p>Among <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/facebook-papers-mark-zuckerberg-frances-haugen-leaked-docs-2021-10">The Facebook Papers</a> is an internal memo that alleges Zuckerberg was directly involved in a 2019 decision to reinstate a video that falsely claimed abortions are "never medically necessary," according to documents reviewed by the FT. </p><p>The inaccurate post was originally removed by a Facebook moderator, leading to backlash from Republican figureheads, the report says. </p><p>Facebook's decision to put the post back up was one of several examples cited by employees who claim executives intervene in <keyword id="11919168" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="misinformation" source="Orion">misinformation</keyword> removal "when they see that they could harm powerful political actors," according to The Financial Times. </p><p>Facebook did not immediately respond to Insider's request for comment.</p><p>Facebook spokesperson Joe Osborne told The Financial Times that, "at the heart of these stories is a premise which is false."</p><p>"Yes, we're a business and we make profit, but the idea that we do so at the expense of people's safety or wellbeing misunderstands where our own commercial interests lie," the statement continued. "The truth is we've invested $13 billion and have over 40,000 people to do one job: keep people safe on Facebook." </p><p>The anti-abortion video referenced in Haugen's latest leak is likely a speech made by anti-abortion campaigner Lila Rose, who <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/facebook-removes-anti-abortion-factcheck-after-senators-complain-2019-9">falsely claimed "abortion is never medically necessary" on the platform</a> in 2019. Three doctors working for <a href="https://healthfeedback.org/claimreview/lila-rose-claim-that-abortion-is-never-medically-necessary-is-inaccurate-it-is-necessary-in-certain-cases-to-preserve-mothers-life-young-america-foundation/?fbclid=IwAR0pTsDR8_Dn__Svm87xAVz461QSQucidq4X9V_semBuWcrvtCSk_u10H2s">Health Feedback</a> said that Rose's claim was inaccurate, explaining that conditions such as placenta previa and HELLP syndrome can make an <keyword id="11901426" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="abortion" source="Orion">abortion</keyword> necessary to prevent the mother's death.</p><p>Facebook initially attached the doctors' fact-check onto the video and restricted the page's distribution, prompting Rose to accuse it of censorship, Insider's Isobel Hamilton previously <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/facebook-removes-anti-abortion-factcheck-after-senators-complain-2019-9">reported</a>. </p><p>Four Republican senators, including Ted Cruz and Josh Hawley, wrote to Mark Zuckerberg in response, arguing that the doctors who wrote the fact-check were not impartial, therefore violating the code of conduct established by the International Fact-Checking Network. </p><p>"The science of medicine is not subjective, and a strongly held personal belief should never outweigh scientific evidence, override standards of medical care, or drive policy that puts a person's health and life at risk," The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists and Physicians for Reproductive Health said in a <a href="https://www.acog.org/news/news-releases/2019/09/abortion-can-be-medically-necessary">statement</a>. </p><p>"As physicians, we are focused on protecting the health and lives of the patients for whom we provide care. Without question, abortion can be medically necessary."</p>

Mark Zuckerberg reportedly helped reinstate a video that falsely claims abortion is 'never medically necessary,' caving to complaints of Republican politicians

<ul class="summary-list"><li>One of <keyword id="11920974" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="sarah-paulson" source="Orion">Sarah Paulson</keyword>'s lines from "<keyword id="11899526" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="american-horror-story" source="Orion">American Horror Story</keyword>: Asylum" has gone viral on <keyword id="11894125" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="60" keywordseo="tiktok" source="Orion">TikTok</keyword>.</li><li>The line, "the killer is escaping," has been circulating on the app since it was uploaded in July.</li></ul><p>One of Sarah Paulson's now-iconic lines from Ryan Murphy's "American Horror Story: Asylum" has gone viral - and stayed viral for months - on TikTok. The audio of Paulson screaming "Help! He's escaping! The killer is escaping!" has been inescapable on the app over the past few months, reviving the line nearly a decade after it originally aired.</p><p>Memes and trends using the sound started spreading in July. The most popular TikTok audio of the clip has been used in over 371,000 videos on the platform, with celebrities like <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@billieeilish/video/7014570556607433990?_d=secCgYIASAHKAESPgo8raw0dXyLl2Wg1rUp98dVgF%2F4M5cSVeN0Wev3j0Rk62qVxSS4WgfKRJ5Y8xxh2L1gG3zsxKzGj503ksGKGgA%3D&amp;checksum=5e6ba2c7a301f8f23c8fc6550070baecec6e9d9bbec5a3763135ec7331c07e1f&amp;language=en&amp;preview_pb=0&amp;sec_user_id=MS4wLjABAAAAWRdNYvHqD1jJ9Jy-4TKsSfnha-rtvazkqI9c3Wrm0kwUxKg2_JIRjA5dQq-wuGtl&amp;share_app_id=1233&amp;share_item_id=7021225909378239749&amp;share_link_id=C3C33CEE-0CEF-4A29-AED8-FD8A08EE35D8&amp;source=h5_m&amp;timestamp=1634835597&amp;tt_from=copy&amp;u_code=d6i61gl5m8djkl&amp;user_id=6701362712989877253&amp;utm_campaign=client_share&amp;utm_medium=ios&amp;utm_source=copy&amp;_r=1&amp;is_copy_url=0&amp;is_from_webapp=v1&amp;sender_device=pc&amp;sender_web_id=6891259809896056326amp;is_from_webapp=v1&amp;sender_device=pc&amp;sender_web_id=6891259809896056326">Billie Eilish</a> and <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lizzo/video/7010457947423673606?referer_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.insider.com%2F&amp;referer_video_id=7010457947423673606&amp;refer=embeder=embed">Lizzo</a> using it. </p><p>It's even reached such a critical mass that <a href="https://www.insider.com/sarah-paulson-american-horror-story-asylum-tiktok-killer-is-escaping-2021-10">Paulson herself has acknowledged it</a>, saying in an Instagram Live that she didn't think that people using the sound knew that it was her. </p><p>Here's how "the killer is escaping" went from a single line in "Asylum" to one of the biggest TikTok sounds of 2021. </p><h2><strong>The 'killer is escaping' line is originally from the 2nd season of 'American Horror Story'</strong></h2><p>"Asylum" is the second installment of "American Horror Story." The 13-episode season was the first to mark the show as an anthology, telling a completely different story from the first season of the show. </p><p>The season, which premiered in October 2012, is focused on the fictional mental institution Briarcliff Manor and takes place predominately in the 1960s. Paulson's character, Lana Winters, is a journalist investigating the institution's treatment of its inmates until one of the nuns running it catches and commits her. </p><p>The "killer is escaping" line comes from the season's second episode, in which Paulson's character Lana believes that Kit, played by Evan Peters, is a killer. She foils an escape attempt by calling for guards. </p><p>"Help, he's escaping!" Paulson screams as sirens blare in the background. "The killer is escaping! Help me!<strong> </strong></p><iframe width="560" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/36i_Ozvw6Rw" frameborder="0"></iframe><p>"The killer is escaping" doesn't appear to have a storied meme history prior to its TikTok resurgence, although Paulson <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lylilrabe/video/7021237180962000134?sender_device=pc&amp;sender_web_id=6891259809896056326&amp;is_from_webapp=v1&amp;is_copy_url=0s_copy_url=0">said in the Instagram Live</a> that she had faced backlash from fans on Twitter for her character's actions in the scene.</p><h2><strong>The line has been used in multiple waves of memes</strong></h2><p>"The killer is escaping" crossed over to TikTok in a major way in July when TikTok user @horrorcovwn, whose username appears to reference the third season of "American Horror Story," uploaded the clip, accompanied by an on-screen transcription interspersed with emoji. To date, the video has amassed 1.1 million likes and over 12.6 million views. </p><blockquote class="tiktok-embed" cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@horrorcovwn/video/6980067177185529094" data-video-id="6980067177185529094" style="max-width: 605px;min-width: 325px;"> <section> <a target="_blank" title="@horrorcovwn" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@horrorcovwn">@horrorcovwn</a> <p>posting tommorow lads <a title="simlishsessions" target="_blank" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/simlishsessions">#SimlishSessions</a> <a title="workthisway" target="_blank" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/workthisway">#WorkThisWay</a> <a title="ahs" target="_blank" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/ahs">#ahs</a> <a title="americanhorrorstory" target="_blank" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/americanhorrorstory">#americanhorrorstory</a> <a title="foryoupage" target="_blank" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/foryoupage">#foryoupage</a> <a title="fyp" target="_blank" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/fyp">#fyp</a></p> <a target="_blank" title="♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi" href="https://www.tiktok.com/music/helllp-the-killer-is-ey-scape-ing-6980067072520850181">♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi</a> </section> </blockquote> <p>Since then, the sound - labeled on TikTok as "helllp the killer is ey scape ing" in a parody of Paulson's pronunciation - has been used in over 371,000 videos.  </p><p>Videos using the sound began to go viral in July, August, or September. At that point, users typically made videos superimposing the sound on videos of people or objects "running away," whether they were shopping carts zipping by in a storm, toothbrushes vibrating around on bathroom counters, or babies propped up by their parents.</p><blockquote class="tiktok-embed" cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@oliverbath01/video/6990713488062598406" data-video-id="6990713488062598406" style="max-width: 605px;min-width: 325px;"> <section> <a target="_blank" title="@oliverbath01" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@oliverbath01">@oliverbath01</a> <p>HELP <a title="fyp" target="_blank" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/fyp">#fyp</a> <a title="catinthehat" target="_blank" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/catinthehat">#catinthehat</a></p> <a target="_blank" title="♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi" href="https://www.tiktok.com/music/helllp-the-killer-is-ey-scape-ing-6980067072520850181">♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi</a> </section> </blockquote> <blockquote class="tiktok-embed" cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@gay_kellam/video/6996838993862135045" data-video-id="6996838993862135045" style="max-width: 605px;min-width: 325px;"> <section> <a target="_blank" title="@gay_kellam" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@gay_kellam">@gay_kellam</a>  <a target="_blank" title="♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi" href="https://www.tiktok.com/music/helllp-the-killer-is-ey-scape-ing-6980067072520850181">♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi</a> </section> </blockquote> <blockquote class="tiktok-embed" cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@emilyandthatbaby/video/7004140339522964741" data-video-id="7004140339522964741" style="max-width: 605px;min-width: 325px;"> <section> <a target="_blank" title="@emilyandthatbaby" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@emilyandthatbaby">@emilyandthatbaby</a> <p>No Alexanders were harmed in the making of this TikTok</p> <a target="_blank" title="♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi" href="https://www.tiktok.com/music/helllp-the-killer-is-ey-scape-ing-6980067072520850181">♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi</a> </section> </blockquote> <p>In September, the trend began to shift to users lip-syncing in a sarcastic manner and showcasing how they could manipulate their lips or nostrils. </p><blockquote class="tiktok-embed" cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@wh0.nia/video/7012314841079680262" data-video-id="7012314841079680262" style="max-width: 605px;min-width: 325px;"> <section> <a target="_blank" title="@wh0.nia" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@wh0.nia">@wh0.nia</a> <p></p> <a target="_blank" title="♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi" href="https://www.tiktok.com/music/helllp-the-killer-is-ey-scape-ing-6980067072520850181">♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi</a> </section> </blockquote> <blockquote class="tiktok-embed" cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@itsadoredelano/video/7011277621266779398" data-video-id="7011277621266779398" style="max-width: 605px;min-width: 325px;"> <section> <a target="_blank" title="@itsadoredelano" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@itsadoredelano">@itsadoredelano</a> <p> help</p> <a target="_blank" title="♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi" href="https://www.tiktok.com/music/helllp-the-killer-is-ey-scape-ing-6980067072520850181">♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi</a> </section> </blockquote> <blockquote class="tiktok-embed" cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@billieeilish/video/7014570556607433990" data-video-id="7014570556607433990" style="max-width: 605px;min-width: 325px;"> <section> <a target="_blank" title="@billieeilish" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@billieeilish">@billieeilish</a> <p>hate that you guys made this sound huge on here. most infuriating scene in all of asylum</p> <a target="_blank" title="♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi" href="https://www.tiktok.com/music/helllp-the-killer-is-ey-scape-ing-6980067072520850181">♬ helllp the killer is ey scape ing - abi</a> </section> </blockquote> <p>Both iterations of the trend have carried over into October, with people - and even brands like <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@duolingo/video/7016463031760588037?_d=secCgYIASAHKAESPgo8raw0dXyLl2Wg1rUp98dVgF%2F4M5cSVeN0Wev3j0Rk62qVxSS4WgfKRJ5Y8xxh2L1gG3zsxKzGj503ksGKGgA%3D&amp;checksum=5e6ba2c7a301f8f23c8fc6550070baecec6e9d9bbec5a3763135ec7331c07e1f&amp;language=en&amp;preview_pb=0&amp;sec_user_id=MS4wLjABAAAAWRdNYvHqD1jJ9Jy-4TKsSfnha-rtvazkqI9c3Wrm0kwUxKg2_JIRjA5dQq-wuGtl&amp;share_app_id=1233&amp;share_item_id=7021225909378239749&amp;share_link_id=C3C33CEE-0CEF-4A29-AED8-FD8A08EE35D8&amp;source=h5_m&amp;timestamp=1634835597&amp;tt_from=copy&amp;u_code=d6i61gl5m8djkl&amp;user_id=6701362712989877253&amp;utm_campaign=client_share&amp;utm_medium=ios&amp;utm_source=copy&amp;_r=1&amp;is_copy_url=0&amp;is_from_webapp=v1&amp;sender_device=pc&amp;sender_web_id=6891259809896056326amp;is_from_webapp=v1&amp;sender_device=pc&amp;sender_web_id=6891259809896056326">Duolingo</a> - using it both in videos about running away, as well as dramatized lip-syncing videos. </p><h2><strong>The sound has also inspired remixes with music and other TikTok sounds</strong></h2><p>It's nigh-inevitable that a popular TikTok sound will be remixed with other popular sounds, like in the recent cases of the <a href="https://www.insider.com/what-is-berries-and-cream-song-little-lad-tiktok-starburst-2021-9">Starburst "berries and cream" commercial memes</a> and <a href="http://insider.com/cupcakke-vagina-remix-smack-my-ass-like-a-drum-tiktok-2021-8">soundbites from rapper CupcakKe's song "Vagina</a>."</p><p>One remix from @meredith_bull mashes up "the killer is escaping" with other popular TikTok soundbites including <a href="https://www.insider.com/what-is-berries-and-cream-song-little-lad-tiktok-starburst-2021-9">"berries and cream,"</a> <a href="https://www.insider.com/oh-no-our-table-its-broken-tiktok-meme-afv-laugh-2021-10">"oh no, our table, it's broken,"</a> and <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTx5c-2QOXc">a clip from the 2006 film "Borat."</a></p><blockquote class="tiktok-embed" cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@meredith_bull/video/7014941029895916806" data-video-id="7014941029895916806" style="max-width: 605px;min-width: 325px;"> <section> <a target="_blank" title="@meredith_bull" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@meredith_bull">@meredith_bull</a> <p>Reply to @goldminejokes oh no our table is broken mash up</p> <a target="_blank" title="♬ Oh no our table mashup by meredithbull - meredithbull" href="https://www.tiktok.com/music/Oh-no-our-table-mashup-by-meredithbull-7014940892700560134">♬ Oh no our table mashup by meredithbull - meredithbull</a> </section> </blockquote> <p>Another remix from user @sleepsleep__ chops up Paulson's line over a pulsating dance beat and has been used in nearly 25,000 videos. </p><blockquote class="tiktok-embed" cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@sleepsleep__/video/7014112905561967877" data-video-id="7014112905561967877" style="max-width: 605px;min-width: 325px;"> <section> <a target="_blank" title="@sleepsleep__" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@sleepsleep__">@sleepsleep__</a> <p>HELL-P <a title="fyp" target="_blank" href="https://www.tiktok.com/tag/fyp">#fyp</a></p> <a target="_blank" title="♬ original sound - sleepsleep" href="https://www.tiktok.com/music/original-sound-7014112727165963014">♬ original sound - sleepsleep</a> </section> </blockquote> <p><strong><a href="https://www.insider.com/culture" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Read more stories from Insider's Digital Culture desk.</a></strong></p>

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<p></p><div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table"><div><div class="image on-image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/5d7b5aa62e22af03352477c4-2400/ted%20cruz.jpg" border="0" alt="Ted Cruz" data-mce-source="REUTERS/Loren Elliott" data-mce-caption="Senator Ted Cruz was among the senators who wrote to Facebook."><p class="source"><span>REUTERS/Loren Elliott</span></p><p class="caption">Senator Ted Cruz was among the senators who wrote to Facebook.</p></img></div><p></p></div></div><ul class="summary-list"><li><strong>Doctors working for fact-checking site Health Feedback labelled a Facebook video from anti-abortion campaigner Lila Rose as inaccurate. The video claims that abortion is never medically necessary.</strong></li><li><strong>Facebook attached the fact-check onto the video and restricted the page's distribution, prompting Rose to accuse it of censorship.</strong></li><li><strong>Four Republican senators, including Ted Cruz and Josh Hawley wrote to Mark Zuckerberg in complaint.</strong></li><li><strong>Facebook then took the fact-check down, saying it would investigate further.</strong></li><li><a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/?hprecirc-bullet"><strong>Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories.</strong></a></li></ul><p>Facebook removed a fact-check on an anti-abortion video after it received a letter of complaint from four Republican Senators, including Ted Cruz.</p><p>The video, posted by campaigner Lila Rose for the anti-abortion organisation Live Action, claimed that abortion is never medically necessary. Here is the video:</p><p>Three doctors working for <a href="https://healthfeedback.org/claimreview/lila-rose-claim-that-abortion-is-never-medically-necessary-is-inaccurate-it-is-necessary-in-certain-cases-to-preserve-mothers-life-young-america-foundation/?fbclid=IwAR0pTsDR8_Dn__Svm87xAVz461QSQucidq4X9V_semBuWcrvtCSk_u10H2s">Health Feedback</a> said that Rose's claim is inaccurate. They said conditions such as placenta previa and HELLP syndrome can make an abortion necessary to prevent the mother's death.</p><p>This is how the fact-check appears on their website:</p><p></p><div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table"><div><div class="image on-image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/5d7b6ed52e22af17787f0023-777/lila%20rose%20fact-check.png" border="0" alt="Lila Rose fact check" data-mce-source="Health Feedback"><p class="source"><span>Health Feedback</span></p><p class="caption">Health Feedback's fact-check.</p></img></div><p></p></div></div><p>Rose's argument for such situations was early delivery of the baby. The doctors said this is only possible after the foetus is 24 weeks old, and so may be the only option in earlier-stage pregnancies.</p><p>Facebook, which has been trying to introduce more fact-checking to its platform in an attempt to counter misinformation and fake news, displayed the fact-check next to Rose's Facebook video.</p><p>Live Action also claimed that Facebook had informed it that its content would be restricted due to "repeated sharing of false news."</p><p><em><strong>Read more:</strong> <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/facebook-fact-checkers-fight-against-fake-news-was-pr-stunt-2018-12?r=US&amp;IR=T">"They threw us under the bus at every opportunity": Facebook fact-checkers say its mission to weed out fake news was a PR stunt</a></em></p><p>Rose retaliated on Twitter, claiming the doctors were "abortionists" and therefore not impartial.</p><p>She also <a href="https://twitter.com/LilaGraceRose/status/1171843639716110336?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw%7Ctwcamp%5Etweetembed&amp;ref_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.buzzfeednews.com%2Farticle%2Fclaudiakoerner%2Ffacebook-fact-check-abortion-video-doctors-medical">accused Facebook of</a> "aggressively [and] publicly siding w[ith] the abortion lobby [and] actively shutting down pro-life educational content."</p><p>On Thursday morning Republican Senators Ted Cruz, Josh Hawley, Kevin Cramer, and Mike Braun sent a letter to Facebook accusing it of censorship, echoing Rose's stance that the doctors were not impartial.</p><p>They said that the code of conduct established by the International Fact-Checking Network (ICFN) stipulates that fact-checkers not advocate or take policy decisions on issues which they fact-check.</p><p>Subsequently Facebook said it had been in touch with the ICFN to open an independent investigation. "While the IFCN investigates, we are removing the relevant fact checks and have communicated this to the members of the US Senate who brought this specific concern to our attention," a Facebook spokesperson <a href="https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/claudiakoerner/facebook-fact-check-abortion-video-doctors-medical">told BuzzFeed</a>.</p><p>When contacted by Business Insider, Facebook was not immediately available for comment.</p><p>Facebook is one of the big tech companies which multiple Republicans - <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/trump-threatens-to-sue-google-facebook-bias-antitrust-2019-6?r=US&amp;IR=T">including President Donald Trump</a> - have accused of <a href="https://www.reuters.com/article/us-usa-congress-socialmedia/facebook-google-accused-of-anti-conservative-bias-at-u-s-senate-hearing-idUSKCN1RM2SJ">censoring conservative speech on their platforms</a>.</p><div><iframe src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/video.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Flilagracerose%2Fvideos%2F508941603187665%2F&amp;show_text=0&amp;width=476" width="476" height="476" style="border:none;overflow:hidden" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" allowtransparency="true" allowfullscreen="true"></iframe></div>    <div class="margin-top">        <h3>NOW WATCH: <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/16-inventions-getting-us-off-fossil-fuels-and-into-renewable-energy-2019-8">16 inventions getting us off fossil fuels and into renewable energy</a></h3>        <div>            <iframe class="bijwplayerclass" data-player="jwplayer" src="https://content.jwplatform.com/players/P1R66Xvt-CEZHWCBG.html" width="100%" height="100%" frameborder="0" scrolling="auto" style="margin:0px;" allowfullscreen=""></iframe><script>function receiveMessage(event){ console.log(event.data.fullscreen); Android.fullscreen(event.data.fullscreen); }window.addEventListener("message", receiveMessage, false);</script>        </div>    </div>

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<p></p><div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table"><div><div class="image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/5ca21fafffcb277cd91d6b5b-889/bonnie%20vit%20polo%20lowres.jpg" border="0" alt="Bonnie Roupe" data-mce-source="Bonzun" /></div></div></div><ul class="summary-list"><li><strong>Bonnie Roupé developed pre-eclampsia when she was pregnant with her second child.</strong></li><li><strong>She didn't understand the symptoms, and afterwards developed an app that would inform pregnant women of the potential health problems they could experience.</strong></li><li><strong>The Bonzun app follows how the baby is growing, but also acts as a virtual midwife that can tell you which symptoms are normal, and which ones are more serious. </strong></li><li><strong>Pregnancy is the biggest killer of women worldwide, and Roupé hopes to change this with spreading reliable information.</strong></li><li><strong>She also hopes to give power back to the women, and help them feel at ease, because some can feel shame and embarrassment if their experience isn't perfect.</strong></li></ul><p>Everyone is born, Bonnie Roupé told INSIDER, so an app for pregnant women actually has the potential to involve every person in the world.</p><p><a href="http://bonzun.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Bonzun,</a> founded by Roupé in 2012, works like a virtual midwife, supplying users with information about how their baby is growing, and what the changes in their body mean.</p><p>Roupé is a serial entrepreneur, and set up Bonzun after already building a successful sports and health magazine called Red Tee. <a href="https://www.swedcham.cn/2018/04/ceo-of-bonzun-appointed-one-of-the-most-powerful-women-in-sweden/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Last year she was named one of the most powerful women in Sweden</a> because of her influence in the tech industry.</p><p>However, the idea came about because when pregnant herself, Roupé realized there was no resource for credible and accurate information, and many web pages gave out of date, irrelevant, and even harmful advice.</p><p>Whenever she wanted information she could trust, she would have to rely on medical professionals and go to the doctor's office or a hospital.</p><p>"We are so in the hands of our midwives and our doctors, that we don't have the proper education ourselves," Roupé said. "And what I think is surprising is that the knowledge around the risk around pregnancy is very low everywhere."</p><p>Although pregnancy is one of the most normal things in the world, a lot can go wrong.</p><p><em><strong>Read more</strong>: <a href="https://www.thisisinsider.com/surprising-facts-about-pregnancy-2018-9" target="_blank" rel="noopener">31 surprising things you may not know about pregnancy</a></em></p><p>For instance, pregnancy is the number one killer of women, with 300,000 mothers dying every year during pregnancy and birth. Over five million children are stillborn or die within 24 hours, and seven million are born with birth defects every year.</p><p>Health problems that affect the mother include <a href="https://www.nct.org.uk/pregnancy/worries-and-discomforts/pregnancy-related-conditions/hellp-syndrome" target="_blank" rel="noopener">HELLP syndrome</a>, gestational diabetes, anemia, and blood clots.</p><p>But these are facts that most people don't know.</p><h2>Ectopic pregnancies and pre-eclampsia are two of the most common problems</h2><p>About 1-2% of pregnancies on average are ectopic, which is when the embryo attaches outside the uterus - usually in one of the Fallopian tubes. This number is higher in China at 2.3-4.1%, meaning there are about 900,000 cases there every year.</p><p>The first signs and symptoms typically include abdominal pain and vaginal bleeding, and it's very rare the fetus survives.</p><p>According to Bonzun, statistics suggest 27,060 women in China died from ectopic pregnancies in 2014, which is 74 every day. With the right health information, people would know that the prognosis for the mother is good if the fetus is aborted, and the risk of death drops to 0.1-0.3%.</p><p>Pre-eclampsia causes 40 to 60% of all maternal de<span style="color: #000000;">aths in developing countries, yet</span> many women are unaware of the symptoms like high blood pressure, swelling, severe headaches, and pain just below the ribs. Roupé suffered with pre-eclampsia herself while pregnant with her second child, but was one of the many women who didn't realise what was going on. The goal for Bonzun, she said, is to stop this from happening.<br><br>"We're not told what to look out for ourselves," Roupé said. "We're always just asked to contact our doctors if we're concerned, but maybe we would like some basic knowledge first."</br></br></p><p></p><div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table"><div><div class="image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/5ca371f4c6cc5037be0a6555-2000/pjimage%2027.jpg" border="0" alt="Bonzun app" data-mce-source="Bonzun" data-link="http://bonzun.com/" /></div></div></div><p><a href="http://bonzun.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Bonzun My Pregnancy app</a> has been downloaded over two million times in 79 countries so far.</p><p>One of its features is helping women understand when they should seek medical help or stay at home.</p><p>Women can look up their symptoms and check with an AI doctor bot what they mean.</p><p>The app also explains test results and monitors progress, like the baby's movement, growth, and mother's blood pressure, over time. The next feature will give relevant information for women who are going through IVF treatments.</p><p>Not only does this help women feel more in control over their health, but it would also potentially free up the time pregnant women spend at doctor's surgeries and hospitals.</p><p><em><strong>Read more</strong>: <a href="https://www.thisisinsider.com/what-to-know-before-trying-to-get-pregnant-2019-2" target="_blank" rel="noopener">7 things you should know before trying to get pregnant</a></em></p><p>Roupé thinks the spread of misinformation about pregnancy could be somewhat down to the fact that we believe pregnant women shouldn't be stressed out or frightened by what can potentially go wrong.</p><p>"Something that frustrated me when I was pregnant that I didn't get all the information that I needed," she said. "There was someone filtering the information, there was someone deciding what to tell me and what not to tell me ... They treat you like a small child that should be protected ... Like protect that tiny female brain."</p><h2>Not everyone experiences the 'pregnancy glow'</h2><p>It's also hard to ignore how pregnancy is portrayed in the media. Meghan Markle and Kate Middleton, for instance, have regularly been complimented on their blossoming pregnant bellies. But just because you see a photo of the royals wearing heels, that doesn't actually mean it's their norm.</p><p>"You have no idea if she just took three steps in those high heels just for the picture, or if she's one of those rare people who can walk in high heels when they're pregnant," Roupé said. "Because most women can't."</p><p>Also, the "pregnancy glow" isn't universal. It's the result of hormone fluctuations, increased blood flow, and oilier skin. But while all women experience hormonal changes, not all of them will see it on the surface. This doesn't mean there's anything wrong, but not feeling beautiful and "glowing" can lead some women to feel shame about their experience, Roupé said.</p><p>"We have a view of pregnancy as being this magical time," Roupé said. "And if it doesn't feel magical then there must be something wrong with you."</p><p></p><div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table"><div><div class="image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/5ca36b4fc6cc5009aa7873b2-2000/pregnant%20meghan.jpg" border="0" alt="pregnant meghan" data-mce-source="Samir Hussein / Getty" data-link="https://www.gettyimages.co.uk/detail/news-photo/meghan-duchess-of-sussex-attends-a-international-womens-day-news-photo/1134469994" /></div></div></div><h2>People are becoming more honest about the realities of pregnancy</h2><p>The reality is a lot of pregnant women find those nine months incredibly hard. Even without the health concerns, women can experience discomfort, swelling, and sickness.</p><p>Some high profile women have been upfront about their struggles during pregnancy, suggesting the conversation about pregnancy is opening up.</p><p><a href="https://www.vogue.com/article/serena-williams-vogue-cover-interview-february-2018" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Serena Williams spoke to Vogue</a> last year about blood clots that formed just after she'd given birth to her daughter. Her C-section wound also burst open, and a large hematoma flooded her abdomen with blood.</p><p><a href="https://www.vogue.com/article/beyonce-september-issue-2018" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Beyoncé Knowles experienced pre-eclampsia</a> when she was pregnant with her twins. She told Vogue this meant she had to have an emergency C-section because the health of her and her children was in danger.</p><p>Comedian Amy Schumer has also been <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/Bvp9xxplvWi/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">documenting her pregnancy on social media</a>, and showing the less glamorous sides <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BqNjmDdFUQj/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">such as severe morning sickness, called Hyperemesis gravidarum</a>.</p><p>Roupé said we shouldn't put pregnant women on a pedestal anymore, and accept that pregnancy can be hard. She also said that pregnancy is just a short time in your life, and then it's over. So the idea that women who have children somehow lose their value is incredibly outdated.</p><p>"At the time people died when they were 35, then I guess if you had your child when your were 25, that was your life," she said. "Having a child was the purpose of being a woman. So when you were pregnant, you were peaking in your power and in your authority. But that's not the case anymore."</p><p>Roupé thinks of Bonzun as giving women power over their own health during pregnancy, which she believes is long overdue.</p><p>"I think it's time for the patriarchy to be dead," she said. "It is empowerment for the pregnant women, because knowledge is power. And we're just deciding to tell the pregnant women everything."</p><div>    <iframe src="//instagram.com/p/BqNjmDdFUQj/embed/" width="540" height="auto" frameborder="0" scrolling="no" allowtransparency="true">    </iframe></div>

One of the most powerful women in Sweden developed a virtual midwife to help fight the myths and misconceptions about the biggest killer of women: pregnancy

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