<div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table float_right"><div><div class="image on-image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/5665dbf2dd089540548b45a9-2002-1502/meghan%20trainor.jpg" alt="Meghan Trainor" data-mce-source=" Jason Merritt/Getty Images"> Jason Merritt/Getty ImagesMeghan Trainor at the 57th Annual Grammy Awards.</img></div></div></div>The 58th Annual&#xa0;Grammy nominees are here, and with the list comes a renewed interest in a simple question: what qualifies an artist as "new"?&#xa0;Here's the list of nominees for Best New Artist:&#xa0;Courtney Barnett,&#xa0;James Bay,&#xa0;Sam Hunt,&#xa0;Tori Kelly, and&#xa0;Meghan Trainor.Eyebrows were raised at the inclusion of Meghan Trainor.The pop singer's single "All About That Bass" was nominated for Record of the Year and Song of the Year at last year's awards.So how could she possibly be a "new" artist?It goes back to the 2010 awards, when Lady Gaga was excluded from the Best New Artist category. Though she had been a chart-topping artist in 2009, technically she was already nominated for a single back in 2008 ("Just Dance"), and was therefore ineligible.&#xa0;So <a href="http://www.billboard.com/articles/news/957488/lady-gaga-spurs-grammys-to-change-best-new-artist-rule">the Recording Academy changed the rules</a>. Now, a musician could be nominated for Best New Artist as long as they haven't won a Grammy - prior nominations were fine.&#xa0;In a <a href="http://www.grammy.com/blogs/what-qualifies-a-best-new-artist-as-new">2014 blog post</a>, the organization attempted to clear up any&#xa0;confusion.&#xa0;A&#xa0;"new artist" is defined for the GRAMMY process as any performing artist or established performing group who releases, during the eligibility year, the recording that first establishes the public identity of that artist or established group as a performer. A GRAMMY nomination in a performance category in a prior year disqualifies an artist from competing in this category, unless the nomination came from a single or a guest spot on another artist's recording, and the artist hadn't yet released a full album.So - the qualifiers are any artist/group who&#xa0;becomes mainstream in the eligible year, and if they've already been nominated, it doesn't matter as long as they were only nominated for a single or feature on someone's else's record.&#xa0;It seems impossible to get music listeners everywhere to memorize this convoluted rule though. Fans were mystified when Ed Sheeran was nominated for Best New Artist in 2014, as he had already had a single nominated the previous year.&#xa0;<div><blockquote class="twitter-tweet" lang="en">What Qualifies A Best New Artist As "New"? - Ed Sheeran was nominated for a GRAMMY last year and this year... <a href="http://t.co/QQT485dVSh">http://t.co/QQT485dVSh</a>- HozierFan (@HozierFan) <a href="https://twitter.com/mims/statuses/540929288632295424">December 5, 2014</a></blockquote><script async="" src="//platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div>And indie-music lovers were amused when Bon Iver, a group who's first album was released in 2007, won Best New Artist five years later in 2012.<div><blockquote class="twitter-tweet" lang="en">Bon Iver makes music in 2007 and gets a grammy for new artist in 2012? <a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/wtf?src=hash">#wtf</a>- Tiffany Smith (@imthuginsgirl) <a href="https://twitter.com/mims/statuses/168930683580981248">February 13, 2012</a></blockquote><script async="" src="//platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div>The confusion never ends.&#xa0; <div class="margin-top"> <h3>NOW WATCH: <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/lady-gaga-almost-quit-music-and-she-had-a-good-reason-2015-11">Lady Gaga almost quit music, and she had a good reason</a></h3> <div> <div> <script src="http://player.ooyala.com/v3/6e12e8b3387a44daacfb73afba25a76e"></script> <div class="ooyala-video-player" data-video-autoplay="false" data-video-id="xrOW1seDrHQ5GHxAf0RPn_TV0tyaRegZ" data-player-variable="ooyalapopvideo" id="ooyalaplayer_popvideo" style="width:1280px;height:720px"></div> <script> if (typeof RunFunctions === 'undefined') { var RunFunctions = []; } RunFunctions.push(function() { var ooyalapopvideo = OO.Player.create('ooyalaplayer_popvideo', 'xrOW1seDrHQ5GHxAf0RPn_TV0tyaRegZ',{ autoplay: 'false' }); }); </script> <noscript><div>Please enable Javascript to watch this video</div></noscript></div> </div> <script>(function() { function createPlayer() { OO.ready(function() { RunFunctions.forEach(function(ooyalaFunction) { ooyalaFunction(); }); RunFunctions = [];}); } createPlayer(); }()); </script> </div>

Why you can get nominated for 'Best New Artist' at the Grammys when you're not a new artist

Los Angeles, The 2021 <keyword id="10326659" type="UNKNOWN" weightage="20" keywordseo="GRAMMY-Awards-Nominations">Grammy Awards nominations</keyword> are all about <keyword id="28312" type="PERSON" weightage="20" keywordseo="women-power">women power</keyword> with Beyonce, <keyword id="35866" type="PERSON" weightage="20" keywordseo="Taylor-Swift">Taylor Swift</keyword> and <keyword id="3923485" type="PERSON" weightage="20" keywordseo="dua-lipa">Dua Lipa</keyword> leading the way. Beyonce is leading the contender at the 2021 <keyword id="21405" type="ENTERTAINMENT" weightage="20" keywordseo="Grammy-awards">Grammy Awards</keyword> with nine nods. She is followed by Taylor Swift, Roddy Ricch and Dua Lipa, who earned six nominations each. Brittany Howard, of Alabama Shakes fame, earned five nominations for her solo debut. Earning four each were Billie Eilish, Megan Thee Stallion, DaBaby, Phoebe Bridgers, Justin Bieber, jazz pianist John Beasley and classical producer David Frost, reports Variety. As a shocker, The Weeknd didn't get nominated. Despite being predicted to dominate the nominations at the 63rd annual Grammys, the pop-R&amp;B superstar's "Blinding lights" single and "After Hours" album got zero nominations. Beyonce will be competing against herself in the Record of the Year category. She is nominated in the category for "Black Parade" as well as "Savage". She fights Black Pumas, DaBaby, Doja Cat, Billie Eilish, Dua Lipa, and Post Malone for the trophy. Swift's six nominations include five for her "Folklore" album or its "Cardigan" single and one for her collaboration with Andrew Lloyd Webber on an original song for the film version of "Cats". Her competition in the Album of the Year category include Dua Lipa, Post Malone, Coldplay, Jhené Aiko, Jacob Collier, HAIM and Black Pumas. K-pop super band BTS got a Best Pop Duo/Group Performance nod for their first single sung entirely in English, "Dynamite". Dua Lipa got nominations in the categories of Record of the Year and Song of the Year for "Don't Start Now" and Album of the Year for "Future Nostalgia". Dua Lipa and Beyonce are joined in the Song of the Year category by fellow six-time nominees Roddy Ricch and Taylor Swift. Ricch has the most Grammy nominations for any male artiste this year. He is up for Song of the Year for "The Box" and Record of the Year for "Rockstar" with DaBaby. The 63rd Grammy Awards will be held on January 31, 2021 and will be showcased live in India on <keyword id="3847376" type="COMPANY" weightage="20" keywordseo="VH1-India">Vh1 India</keyword>. Here is the list of 2021 Grammy nominees from main categories:ALBUM OF THE YEAR Chilombo, Jhene Aiko Black Pumas (Deluxe Edition), Black Pumas Everyday Life, Coldplay Djesse Vol. 3, Jacob Collier Women in Music Pt. III, HAIM Future Nostalgia, Dua Lipa Hollywood's Bleeding, Post Malone Folklore, Taylor Swift RECORD OF THE YEAR "Black Parade"  Beyonce "Colors"  Black Pumas "Rockstar"  DaBaby Featuring Roddy Ricch "Say So"  Doja Cat "Everything I Wanted"  Billie Eilish "Don't Start Now"  Dua Lipa "Circles"  Post Malone "Savage"  Megan Thee Stallion Featuring Beyonce SONG OF THE YEAR "Black Parade"  Beyonce "The Box"  Roddy Ricch "Cardigan"  Taylor Swift "Circles"  Post Malone "Don't Start Now"  Dua Lipa "Everything I Wanted"  Billie Eilish "I Can't Breathe"  H.E.R. "If the World Was Ending"  JP Saxe Featuring Julia Michaels BEST NEW ARTIST Ingrid Andress Phoebe Bridgers Chika Noah Cyrus D Smoke Doja Cat Kaytranada Megan Thee Stallion BEST POP SOLO PERFORMANCE "Yummy"  Justin Bieber "Say So"  Doja Cat "Everything I Wanted"  Billie Eilish "Don't Start Now"  Dua Lipa "Watermelon Sugar"  Harry Styles "Cardigan"  Taylor Swift BEST POP DUO/GROUP PERFORMANCE "Un Dia (One Day)  J Balvin, Dua Lipa, Bad Bunny &amp; Tainy "Intentions"  Justin Bieber Featuring Quavo "Dynamite"  BTS "Rain on Me"  Lady Gaga with Ariana Grande "Exile"  Taylor Swift Featuring Bon Iver BEST TRADITIONAL POP VOCAL ALBUM Blue Umbrella, (Burt Bacharach &amp;) Daniel Tashian True Love: A Celebration of Cole Porter, Harry Connick, Jr. American Standard, James Taylor Unfollow the Rules, Rufus Wainwright Judy, Renee Zellweger BEST POP VOCAL ALBUM Changes, Justin Bieber Chromatica, Lady Gaga Future Nostalgia, Dua Lipa Fine Line, Harry Styles Folklore, Taylor Swift BEST DANCE RECORDING "On My Mind"  Diplo &amp; SIDEPIECE "My High"  Disclosure Featuring Aminé &amp; Slowthai "The Difference"  Flume Featuring Toro y Moi "Both Of Us"  Jayda G "10%"  Kaytranada Featuring Kali Uchis BEST DANCE/ELECTRONIC ALBUM Kick I, Arca Planet's Mad, Baauer Energy, Disclosure Bubba, Kaytranada Good Faith, Madeon BEST CONTEMPORARY INSTRUMENTAL ALBUM Axiom, Christian Scott aTunde Adjuah Chronology of a Dream: Live at the Village Vanguard, Jon Batiste Take the Stairs, Black Violin Americana, Grégoire Maret, Romain Collin &amp; Bill Frisell Live at the Royal Albert Hall, Snarky Puppy BEST ROCK PERFORMANCE "Shameika"  Fiona Apple "Not"  Big Thief "Kyoto"  Phoebe Bridgers "The Steps"  HAIM "Stay High"  Brittany Howard "Daylight"  Grace Potter BEST METAL PERFORMANCE "Bum-Rush"  Body Count "Underneath"  Code Orange "The In-Between"  In This Moment "Bloodmoney"  Poppy "Executioner's Tax (Swing of the Axe) - Live"  Power Trip BEST ROCK SONG "Kyoto"  Phoebe Bridgers "Lost in Yesterday"  Tame Impala "Not"  Big Thief "Shameika"  Fiona Apple "Stay High"  Brittany Howard BEST ROCK ALBUM A Hero's Death, Fontaines D.C. Kiwanuka, Michael Kiwanuka Daylight, Grace Potter Sound &amp; Fury, Sturgill Simpson The New Abnormal, The Strokes BEST ALTERNATIVE MUSIC ALBUM Fetch the Bolt Cutters, Fiona Apple Hyperspace, Beck Punisher, Phoebe Bridgers Jaime, Brittany Howard The Slow Rush, Tame Impala BEST R&amp;B PERFORMANCE "Lightning &amp; Thunder"  Jhene Aiko Featuring John Legend "Black Parade"  Beyonce "All I Need"  Jacob Collier Featuring Mahalia &amp; Ty Dolla $ign "Goat Head"  Brittany Howard "See Me"  Emily King BEST TRADITIONAL R&amp;B PERFORMANCE "Sit on Down"  The Baylor Project Featuring Jean Baylor &amp; Marcus Baylor "Wonder What She Thinks of Me"  Chloe X Halle "Let Me Go"  Mykal Kilgore "Anything for You"  Ledisi "Distance"  Yebba BEST R&amp;B SONG "Better Than I Imagine"  Robert Glasper Featuring H.E.R. &amp; Meshell Ndegeocello "Black Parade"  Beyoncé "Collide"  Tiana Major9 &amp; EARTHGANG "Do It"  Chloe X Halle "Slow Down"  Skip Marley &amp; H.E.R. BEST PROGRESSIVE R&amp;B ALBUM Chilombo, Jhene Aiko Ungodly Hour, Chloe X Halle Free Nationals, Free Nationals F**k Yo Feelings, Robert Glasper It Is What It Is, Thundercat BEST R&amp;B ALBUM Happy 2 Be Here, Ant Clemons Take Time, Giveon To Feel Love/d, Luke James Bigger Love, John Legend All Rise, Gregory Porter BEST RAP PERFORMANCE "Deep Reverence"  Big Sean Featuring Nipsey Hussle "Bop"  DaBaby "What's Poppin"  Jack Harlow "The Bigger Picture"  Lil Baby "Savage"  Megan Thee Stallion Featuring Beyonce "Dior"  Pop Smoke BEST MELODIC RAP PERFORMANCE "Rockstar"  DaBaby Featuring Roddy Ricch "Laugh Now, Cry Later"  Drake Featuring Lil Durk "Lockdown"  Anderson .Paak "The Box"  Roddy Ricch "Highest in the Room"  Travis Scott BEST RAP SONG "The Bigger Picture"  Lil Baby "The Box"  Roddy Rich "Laugh Now, Cry Later"  Drake Featuring Lil Durk "Rockstar"  DaBaby Featuring Roddy Ricch "Savage"  Megan Thee Stallion Featuring Beyonce) BEST RAP ALBUM Black Habits, D Smoke Alfredo, Freddie Gibbs &amp; The Alchemist A Written Testimony, Jay Electronica King's Disease, Nas The Allegory, Royce da 5'9" BEST COUNTRY SOLO PERFORMANCE "Stick That in Your Country Song"  Eric Church "Who You Thought I Was"  Brandy Clark "When My Amy Prays"  Vince Gill "Black Like Me"  Mickey Guyton "Bluebird"  Miranda Lambert BEST COUNTRY DUO/GROUP PERFORMANCE All Night"  Brothers Osborne "10,000 Hours"  Dan + Shay &amp; Justin Bieber "Ocean"  Lady A "Sugar Coat"  Little Big Town "Some People Do"  Old Dominion BEST COUNTRY SONG "Bluebird"  Miranda Lambert "The Bones"  Maren Morris "Crowded Table"  The Highwomen "More Hearts Than Mine"  Ingrid Andress "Some People Do"  Old Dominion BEST COUNTRY ALBUM Lady Like, Ingrid Andress Your Life Is a Record, Brandy Clark Wildcard, Miranda Lambert Nightfall, Little Big Town Never Will, Ashley McBryde --IANS sug/vnc

Beyonce, Taylor Swift and Dua Lipa dominate 2021 Grammy nominations

<div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table"><div><div class="image on-image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/5ada4c4a19ee8644008b468b-1391/screen shot 2018-02-07 at 102527 am.png" border="0" alt="Google Home Max" data-mce-source="Google/YouTube" />Google/YouTube</div></div></div><ul><li>I went on a 10-day trip to Europe and couldn't bring my Google Home along. </li><li>I realized how much I've come to rely on Google Assistant for everyday tasks like alarms, weather reports, music, and white noise. </li><li>Going without the device for nearly two weeks was the only thing I missed about being in the US.</li></ul><hr /> It only took about six hours after landing in Rome to realize how dependent I'd become on my Google Home. My boyfriend and I were embarking on a 10-day trip around Italy for the wedding of a close friend, along with a much-needed vacation.It was my first time in Europe and my first vacation since last summer, and I was looking forward to unplugging from technology for almost two weeks. I didn't purchase international data, I deleted Slack from my phone, and I turned off email notifications.But as we settled into our Airbnb and got ready for bed, I started to do what I do every night: "Hey Google, can you play the sound of rain?"Obviously, I was met with silence - and a dawning realization that I love my Google Home. <h2>"Hey Google, I miss you"</h2>I've had a Google Home Max in my apartment for the last several months.I use it for music and for alarms; for looking things up I'm too lazy to type into my phone; for weather reports and for news reports. I use it as a white-noise machine, as a way to drown out my loud roommates, and as a way to relax after a stressful day ("Hey Google, play Bon Iver radio"). The Google Home Max has become a comforting - if physically oversized - presence in my life, to the point that my boyfriend and I are embarrassingly devoted to it. We call it "The Google," refer to the disembodied voice as "she," and thank it politely for doing its job correctly. <div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table float_right"><div><div class="image on-image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/5ad6522e817df627008b45ee-1897/p1010026.jpg" border="0" alt="Google Home Max" data-mce-source="Avery Hartmans/Business Insider" />Avery Hartmans/Business Insider</div></div></div>I know there are reasons to be wary of the Google Home. My mom recently told me she thinks all smart speakers are "creepy," and even the Google Home Max's little sister, the Google Home Mini, <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/google-home-mini-disables-top-button-after-privacy-mistake-2017-10" target="_blank" rel="noopener">got into some trouble</a> for listening to its human guardians early on (that issue has since been resolved, Google says). I'm also well aware that my entire issue is steeped in privilege. I missed a $400 tech device while on a 10-day vacation throughout Italy - it's not exactly a hard-knock life I lead. Still, when you have to do without something you've come to rely on, you notice the difference. By the end of our trip, my boyfriend and I couldn't wait to get home to use "The Google" again. Does this mean everyone should run out and buy a $400 smart speaker? No (although <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/google-home-max-review-2018-1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">it really is fantastic</a>). You can get a Google Home Mini <a href="https://store.google.com/us/product/google_home_mini?hl=en-US" target="_blank" rel="noopener">for $50</a>, or load the Google Assistant app onto your phone. But going 10 days without Google Assistant in my life proved how useful it is, and how much I use it for everyday purposes like weather reports, music, and alarms. I didn't miss much about America while I was gone, but I sure did miss my Google Home. Luckily, I'm back stateside now, and once again falling asleep to the pleasant sound of rain.Get the latest Google stock price<a href="http://markets.businessinsider.com/stock/GOOG-Quote"> here.</a> <div class="margin-top"> <h3>NOW WATCH: <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/3d-printed-homes-constructed-icon-new-story-tech-charity-4000-dollars-2018-3">These 3D printed homes can be constructed for $4,000 - and they might change the approach to underdeveloped housing</a></h3> <div> <iframe class="bijwplayerclass" data-player="jwplayer" src="https://content.jwplatform.com/players/TesgEoNz-CEZHWCBG.html" width="100%" height="100%" frameborder="0" scrolling="auto" style="margin:0px;" allowfullscreen=""></iframe><script>function receiveMessage(event){ console.log(event.data.fullscreen); Android.fullscreen(event.data.fullscreen); }window.addEventListener("message", receiveMessage, false);</script> </div> </div>

Leaving the country for nearly 2 weeks made me realize how much I depend on my Google Home

<ul class="summary-list"><li>Jeff Leavell, a writer, is living in <a href="https://www.insider.com/before-after-photos-california-deserted-coronavirus-2020-3">lockdown in Hollywood, California</a> with his partner, his ex-husband, his ex-husband's boyfriend, and another gay roommate.</li><li>Leavell writes about how the LGBTQ+ community has long relied on <a href="https://www.insider.com/lgbtq-teens-are-building-community-online-while-quarantined-2020-4">"chosen" families</a> to get through trying times, including the <a href="https://www.businessinsider.com/coronavirus-live-updates-latest-news">coronavirus pandemic.</a></li></ul>My alarm goes off at 7:45 am. On some mornings my partner, Layne, is there laying next to me. But today it's just me and my little terrier mutt, Paco, who sleeps with his head on my chest. He has terrible breath, but the cuddles are worth it.Layne is at his house in Koreatown with his roommate. We have decided that, for the time being, we're going to split our time between our two homes — some nights together, some nights apart. "Good morning!" I text Layne, "I love you." Checking in has become a ritual of ours during lockdown.I let Paco out, feed the cats, and make coffee. I put Bon Iver on the record player and sit down to write.I can hear Matías, a friend who recently moved to Los Angeles from New York City, in the guest room. Alex, my ex-husband, is moving around in his room. <h2>My ex-husband is one of my roommates and he is part of my family</h2>I am a 51-year-old gay man in an open relationship with my partner, which means we are allowed to play with other guys — together and apart. I'm quarantining with my ex-husband, his boyfriend, and our friend. A lot of people ask me what it's like to live with my former partner. I tell them that he is like a brother. Just because things didn't work out in our marriage doesn't mean we don't want play a large role in each other's lives.We live in a small three-bedroom craftsman house in Hollywood with a guest house in the back, where our friend — Robert — lives. We also have a front yard, and a backyard.Sometimes it is just me, Alex, and Matías. Sometimes Layne is with us and Alex's boyfriend, Dylan, too. Dylan is quarantining in Silverlake with his roommate.This is my family during the coronavirus pandemic: Five gay men, two cats, and a dog.<div type="image" title="Leavell Family 5" height="4000" width="5333" msid="75856447" hostid="261"></div>We are three separate households all coming together during this period of lockdown. We have very clear rules. We have all agreed to follow the guidelines around social distancing. We wear face masks when we have to go out, frequently wash our hands, and don't engage in potentially "dangerous" activity with anyone outside our extended family.We know it's not just ourselves we are putting at risk. Living in lockdown has forced us all to examine how we live our lives and how we approach our relationship with each other and other guys. Layne and I have had to talk a lot about what it means right now to be in an open relationship. <h2>My partner and I put limits on our open relationship during the pandemic</h2>We decided that for the duration of the lockdown we would not be meeting other men. We are allowed to chat, video chat, attend Zoom "circle jerks' and exchange all the pictures we want. But for now, physically, it is just us. We can revisit this as the world slowly begins to open up.Being fluid is one of the most important tools in an open relationship. We both agree that we want to be able to explore other sexual partners, to be able to have experiences together and separate. But we are also aware that there will be times in our relationship when we will need to close things up, focus only on ourselves, or maybe renegotiate the rules around our status. <div type="image" title="Leavell Family 3" height="4000" width="5333" msid="75856454" hostid="261"></div>I've learned that non-traditional relationships require a lot of communication. Sometimes I feel like all we do is talk — even more so than when I have been in more traditional monogamous partnerships. It is important that Layne gets to express his feelings around my living with my ex and it's my job to listen and to try to be as open and honest as possible. For the most part it works. Layne is part of my family, just like Alex and Dylan and Matías are. But living under stay-at-home rules can exacerbate any situation. We find balance in coming together for family time, when we eat dinner, watch movies, or just sit in the yard and in also allowing each other private space.Finding this balance isn't always easy. Sometimes we don't behave well. I have also found that small things can make me angry — if someone's hat is left on the table, if there are a few unwashed dishes, or there are no more cookies. Things that in normal times would not have bothered me can make me want to scream. Learning to self-regulate has been a challenge. We try to be patient with each other, but it's not easy. <h2>Giving each other space is the key to making our arrangement work</h2>Some nights Alex will get the living room to work on his art. I'll request the room to do my nightly yoga challenge. Matías uses his solitary time to play video games online with friends back in New York. Layne and I both enjoy our time together, but we have found that our time apart is equally important. We give each other these moments, silently agreeing that this is part of the wellbeing of our household. Around 8:30 am, everyone starts to come out of their rooms. We will make coffee, eggs, and bacon and usually plan one outing a day – a bike ride, a walk through our now quiet Hollywood neighborhood, or a drive through the canyons and out along the coast. In the afternoons, we work out in our makeshift gym in the front yard. In the evenings, we make dinner and watch a movie. When the house quiets down again, I like to sit alone in the living room, reading and listening to music.<div type="image" title="Leavell Family 4" height="4000" width="5333" msid="75856458" hostid="261"></div>In my LGBTQ+ community, we talk a lot about "chosen family," which arose because of homophobia and queer people being rejected by their relatives. We have built families out of friends, lovers, exes, and sometimes, our lover's lovers. We aren't bound by the same definitions as most of our heterosexual friends are.<h2>Being gay has always felt like a blessing to me</h2>"Living a queer life is the greatest act of defiance there is," my friend Laurent once told me. This was years ago, back when I was in my early 20s living in New York City. "Being gay is radical," he added. "Loving who we choose, and not who we should, that is radical."<div type="image" title="gay relationship" height="2000" width="2667" msid="75856462" hostid="261"></div>Months later, Laurent died of AIDS. After his funeral, I sat at the Washington Square Diner in New York City with six of his closest friends. I was the youngest, still a student at Sarah Lawrence College. "We are all we have," one of the men said. "No one else will ever love us as completely and as freely as we love each other."Robert walks from the guest house, past our open living room windows. Paco barks, startling all of us."Hey guys!" Robert calls out, "I'm making a store run. Do you need anything?""Milk!" Alex says."Ice cream," Matías says. "Cookies!" I call out."I'm taking a lunch break," Layne texts me. "Want to eat sandwiches and go for a walk with me?""Absolutely," I respond. We are trying to figure out this new world — how to be safe, how to take care of each other, how to pay the bills, and put food on the table and make sure that none of us gets sick. I can't help but think that maybe that connects all of us, regardless of what our families look like. <ul class="read-more-links"><li>Read more:</li><li><a href="https://www.insider.com/divorced-parents-staying-in-together-to-be-with-their-children-2020-4">Demi Moore and Bruce Willis are quarantining together to be with their kids. Lots of other divorced couples are doing the same.</a></li><li><a href="https://www.insider.com/how-a-polyamorous-relationship-expert-is-dating-during-the-coronavirus-2020-3">How a polyamorous relationship expert is dating during the coronavirus, and what she advises non-monogamous clients</a></li><li><a href="https://static.insider.com/how-do-polyamorous-people-cheat-2019-12">What cheating really looks like in polyamorous relationships, according to people who are in them</a></li></ul>Read the original article on <a href="https://www.insider.com/what-being-in-open-relationship-is-like-amid-a-pandemic-2020-5">Insider</a>

I'm in an open relationship and quarantined with my ex-husband, his boyfriend, my partner, and a roommate. Here's what it's like.

<div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table float_right"><div><div class="image on-image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/5846c9b2ba6eb620008b7a69-1613/undefined" alt="beyonce parkwood entertainment" data-mce-source="Parkwood Entertainment" />Parkwood Entertainment</div></div></div>In a year when everything seemed to go right for Beyoncé, the artist has nabbed the most nominations in the 2017 Grammy nominations that came out Tuesday morning. She leads with nine nominations while Drake, Rihanna, and Kanye West each have eight.The album of the year category is crowded with the biggest pop stars of the moment: In addition to Beyoncé, Adele, Justin Bieber, and Drake, plus the country singer-songwriter Sturgill Simpson, looking a little out of his element. Rihanna and Drake share a nomination for record of the year meanwhile, for their No. 1 hit collaboration "Work."Chance the Rapper, who released his album via streaming only, got seven Grammy nominations in his first time on the list, including rap performance and best new artist, after the voting body behind the Grammys <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/grammys-make-streaming-only-music-eligible-for-awards-2016-6">changed the rules to allow for streaming works</a>. It's being seen as a move to embrace how people consume music today in awards that are often criticized for being antiquated.In case you're wondering why Frank Ocean is absent for his own streaming album "Blonde," the singer <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/frank-ocean-grammys-blonde-colin-kaepernick-2016-11" target="_blank">refused to submit it for consideration</a>.You can see the major nominations below and <a href="http://www.grammy.com/news/beyonc-leads-59th-grammy-nominations" target="_blank">check out more at Grammy.com</a>.<h2>Album Of The Year:</h2>25 - AdeleLemonade - BeyoncéPurpose - Justin BieberViews - DrakeA Sailor's Guide To Earth - Sturgill Simpson<h2>Record Of The Year:</h2>"Hello" - Adele"Formation" - Beyoncé"7 Years" - Lukas Graham"Work" - Rihanna Featuring Drake"Stressed Out" - Twenty One Pilots<h2>Song Of The Year:</h2>"Formation" - Khalif Brown, Asheton Hogan, Beyoncé Knowles &amp; Michael L. Williams II, songwriters (Beyoncé)"Hello" - Adele Adkins &amp; Greg Kurstin, songwriters (Adele)"I Took A Pill In Ibiza" - Mike Posner, songwriter (Mike Posner)"Love Yourself" - Justin Bieber, Benjamin Levin &amp; Ed Sheeran, songwriters (Justin Bieber)"7 Years" - Lukas Forchhammer, Stefan Forrest, Morten Pilegaard &amp; Morten Ristorp, songwriters (Lukas Graham)<h2>Best New Artist:</h2>Kelsea BalleriniThe ChainsmokersChance The RapperMaren MorrisAnderson .Paak<h2>Best Pop Vocal Album:</h2>25 - AdelePurpose - Justin BieberDangerous Woman - Ariana GrandeConfident - Demi LovatoThis Is Acting - Sia<h2>Best Dance/Electric Album:</h2>Skin - FlumeElectronica 1: The Time Machine - Jean-Michel JarreEpoch - TychoBarbara Barbara, We Face A Shining Future - UnderworldLouie Vega Starring…XXVIII - Louie Vega<h2>Best Rock Album:</h2>California - Blink-182Tell Me I'm Pretty - Cage The ElephantMagma - GojiraDeath Of A Bachelor - Panic! At The DiscoWeezer - Weezer<h2>Best Alternative Music Album:</h2>22, A Million - Bon IverBlackstar - David BowieThe Hope Six Demolition Project - PJ HarveyPost Pop Depression - Iggy PopA Moon Shaped Pool - Radiohead<h2>Best Urban Contemporary Album:</h2>Lemonade - BeyoncéOlogy - GallantWe Are King - KINGMalibu - Anderson .PaakAnti - Rihanna<h2>Best Rap Performance:</h2>"No Problem" - Chance The Rapper Featuring Lil Wayne &amp; 2 Chainz"Panda" -Desiigner"Pop Style" - Drake Featuring The Throne"All The Way Up" - Fat Joe &amp; Remy Ma Featuring French Montana &amp; Infared"That Part" - ScHoolboy Q Featuring Kanye West<h2>Best Country Solo Performance:</h2>"Love Can Go To Hell" - Brandy Clark"Vice" - Miranda Lambert"My Church" - Maren Morris"Church Bells" - Carrie Underwood"Blue Ain't Your Color" - Keith Urban <div class="margin-top"> <h3>NOW WATCH: <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/marvel-guardians-of-the-galaxy-vol-part-2-trailer-2016-12">Marvel just dropped the first full trailer for 'Guardians of the Galaxy 2' - and it looks amazing</a></h3> <div> <div> <script src="http://player.ooyala.com/v3/6e12e8b3387a44daacfb73afba25a76e"></script> <div class="ooyala-video-player" data-video-autoplay="false" data-video-id="F2bTYxODE6EtfykO2GllH6U5TmR_UX15" data-player-variable="ooyalapopvideo" id="ooyalaplayer_popvideo" style="width:1280px;height:720px"></div> <script> if (typeof RunFunctions === 'undefined') { var RunFunctions = []; } RunFunctions.push(function() { var ooyalapopvideo = OO.Player.create('ooyalaplayer_popvideo', 'F2bTYxODE6EtfykO2GllH6U5TmR_UX15',{ autoplay: 'false' }); }); </script> <noscript><div>Please enable Javascript to watch this video</div></noscript></div> </div> <script>(function() { function createPlayer() { OO.ready(function() { RunFunctions.forEach(function(ooyalaFunction) { ooyalaFunction(); }); RunFunctions = [];}); } createPlayer(); }()); </script> </div>

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<img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/5915db44e559f181008b4d15-2400/harry-styles-live.jpg" alt="harry styles" />GettyHarry Styles.When former boy-band members go solo, it rarely works out for them - unless your name is Justin Timberlake.With his self-titled debut solo album, Harry Styles proves that while he may be capable of becoming this generation's Justin Timberlake, he really wants to be this generation's Mick Jagger.With a pleasant though uneven mix of different styles (sorry, the pun stays), the former One Direction member demands to be taken seriously. And he will be.In every song on "Harry Styles," you can hear how seriously Styles takes this whole music thing, and you can also tell that - as with Timberlake, a natural performer - he's actually really, really good at it. And although the jumbled influences make the album less cohesive than it could have been, it rides a wave of folk and alternative rock that works and is more interesting than other attempts at a solo breakout. And while we're talking about Timberlake, "Sign of the Times" is totally Styles' <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DksSPZTZES0">"Cry Me a River"</a> (even if it's not quite as radio-friendly).Some songs, like "Sign of the Times," are purely pop. And this was a smart choice for Styles: to make a political song the first single, and to make it one of the most accessible songs on the album.<img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/5915c54d1442934d088b4b1f-1080/styles.jpg" alt="Harry Styles album" />ColumbiaThe cover of Harry Styles' self-titled debut solo album.The first track, "Meet Me in the Hallway," and one of the album's strongest, starts off a little strange. It might make you think Harry Styles has been listening to a lot of <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_v2rehPAf5Y">1990s Radiohead</a> and <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssdgFoHLwnk">2000s Bon Iver</a>. They're welcome inspirations, but the song eventually eases into his own sound and so does the album, which is thankfully not just him trying to sound like critically acclaimed alternative artists.On "Sign of the Times," Styles belts, "We never learn / We've been here before / Why are we always stuck and running from / The bullets, the bullets." He probably didn't have to <a href="http://www.nme.com/news/music/harry-styles-says-sign-of-the-times-lyrics-meaning-brexit-black-lives-matter-2070779">confirm to The New York Times</a> that this song is about Brexit, Black Lives Matter, and Donald Trump, therefore stepping on the lyrics' intriguing mystery, but it solidifies his legitimacy as an individual artist, and confirms that he wants to be seen as someone who's thoughtful and not just eye candy.A couple of the album's tracks have American roots in them. Both the country-influenced "Carolina" (rumored to be about Taylor Swift, which is fitting) and the folk song "Sweet Creature" could have easily been misfires coming from a young British pop star, but they stand out for how well they fit to Styles' voice."Only Angel" throws you for a loop. It hits hard with a sudden Mick Jagger scream, but comes at the perfect time in the middle of the album. The rest of the tracks continue with a rock 'n' roll sound that keep things interesting.Yes, most of Styles' songs are about women and pining for them or losing them. But "Two Ghosts" captures that inexplicable feeling of falling out of love, when someone you once knew more than anyone else is now a stranger. "We're just two ghosts swimming in a glass half-empty / trying to remember how it feels to have a heartbeat," he sings. Pretty woke for a 23-year-old. Then again, he's <a href="http://stylecaster.com/harry-styles-girlfriends/">dated some famous women</a> (you heard about his relationship to Taylor Swift even if you didn't care to) whom he probably runs into at events with famous people. So he knows what this is like! "Woman," the penultimate track, actually kind of sounds like a Justin Timberlake song from "The 20/20 Experience" era. It might make you roll your eyes with the opening spoken line "Should we just search romantic comedies on Netflix and then see what we find?" As annoying as the bit is, it proves that Styles still knows his audience and is easing them into his solo life.The last track, "From the Dining Table," ties together the alt and folk influences from earlier in the album. It's a strong end, and it shows range that I never could have predicted Styles had. It's a huge leap from One Direction. This track could show up on an indie-folk playlist on Spotify, and you probably wouldn't even notice that it's Harry Styles unless you looked at it. His next album will probably - hopefully - be an even bigger step away from accessibility for his One Direction fans and toward a brand new man. <h3>NOW WATCH: <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/details-missed-in-episode-2-of-american-gods-neil-gaiman-easter-eggs-shadow-moon-bilquis-anansi-2017-5">10 details you might have missed in episode 2 of 'American Gods'</a></h3> Please enable Javascript to watch this video

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<div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table float_right"><div><div class="image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/53aac14aeab8ea886708427c-1200-858/youtube-12.jpg" border="0" alt="youtube" />Dado Ruvic / ReutersThe terms of YouTube's new paid music service are rubbing some independent music artists the wrong way.</div></div></div>There's a growing concern among independent music artists that the major record labels and the Internet giants that favor them are squeezing the smaller players out of the marketplace, <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/25/business/media/small-music-labels-see-youtube-battle-as-part-of-war-for-revenue.html?_r=0" target="_blank">The New York Times' Ben Sisario reports</a>.
One of the bigger and more recent issues surrounds YouTube's upcoming paid music streaming service, which will reportedly have a free version and a $10 premium version that's ad-free and provides offline caching of songs. 
A YouTube representative<a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/youtube-blocking-musicians-that-wont-sign-up-for-its-new-service-2014-6" target="_blank"> confirmed to Business Insider</a> that record labels representing 95% of the music industry have already signed up to join YouTube's new service, but 5% of the industry has yet to sign YouTube's new contract because the artists reportedly don't agree with its terms. As a result, YouTube has decided to effectively block any independent artists that don't sign up for its new service, <a href="http://www.ft.com/cms/s/ea6728e2-f568-11e3-afd3-00144feabdc0,Authorised=false.html?_i_location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.ft.com%2Fcms%2Fs%2F0%2Fea6728e2-f568-11e3-afd3-00144feabdc0.html%3Fsiteedition%3Duk&amp;siteedition=uk&amp;_i_referer=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.businessinsider.com%2Fyoutube-blocking-musicians-that-wont-sign-up-for-its-new-service-2014-6#axzz34u2T8YFF" target="_blank">The Financial Times reports</a>.
YouTube would not provide a copy of its contract, but <a href="http://www.digitalmusicnews.com/permalink/2014/06/23/fk-heres-entire-youtube-contract-indies" target="_blank">Digital Music News on Tuesday published the alleged contract in its entirety</a>. 
One of the contract's more controversial clauses says if a major record label agrees to any royalty rate that's lower than the rates given to an independent label, Google can lower the independent label's rate accordingly, after a 30-day notice (likely an email).
Furthermore, YouTube's contract also requires an artist's entire catalogue be available for the company's free and non-free streaming services; artists can't choose individual songs or albums to withhold, or opt out at all. 
A source close to YouTube <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/youtube-blocking-musicians-that-wont-sign-up-for-its-new-service-2014-6" target="_blank">told Business Insider</a> the deal will not affect regular users that post their own songs and videos on their own channels, but it will affect musicians signed to multiple record labels in multiple countries. So if Artist X from the UK is signed to their friend's indie label in their home country, but also signed to a major record label in the U.S., users will be able to watch the video in the U.S. but not the UK. 
And so, the indies are fighting back. 
Darius Van Arman, co-founder of the Secretly Group that boasts independent artists like Bon Iver, will speak in front of a House Judiciary subcommittee on Wednesday in part of a larger hearing on music licensing. Van Arman <a href="http://judiciary.house.gov/_cache/files/f6f6cd17-fe27-4a67-8d7e-c7c6b92f0c09/062514-music-license-pt-2-testimony-a2im.pdf" target="_blank">provided a statement to the subcommittee</a> before the hearing, which says, "the three major recording companies have become proficient at extracting a disproportionate share of copyright-related revenue from the marketplace."
The indies also have a problem with how major record labels compute "market share." According to Van Arman, the big record labels are overstating their share of the music market by counting the records they own, but also the records they distribute - which are actually owned by independent artists. But since these big labels have large subsidiaries that manage hundreds of indie artists, it remains a murky gray area.
But here's why this market share issue is important: Record labels, be they big or independent, use market share as leverage in licensing negotiations with digital services, like YouTube. And since the big record labels have an "inflated share," according to the independent artists, they can demand higher royalty rates, large advance payments and even minimum guarantees. Indie artists, in their estimation, don't get the same opportunities to succeed in the online music sector.
Alison Wenham, CEO of the Worldwide Independent Network, an umbrella group for small record labels, <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/25/business/media/small-music-labels-see-youtube-battle-as-part-of-war-for-revenue.html?_r=0" target="_blank">told The New York Times</a> the online music marketplace has become "a privilege affordable only by the biggest and richest players." 
"In the growth of the Internet, what was to be a utopian leveling of the playing field, a democratization for all, what is actually happening is a form of cultural apartheid," Wenham said.

The War Is On Between YouTube And Indie Artists

<div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table float_right"><div><div class="image on-image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/55bb888ddd08959a768b45d9-1176-882/screen%20shot%202015-07-21%20at%206.25.27%20pm.png" alt="paperback weddings" data-mce-source="Vimeo/Paperback Weddings">Vimeo/Paperback Weddings</img></div></div></div>Before the internet, wedding-centric media was largely restricted to&#xa0;bridal magazines and the final scenes of romantic comedies.But now, all it takes to plummet down a white-lace-lined wedding rabbit hole is a single hashtag, video, or blog post surfacing on your social media feeds.&#xa0;Back in pre-internet times, losing yourself&#xa0;in the details of someone else's big day took commitment. You had to go to a store, select a magazine, and pay money for it. You had to get off your butt and head to the movie theatre to get your fix from a rom com. Even "Say Yes to the Dress"-esque TV shows were few and far between.It&#xa0;took a lot of&#xa0;effort back then to lose an entire afternoon to wedding media.Now, it's easy! If you're susceptible to the charms of the wedding industrial complex, a single click can get you&#xa0;going. You'll find yourself on a&#xa0;Pinterest board, then click over to a lifestyle blog, then scroll through slideshow after slideshow until you realize you've lost an hour or more&#xa0;passively consuming other people's weddings.Magazines, movies, and TV shows all end, but online wedding content doesn't.&#xa0;A lot of wedding content&#xa0;is created with&#xa0;a practical use in mind, serving&#xa0;two&#xa0;audiences: people who are planning their weddings and people who want to reminisce about the weddings they've already participated in. You have the Pinterest boards and the bridal blogs for the soon-to-bes, and the meticulously edited videos and Instagram hashtags for the just-marrieds.But there's a third demographic that all of this media serves, even though none of it is built with expressly them in mind: The unabashed wedding enthusiasts who&#xa0;get an escapist thrill from all of it.<div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table"><div><div class="image on-image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/55842d74dd0895697d8b459c-3000-2025/113264835.jpg" alt="kate middleton wedding" data-mce-source="Getty" data-mce-caption="Catherine Middleton waves to the crowds as her sister and Maid of Honour Pippa Middleton holds her dress before walking in to the Abbey to attend the Royal Wedding of Prince William to Catherine Middleton at Westminster Abbey on April 29, 2011 in London, England.">Getty</img></div></div></div>And I'm a little bit ashamed to say that I'm a member of that third demographic. I help keep the online wedding planning industry afloat not because I'm getting married any time soon, but because I am obsessed with other people's weddings.I wouldn't be caught dead buying a bridal magazine or bingeing&#xa0;"My Fair Wedding" reruns on Netflix. But I've done enough secret googling of wedding stuff that&#xa0;Facebook seems to think I'm engaged. The site now surfaces ads for engagement rings and wedding dress&#xa0;retailers&#xa0;like Anthropologies' <a href="http://www.bhldn.com/">BHLDN next to my news feed.</a>Most embarrassingly, I've caught myself - more than once - scrolling mindlessly, zombie-like, back to 2010 on the Facebook page of someone I barely know, just so I can watch her perfect wedding video for the 20th time.It's weird and it's embarrassing and it makes me feel like a&#xa0;stock character in a chick flick. But I know I'm not alone. So I put out a call for other women who are as obsessed as I am and asked them what motivates this online behavior.<h2>The production quality connoisseur</h2>Kim Renfro, who also works at Tech&#xa0;Insider, always thought she'd be the "cool aunt" who traveled the world and owned a cat or two. She had no plans to become a fussy, white-wedding-obsessed bride.But then she discovered&#xa0;<a href="https://vimeo.com/26502282">this video</a>&#xa0;online. It brought her to tears the first time she watched it,&#xa0;and she joined the ranks of the wedding-obsessed.&#xa0;<div><div class="vimeo-embed-container"><iframe src="//player.vimeo.com/video/26502282?autoplay=0&amp;loop=0" frameborder="0" webkitallowfullscreen="" mozallowfullscreen="" allowfullscreen=""></iframe></div></div>&#xa0;Now, Renfro has become obsessed with the Vimeo page for Paperback Weddings, the company that produced that first fateful clip. It&#xa0;<a href="https://vimeo.com/paperbackweddings">has over 70 videos</a> and Renfro has watched them all."The reason they draw me is mostly the cinematography style and soundtrack," she said. "They use music I love, like Bon Iver and Jose Gonzalez. They are also based in California, my home state, so some of the wedding locations are very familiar and tangible to me."The videos all have the same format: a minute or so establishing the bride's character, a minute or so spent on the groom, and then all the pomp and circumstance of the wedding itself. Paperback Weddings has effectively figured out how to distill every wedding-centric romantic comedy to the only 10 minutes anybody actually wants to watch.But for Renfro, Paperback Weddings will remain a fantasy. She and her boyfriend are planning to get married in the next year or so - but she finds the company's $12,000 price tag per video to be prohibitively expensive.Don't expect her to stop bookmarking&#xa0;Paperback Weddings' Vimeo page, though.&#xa0;Her interest&#xa0;in the company was never supposed to be practical or planning-oriented to begin with.<div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table"><div><div class="image on-image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/55bb888ddd08959a768b45da-839-472/wedding%20people.gif" alt="wedding people" data-mce-source="Vimeo/Paperback Weddings">Vimeo/Paperback Weddings</img></div></div></div><h2>The girl with a&#xa0;million family weddings</h2>Maryrose Mullen's wedding addiction began in college, when she attended a family wedding - &#xa0;and all its ancillary events - as either a guest or a bridesmaid every single year.&#xa0;Totally hooked, she then switched to a "Wedding Sunday" weekly binge of reality&#xa0;shows like "My Fair Wedding" and "Bridezilla."Then, the people she'd grown up with started getting married and posting on Facebook about it. That's when her obsession moved online. Now, she can be found lurking deep in the Instagram feeds&#xa0;and Facebook albums of strangers and acquaintances alike.Mullen&#xa0;loves the little details&#xa0;of weddings, she said, as well as the feeling of "dropping in" on someone else's&#xa0;special day - again, like the SparkNotes version of a romantic comedy."Videos give a sense of the atmosphere while editing&#xa0;out the un-fun parts a wedding day entails," she said. "You get the first dance and the wacky bridal party entrances, but don't have&#xa0;to wait around an hour between the ceremony and cocktail hour."One highlight of her career as a wedding video voyeur was a stream of Giants players' weddings that she watched through Instagram and Snapchat. Without those two platforms, she never would've even known they'd all gotten hitched. But because of social media, she found herself clocking every detail."I don't feel weird about it usually," she said. "Sometimes I'll venture too far down the rabbit hole and realize I'm watching a video of the cousin of my best friend's&#xa0;sophomore year roommate's sorority sister."But, she pointed out, this content is posted on a public platform, so&#xa0;it was meant to be shared and viewed - "even by lunatics like me," she said.&#xa0;"It's cheesy, but I love seeing other people's joy, even in short spurts."<h2>The woman&#xa0;who&#xa0;thinks&#xa0;choreographed dances are&#xa0;awesome</h2>Michelle Zarella isn't just into wedding videos - she has a special place in her heart for the brides and grooms who choreograph their first dance as man and wife."There has literally yet to be one that hasn't made me cry," she said. Here's one of her favorites:<div><iframe width="800" height="600" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/0u1FZhMA88g" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen=""></iframe></div>She also loves this classic of the genre:<div><iframe width="800" height="600" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/4-94JhLEiN0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen=""></iframe></div>Michelle loves the effort people put forth when planning and executing these choreographed dances and pointed out that "some of them actually kill it.""I get emotional because beneath all of the excessive planning and cost, there is the element of people's families coming together to celebrate what is hopefully one of the most important days of their lives," she said.Michelle is engaged, but she won't be recording her whole wedding on video."I'm only having the first dance with some shots of our guests and that's it," she said.&#xa0;This has to do with Michelle's other favorite part of watching someone else's wedding video: "I like to ... pick out the family stereotype (drunk uncles, weirdos, rent-a-dates, etc.), and get a laugh. I would ideally like to not have to do the same for my own."<div class="KonaFilter image-container display-table"><div><div class="image on-image"><img src="https://static-ssl.businessinsider.com/image/55bb888ddd08959a768b45db-1229-692/wedding%20dancers.gif" alt="wedding dancers" data-mce-source="YouTube">YouTube</img></div></div></div><h2 class="embed-spacer">The lady&#xa0;who got ordained&#xa0;</h2>Actor and comedian <a href="http://jenkeefe.com/">Jen Keefe</a> loves love so much, she's become ordained to perform wedding ceremonies. Weddings and love are a hobby for her; she loves reading books of love letters and, yes, doing lots of online research."Part of this hobby includes poring over wedding videos, and specifically for me, engagement videos on YouTube," she said.&#xa0;Here's one of her favorites:<div><iframe width="800" height="600" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/wI0Hlo-HWfg" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen=""></iframe></div>She's even found herself watching these videos alone at home on a Friday night - "not because I'm ferociously masochistic but because I identify strongly with that type of expression of love," she said.She's moved to tears much of the time.&#xa0;"When, in videos of wedding ceremonies, people read vows which they have personally written, I am reliably reaching for tissues," she said.Part of her love for wedding videos might be the hope that one day she'll be the one on the altar, she admitted. But like Zarella, she won't be offering up her own hypothetical wedding video for public consumption. And she doesn't envision herself planning the whole thing meticulously."The obsessing over ring cuts, save-the-dates, number of bridesmaids, bachelor parties, and registries is something I want zero part of," she said, "and has nothing to do with the core of celebration that a marriage signifies: the finding of requited, unconditional love between two people."<h2>An overlooked market?</h2>If I didn't have frenemies' wedding hashtags to click on every weekend, I probably wouldn't have much contact with the idea of nuptials beyond physically attending weddings and watching movies that occasionally feature&#xa0;marriage as a plot point.But thanks to social media, my fellow online voyeurs and I are part of an untapped market of women who are voraciously consuming wedding content. Even though none of the blogs, videos, or Instagram posts we love were created with us in mind, our pageviews, likes, and site visits are an&#xa0;unsung&#xa0;faction of the community that keeps&#xa0;a lot of these wedding-centric sites and businesses humming.And I can't help but think that the first website to capitalize on this demographic is probably going to make a mint - for better or worse. <div class="margin-top"> <h3>NOW WATCH: <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/cara-delevingne-paper-towns-model-acting-career-2015-7">'Paper Towns' star Cara Delevingne says her acting career isn't a fluke</a></h3> <div> <div> <script src="http://player.ooyala.com/v3/6e12e8b3387a44daacfb73afba25a76e"></script> <div class="ooyala-video-player" data-video-autoplay="false" data-video-id="ZsbTRmdjoo7BEgwWFJbyne6gWbCRfApo" data-player-variable="ooyalapopvideo" id="ooyalaplayer_popvideo" style="width:1280px;height:720px"></div> <script> if (typeof RunFunctions === 'undefined') { var RunFunctions = []; } RunFunctions.push(function() { var ooyalapopvideo = OO.Player.create('ooyalaplayer_popvideo', 'ZsbTRmdjoo7BEgwWFJbyne6gWbCRfApo',{ autoplay: 'false' }); }); </script> <noscript><div>Please enable Javascript to watch this video</div></noscript></div> </div> <script>(function() { function createPlayer() { OO.ready(function() { RunFunctions.forEach(function(ooyalaFunction) { ooyalaFunction(); }); RunFunctions = [];}); } createPlayer(); }()); </script> </div>

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