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I'm an American who lived in the Philippines for more than 20 years, and there were 7 mistakes we always saw travelers making on vacation

I'm an American who lived in the Philippines for more than 20 years, and there were 7 mistakes we always saw travelers making on vacation
Robert Martin and his wife; El Nido.Courtesy of Robert Martin
  • Bob Martin, an American, moved to the Philippines in the late 1990s.
  • Over the years, he's seen tourists disrespect local customs and not take care of their own safety.

This as-told-to story is based on a conversation with Bob Martin, an American expat who lived in the Philippines for 20 years. It's been edited for length and clarity.

The Philippines is one of Asia's top tourist destinations. In 2019, some 8.3 million people visited the country. It's known for its gorgeous natural landscape including white-sand beaches in Boracay, the Chocolate Hills in Bohol, and some of the best dive sites in the world in Palawan. These are just a few of the reasons why so many Americans have chosen to settle down here. These days, there are close to 300,000 US citizens living in the Philippines.

I moved to the Philippines in the late 1990s with my wife. She's Filipina, and after living in the US for a decade, we moved to her hometown, Davao City. I was looking for a new adventure and found it in the Philippines.

My wife and I recently moved back to the US, but these days, I miss the Philippines. Over the years I traveled to many places where few foreigners have ever been, including Basilan and Tawi Tawi, and other remote parts of the country, where lush islands are surrounded by the crystal-blue sea.

Over the years, I watched visitors make the same mistakes while traveling around the Philippines. Here are seven of the most common mistakes I spotted and how they can be avoided.

1. Not realizing that most Filipinos can speak some English.

1. Not realizing that most Filipinos can speak some English.
A dancer at the Timpuyog festival in Sarangani, Philippines.      Mariano Sayno/Getty Images

It may come as a surprise to some, but over 90 million Filipinos speak English fluently. In cities like Manila, many foreigners find that nearly everyone they speak to can converse in English.

Over the years I learned to speak Bisaya, a language spoken in central and southern Philippines. But earlier on, I had no problem communicating. So don't hesitate to chat with Filipinos, as many of them are likely try to speak English with you, especially if you need help getting around.

2. Not stretching your dollars when traveling the country.

2. Not stretching your dollars when traveling the country.
El Nido Bay, Philippines.      AlagnaMarco/Getty Images

In the Philippines, you can buy many things cheaper than expected. Many currencies — including dollars, pounds, and euros — have a favorable exchange rate, so the value of your money will take you a long way.

Make sure to budget well and compare different tour providers to get the best value for your money. Filipinos are very friendly and will go out of their way to be friends with you and help out, so don't hesitate to ask them for the most affordable ways to travel around the country.

3. Only traveling around using a car or taxi.

3. Only traveling around using a car or taxi.
A jeepney in front of the Minor Basilica of Saint Lorenzo Ruiz.      Jui-Chi Chan/Getty Images

There are so many ways to travel around the Philippines, and it can be pretty easy. For example, I actually rode a jeepney — an open-air minibus popular around the country — from Davao City to Cagayan de Oro. The 162-mile journey was one of my most memorable adventures.

Another good way to travel around is on a tricycle — a motorcycle with an attached passenger cab.

Travelers hopping between islands can take boats and ferries, or fly on one of several Filipino airlines to almost every part of the country.

4. Not being aware of your surroundings, especially in places like airports.

4. Not being aware of your surroundings, especially in places like airports.
One of the largest markets in Manila, Divisoria.      Dondi Tawatao/Getty Images

While most Filipinos can be very friendly and helpful, being cautious is still important. In Manila, the capital city, tourists should be wary of people trying to carry their bags or help out in other ways, especially at the airport. Often, these people don't have good intentions and might take off with your luggage.

Some cities in the Philippines are safer than others — for example, in Davao City, where I lived, the safety index is 72.5. In comparison, Manila's safety index is much lower, at 35.1.

5. Not trying to learn the local cultures or a few words in one of the Filipino languages.

5. Not trying to learn the local cultures or a few words in one of the Filipino languages.
Maskara festival in Bacolod, Philippines.      rweisswald/Getty Images

Over the years, I witnessed many foreigners not trying to adapt to local customs. Even as a tourist, it's important to try to adapt to some of the local cultures and even learn a few words in one of the local languages. There are over 100 languages in the Philippines, but the most widely spoken ones include Tagalog, Ilocano, and Bisaya.

When you learn the language, or at least some of the language, Filipinos will practically adopt you as part of the family. Even a simple "salamat" or thank you will go a long way.

6. Disrespecting local customs and traditions.

6. Disrespecting local customs and traditions.
A church with statues of the image of the Child Jesus in Manila, Philippines.      Jes Aznar/Getty Images

Showing respect to others is extremely important in the Philippines. Make sure to speak to others courteously without raising your voice or getting aggressive, especially when it comes to elders.

Those who flout these social norms are considered by Filipinos as "bastos," which means someone who is rude and without manners. While it's important to be friendly and have fun, tourists should be mindful of how they come across to others, especially when speaking with them.

7. Being overly blunt, especially when interacting with Filipinos.

7. Being overly blunt, especially when interacting with Filipinos.
Mount Mayon, Philippines.      Lisa Marie David/NurPhoto/Getty Images

In the US, people are very frank and say what they want to say. But in the Philippines, people are more reserved when it comes to expressing what they really think.

For example, my Bisaya language teacher told me that Filipinos often follow a set of scripts when it comes to accommodating guests in their homes. She told me that when Filipinos offer you food or drinks, there are several rules to follow.

If the host asks you if you want some food, you should decline because they may not have the money to buy the snacks. And if they ask a second time, you should still decline for the same reason. But if they offer a third time, you should accept the offer because they are sincere.

If you decline the third time, your host will consider it an insult. So make sure to read between the lines, and if in doubt, ask a Filipino — they'll gladly tell you the right response to the situation.


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