I asked ChatGPT to write messages to my Tinder matches. A dating coach said they gave off a 'creepy vibe.'

• In January, I asked ChatGPT to write responses to my Hinge matches.
• This month, I had the AI-powered tool do the same thing for Tinder, then asked a dating expert to review them.

In the past few months, ChatGPT has proven itself capable of writing cover letters, providing investing advice, and announcing layoffs. Last month, I even had the AI-powered tool write responses to my Hinge matches, and while it showed that it can, it also showed that it probably shouldn't.

With answers like "Hey there finance person," its responses succeeded only in getting me ghosted by my matches. But because I am fiercely persistent, I tried again.

This time, I asked ChatGPT to write responses to some of my Tinder matches. But instead of simply terrorizing unsuspecting strangers with bizarre messages, I had a dating expert review the bot's answers.

Unsurprisingly, using ChatGPT was sabotaging my chances of finding a partner. Its responses were too long, used too many emojis, and in some cases were too creepy to lure in potential love interests, according to Cher Gopman, dating coach and founder of NYC Wingwoman.

"It's really important to try to steer away from (AI) when it comes to dating," Gopman told me. "You have to make sure it's your attitude, your vibe that's coming through on these dating apps, because that's what we're going to feel when we first meet you."

The responses were so long that they came off as obsessive

Starting off with an easy one, I asked ChatGPT to write a response to someone whose bio said they liked cats. Can't be that hard, right?

After the program's initial response — which felt too uncomfortable to send to anyone — I had to ask it to try again, specifying that it should sound more human. Even with those iterations, its response was still cringe-worthy:

"Hey there! I couldn't help but notice we both have a love for cats in our bios. I've got a few fur babies of my own and they bring so much joy to my life. Have you always been a cat person or is it a recent development? I'd love to chat more about our feline friends."

While it's important to find a common interest with matches, five sentences about cats is too many sentences, Gopman told me, adding that one to three sentences is the sweet spot.

"I think in this way, it was just a little bit too much, and it'll turn somebody off," Gopman said.

ChatGPT's penchant for emojis probably won't land me any dates

Out of four prompts I sent Gopman to review, three had an emoji — and only one got the green light from the NYC Wingwoman.

When asked how to respond to a match who told me I had a pretty smile, ChatGPT offered:

"Thanks for noticing! I've been told a smile can be deceiving though, so you'll have to get to know me better to find out if I'm actually a ray of sunshine," with a winking emoticon at the end.

Out of all of the app's write-ups, Gopman said she thought the above response was okay.

"This is like, 'let me find out a little bit more about this person,'" Gopman said. "I thought the emoji was okay. It was good because it was a little wink — it kind of left them interested to want more."

In general, using too many emojis can come off as desperate or too enthusiastic, and if there's one thing I don't want to convey, it's too much excitement over a stranger on the internet.

"I think if there's just too many smiles here and there, it shows you that you're too eager," Gopman said.

Overall, some ChatGPT-generated responses were downright creepy

In particular, the cat-related response (fur babies? Feline friends? Ew!) gave off the worst vibes.

"The vibe that it's already sending off is like not even a friend vibe," Gopman said. "It sounds more like a creepy vibe."

In a follow-up email, Gopman added that it's best to "tread lightly" when using AI to help out with online dating. Most of the time, its responses are impersonal and inauthentic — and if it's coming up with a profile that sounds nothing like you, "you're misrepresenting yourself at the outset and will likely have fewer successful dates."

"Dating is all about building a connection," Gopman said. "If you're going through a chatbot to build a connection, it's not going to be your connection. It's going to be somebody else's."