Thelife- TikToker Clarke Peoples says a Hinge match invited her on a date near his home in Brooklyn.
- She called the man out online, saying it's inconsiderate to pick a place far from where she lives.
How close to your apartment is too close to invite someone on a date?
It's a question posed by TikToker Clarke Peoples — and one that seems to have social media divided.
On Saturday, Peoples took to Twitter to post a screenshot of a conversation with a Hinge match. In the screenshot, the unnamed Hinge match appears to ask Peoples on a date to a bar in East Williamsburg, Brooklyn. The problem, Peoples says, is that the bar is down the street from the man's apartment — and nearly an hour away from where she lives.
"My profile says I live on the west side of Manhattan, not close at all to this bar," Peoples said in a follow-up video posted to TikTok. In the video, Peoples says that the bar is nearly an hour away by subway from where she lives, or a $60 Uber ride each way.
"Even if it was the most beautiful bar in the world, how inconsiderate is it for you to ask a woman to travel so far out of her way to meet you at a place that you can literally see — you can literally spit on from the window in your bedroom?" Peoples continued. "That is insane."
@claaaarke and don’t even get me started on all of the people saying he simply did what i asked… one, simple reading shows he didn’t. but two, “mcdonald’s at 11 am” is a time and place—we can all agree that any response is not an appropriate one! 98% of the guys who have responded to that prompt have acknowledged my neighrbohood to pick a convenient spot for both of us. meeting halfway is not asking for too much—it’s common courtesy and says a lot about your intentions. life lesson!
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Peoples' point appears two-fold: That inviting someone on a date so close to your apartment is inconsiderate when the other person lives far away, and that it's a convenient way to get that person home after the date. Insider has reached out to Peoples for further comment.
While most users on TikTok appeared to take Peoples' side and commended her for calling out her Hinge match, Twitter users had a different reaction.
The post, which has 10.3 million views at the time of publication, racked up hundreds of comments from people who can't agree on whether or not inviting someone on a date near your house is rude or not. And while some appeared to defend Peoples, many went to bat for her Hinge match.
—Bobby (@BobbysByline) April 9, 2023
One Twitter user called her response "close-minded" and a "red flag," while another commented that the Hinge man was probably going to pay for Peoples' drinks, so asking her to pay for travel "isn't unreasonable at all."
Peoples doubled down on her response in her TikTok video.
"This may seem like a super small thing, but not even offering to meet me halfway for a first date is super indicative, one, of his intentions with me, and two, that he's just not considerate of me or my time, and probably wouldn't be later down the line," Peoples said in the video.