A woman decided not to risk wearing her 'dream dress' to a friend's wedding after thousands of TikTokers told her it wasn't appropriate

• A woman doubting if a dress she bought was wedding guest appropriate turned to TikTok for help.
• Angela Pham, a photographer, was considering wearing her "dream dress" to a friend's wedding.

A woman who had doubts about whether her "dream dress" was appropriate to wear to a friend's wedding said she decided not to "risk it" after thousands of TikTokers told her not to.

Angela Pham, a photographer based in New York City, sparked a massive style debate among TikTokers after she posted a video on Saturday asking people to weigh in on whether a vintage Carolina Herrera dress she bought on The RealReal was "permissible as a wedding guest to wear." The clip, which has over 683,000 views as of Thursday, caused a stir, with social media users flooding the comments with their honest takes.

"Please help, I really need your opinion in this very controversial manner," Pham told viewers.

In an earlier TikTok, Pham said she managed to find the dress after a year of searching for it. After trying it on, she said she felt like Carrie Bradshaw but kickstarted the debate when she wrote in the comment section asking viewers if they thought it would be OK to wear to a wedding.

In the newer TikTok, Pham gave a glimpse of the feedback she received. "Some of you said I would upstage the bride, some of you said that the skirt was too bridal, and a lot of you guys said it was totally fine to wear," she said.

Pham also said she crowdsourced opinions from four people knows, including her "gay best friend," a friend who works as a stylist, her mother, and a friend who recently got married. The first two said yes while the last two said no.

TikTokers were also divided in the comments of the newer video. One of the top liked comments was from a user who wrote: "No. Even if the bride doesn't care, others will and that will be an unnecessary distraction/invitation for negative energy on a special day."

"If you're confused on it, it's a no," another wrote.

"That's a hard no for the wedding," another TikToker wrote. "The skirt and shoes are giving bride, but the dress is amazing and you should keep it for another event."

Spoiler alert: Pham confirmed to Insider that after seeing the feedback, she decided not to wear the dress.

Pham is saving her 'dream dress' for another occasion

An avid collector of vintage gowns, Pham said that she'd fallen in love with this particular dress when she saw a TikTok of it last year. After coming across it by chance while searching for a wedding guest outfit on The RealReal recently, she decided to buy it for $550.

"I frequent vintage fairs and scour the internet for unique designer finds," Pham said. "This one in particular has such an interesting silhouette with its skin tight tube top, the drop waist, and the contrasting puffy skirt."

She added that the dress "fit like a glove" when it arrived, but that even before seeking outside opinions, she thought "the white skirt, despite the contrasting black top, was pushing it" for a wedding guest outfit.

As much as it's still her dream dress, Pham said she's taken onboard the comments from TikTok, which she initially turned to for help because she says people are on the platform are "so unfiltered."

"People on TikTok really have strong opinions and are not afraid to tell you the truth, and that makes it so much more real and interesting as a social media platform than, say, Instagram," she said.

In the end, Pham said she's got plenty of other "non-controversial" wedding guest outfit options in her closet. But that doesn't mean she's getting rid of her "dream dress" anytime soon.

"I am keeping the dress," she said. "But at the advice of TikTok, I am saving it for a non-wedding event."