A timeline of Trisha Paytas and Moses Hacmon's relationship, from a YouTube dating show to walking down the aisle and having a baby
- YouTuber Trisha Paytas is engaged to a man named Moses Hacmon.
- The couple met on a dating show and now have a daughter together.
- What started out as a joke grew into a long-term romance. Here's how it all unfolded.
YouTuber Trisha Paytas' dream came true when their boyfriend Moses Hacmon proposed while they were dressed as Aladdin and Princess Jasmine.
Here's a timeline of how the couple's relationship blossomed after meeting less than a year earlier, and how it's been paralleled by Paytas' turbulent friendship with Ethan Klein — Hacmon's brother-in-law.
Trisha Paytas first heard of Moses Hacmon when they appeared on the H3 Podcast
Paytas appeared on the H3 Podcast on February 24, 2020, which is hosted by fellow YouTubers Ethan and Hila Klein, after quite a long period of feuding. The beef between Paytas (who uses they/them pronouns) and Ethan Klein can be traced back to May 2019, when Klein insulted Paytas' appearance and criticized them for how much they edit their photos. Paytas responded by calling Klein a "disgusting piece of s---" for fat-shaming them and other women, and the pair continued to throw jibes at each other for the next several months.
This was Paytas' second appearance on the podcast, and the drama between them and Klein seemed to have died down for the most part. The Klein's decided they would try to find Paytas a boyfriend by hosting a "Bachelorette" style show.
Paytas chose some of their favorite contestants by judging their video entries, and also expressed an interest in Hila's brother Moses Hacmon on the second episode on March 14, 2020.
Before meeting Paytas, Hacmon didn't have much of a social media presence and wasn't really in the public eye. He does have a YouTube channel of his own, where he has over 14,000 subscribers, and posts hypnotic videos full of his musings, such as "You Are A Walking Tree," where he discusses what life really might be and the existence of souls.
Paytas agreed to the rules set by Klein — that it was preferred Paytas wouldn't message with any of the contestants in private, but if they did, they would have to be upfront about it.
The coronavirus lockdown put the show on hold, and Trisha started ignoring the rules of the show
Lockdown meant the contest was put on hold at the end of March 2020, and Paytas started breaking the rules of the show by hanging out with Hacmon behind the Klein's backs.
Paytas started posting photos of them and Hacmon on social media, much to the dismay of the Kleins.
"Social distancing together," Paytas tweeted with a heart and two photos with Hacmon in their garden.
"At the end I won the bachelorette. Thank u @h3h3productions," Paytas tweeted a few days later with another photo.
"Stop this right now," Klein tweeted back, adding a vomiting emoji. "I'm not really mad just confused and wondering what the actual f--- is going on."
Klein said he and Hila had no idea what was happening because Hacmon was avoiding their questions. They discussed the matter on their podcast, saying nobody had told them anything and they were just judging the situation from what they saw on social media.
Meanwhile, on April 3, 2020, Paytas tweeted, "Love being family" with yet another selfie with Hacmon.
"Sorry Trish but even Jesus here couldn't fix ur broken a--," Klein replied. Paytas asked him not to troll them for "being in love."
Trisha started learning Hebrew and prepping for Passover, apparently as a way to show their devotion to Moses
Hila and Hacmon are both Israeli and Jewish, and Paytas wanted to show how dedicated they were to their new love by learning about Jewish culture throughout April 2020.
Paytas posted one video on the Hebrew alphabet, then vlogged about prepping for Passover, where they bought Kosher foods from the supermarket and got dressed up for the occasion.
Paytas kept up their hobby of learning Hebrew words, and posted several TikToks where they sang songs or taught phrases.
They also received backlash online from people who believed they were fetishizing Jewish and Israeli culture.
Trisha then started accusing the Kleins of trying to their relationship with Moses
Paytas started accusing the Kleins of trying to ruining their relationship with Hacmon. Paytas thought the Kleins were being naysayers and trying to warn him away, while the Kleins insisted they just wanted to know what was going on.
"U can't cut through the earth," Paytas tweeted at Klein on April 3, 2020. "We are soulmates. So u can't set it on fire even if u wanted to. I've been trying to be nice and respectful but stop coming for me bro."
Klein then told Paytas to stop trying to cut Hacmon off from his family, "like Scientology."
"He's a big boy I think he can make his own decisions," Paytas responded.
On April 14, 2020, Paytas posted a series of now-deleted tweets to Klein, saying he was jealous.
Paytas then uploaded a video called "h3 ruined my relationship" on April 14, 2020, which they said was "one of the saddest videos" they had ever made. Paytas spoke in-depth about how much they cared for Hacmon and went into details about their sex life, and then blamed the Kleins for the relationship ending.
On April 22, Trisha uploaded a video with Moses eating Korean fried cheese, showing they clearly had chemistry
A week after the tearful video, Paytas posted a Mukbang of Hacmon in their car eating Korean friend cheese on April 22, 2020. The video is called "my special guest is water," referring to Hacmon's name on YouTube: Channel Water.
They spoke about judgment, love, and hate, and Paytas' love of deep-fried food. The video showed that Hacmon and Paytas had undeniable chemistry, and also led many fans to comment on how much of a calming, mature presence Hacmon was for Paytas, who's known for their chaotic energy.
The Klein's reacted to the video in their podcast on April 25, 2020. Klein said he "couldn't believe" what the situation had turned into. Hila said it highlighted to her how "worlds should not collide" and she was mentally checking out of the whole thing.
"This is so f---ing bizarre," said Klein. "That my brother-in-law, Hila's brother, is now in a Trisha Paytas video doing Mukbangs and I didn't even know. I don't even know that they're hanging out."
Trisha continued to post YouTube videos and TikToks with Moses, despite accusing him of cheating
Hacmon appeared on an episode of Paytas' podcast "The Dish With Trish" on April 29 2020, which was titled "OUR QUARANTINE ROMANCE." Paytas confirmed they had been quarantining together.
"We barely knew each other at the start of quarantine, and now we're inseparable," Paytas said.
Things were fairly quiet until July 7, 2020, when Paytas posted another now-deleted episode of their podcast titled "exposing the dms" where they dragged Hacmon for speaking to other women. Paytas said he had been catfished — being lured into an online relationship by someone who is pretending to be somebody else — by a fan multiple times, and read out their conversations.
Hacmon and Paytas appeared to sort things out over the next month, though, and Paytas posted sporadic vlogs and TikToks with Hacmon in them, including the videos "jack in the box with my zohan" on August 4 and "Trying Israeli Food with my יִשׂרְאֵלִי הֶחָבֵר" on August 11.
The couple talked through Paytas' exposé on a subsequent episode called "addressing those DMs" on August 11, 2020. Paytas asked Hacmon why he returned to the podcast.
"Why am I back? We can't stay away from each other," he said.
Paytas has made a career out of controversy, and often says things in YouTube videos that later turn out not to be true. They are known to say they were "trolling" when called out. So during this period, it was difficult to determine whether the relationship with Hacmon was real, or all for attention.
The 'Frenemies' podcast in September shed some light on the situation
Paytas and Klein started a podcast together on September 15, 2020, called "Frenemies." The first episode was titled "Trisha's New Boyfriend Is Hila's Brother," and seemingly cleared up a lot of the uncertainty about Paytas and Hacmon's romance.
"Why are you dating my brother-in-law?" Klein asked six minutes into the show. Paytas explained they were officially together, despite it all starting as a joke.
"At first I just thought it was funny, I could f--- him and then come back on the podcast and be like, 'Ha, I f---ed your brother," they said. "That's how it started for sure."
Paytas said things grew from there, and they were planning on buying a house together.
Hacmon's presence became a staple on the "Frenemies" podcast, being typically off-camera, but often answered questions from Klein and Paytas, or brought them food.
On episode 13, posted on December 10, 2020, an argument broke out when Klein mentioned that Hila did not want to be talked about on the podcast, as the things Paytas was saying were causing tension between her and Hacmon. A running topic of conversation had been that Hacmon was not fully honest with his family about his and Paytas' relationship, which seemed to be a sore point of discussion for Paytas.
Klein tried to explain to Paytas that it wasn't about them — rather, it was a family argument and Hacmon not communicating with his sister and mother. But Paytas took offense and seemed incredibly upset by the situation. After some discussion, Paytas cried and walked out on the show, swearing, and saying that they "hated" Hila.
Hacmon, who had gone out to collect pizzas for the show, returned to the chaos. Paytas said they were quitting the show the next day. However, they returned the following week, and apologized for their "meltdown."
Paytas and Hacmon announced they were engaged on Christmas day, and have also bought a house together
On Christmas day 2020, Paytas announced they were engaged to Hacmon. They posted pictures on Instagram of the moment he proposed at the Imperial Sand Dunes in California on December 18, 2020, while they were dressed up as Aladdin and Princess Jasmine for a photoshoot.
Paytas also posted a video of the proposal to their YouTube channel.
"You guys it's 100% real !!!!!!!" Paytas wrote in the description. "It happened 1 week ago today and it was a total surprise to me, I'm in complete shock still but I couldn't be happier. It doesn't feel real. We are in bed reading all the comments and I'm overwhelmed by all the love and support. WE GETTING MARRIED YALL!!"
The video received some backlash from people who accused Paytas of cultural appropriation, as Princess Jasmine is an Asian character.
Paytas has been in several high-profile relationships throughout their career. Many commentators have noted that they seem to be in the most healthy romantic relationship that they have ever been public about.
In a vlog posted on January 9, Paytas discussed their mental health, and how Hacmon deals with their episodes of rage and anger. Hacmon highlighted the importance of patience, communication, and never walking away from an argument.
On January 27, 2021, Paytas revealed they had moved into their new mansion with Hacmon. The 7,484 square foot home cost $3.675 million according to Dirt.com.
In 2021, Hacmon and Paytas' relationship with the Kleins dissolved
In June 2021, Paytas dramatically quit "Frenemies" after an argument with Klein about where money was spent on the show. They walked off set in an explosive episode, and their friendship has only worsened since, with each telling their respective sides of the story in tweets and multiple videos throughout the summer. Hacmon appeared to publicly side with his fiancée, causing further tensions within the family.
Klein and Paytas' jabs at one another became less frequent as time went on, until September 2021, when Hacmon was accused by an ex-partner of "stealthing" — the act of removing a condom during sex without consent. Hacmon denied the allegation.
Paytas leaked screenshots of their conversations with the Kleins to Twitter, where Paytas pleaded for everything to "stop." They said Hacmon's ex was lying, and begged to be left alone. Paytas then posted multiple videos where they sobbed and said joining "Frenemies" had been a "life-ruining" mistake.
Hacmon and Paytas made it clear that they were sticking by each other, and the allegations plaguing their relationship weren't going to tear them apart.
In December 2021, Paytas and Hacmon announced they'd wed
On December 12, Paytas posted two YouTube videos and two TikTok videos announcing the pair had married the previous day.
Paytas wore a black, floor-length glittery gown and veil for the ceremony, and revealed in a TikTok that they walked down the aisle to the My Chemical Romance song "Welcome to the Black Parade."
A number of videos purportedly filmed by attendees at the ceremony circulated across social media, including one where Paytas can be heard saying, "I'm a fluid person so it just kind of makes sense that we meshed together and found each other. And knowing that we never die and that we do become one body of water together at the end, I really look forward to that with you."
During a vlog titled "WE'RE MARRIED!" Hacmon said he tried to leave the venue to get a different shirt because his didn't fit. According to Hacmon, the valets told him that they were under instruction from Paytas to not give him a car or let him leave.
In September 2022, Paytas announced the birth of the couple's daughter, Malibu Barbie Paytas-Harmon
In February 2022, Paytas announced they were pregnant with their first child.
The news came after the YouTuber had previously spoken about dealing with infertility issues. In January 2016, Paytas posted a video titled "Why I can't have children," in which they said they contracted chlamydia which went undiagnosed for years and led to them being told by doctors that they could never conceive naturally.
On September 15, Paytas took to Instagram to announce that they'd given birth the day before to a daughter, which the couple named Malibu Barbie Paytas-Harmon. The post received more than 60,000 likes within its first 30 minutes.
The pair spent the months leading up to the birth chronicling the pregnancy via Paytas's own YouTube channel, and on a new channel, the "Paytas-Hacmon Family Channel."
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