A complete timeline of Camilla's complicated relationship with Prince William and Prince Harry
Erin McDowell
- Camilla Parker Bowles married King Charles in 2005, becoming stepmother to William and Harry.
- In his memoir, "Spare," Harry said he and William begged their father not to marry her.
1986: Prince Charles reportedly started a romantic relationship with his ex-girlfriend and friend Camilla Parker Bowles, five years after he married Diana and two years after Harry was born.
Prince William was born on June 21, 1982, while Prince Harry was born on September 15, 1984.
According to Sally Bedell Smith's 2017 biography of then-Prince Charles, he and Camilla reportedly began having an affair in 1986, after years of a platonic friendship.
Camilla's husband, Andrew, reportedly knew about the affair and did little to stop it. Diana also reportedly knew about the affair.
In November 1992, details about the affair were leaked to the British tabloids in a scandal dubbed "Camillagate." As Insider previously reported, an "intimate transcript of a 1989 phone call between Charles and Camilla was released to the public in November 1992. The call was scandalous and sexual in nature, with Charles joking he would like to be transformed into a pair of Parker Bowles' "knickers" or her tampon, according to the transcript.
"I'll just live inside your trousers or something," he said. "It would be much easier."
June 1994: When William and Harry were 12 and 9, Charles publicly admitted to having an affair with Camilla, and Princess Diana wore her famous "revenge dress."
In June 1994, Charles admitted to having an affair with Camilla during an interview with documentary filmmaker Jonathan Dimbleby.
Though the documentary was initially intended to improve public opinion of the then-prince, he ended up admitting to his infidelity, saying he was "faithful and honorable" to Diana during their marriage "until it became irretrievably broken down, us both having tried."
Dimbleby's biography of the prince, "The Prince of Wales: A Biography," later confirmed that Camilla was the woman involved with Charles during his marriage to Diana.
The same night the documentary was released, Diana attended a Vanity Fair party wearing what would be called the "revenge dress," a form-fitting, off-the-shoulder LBD by designer Christina Stambolian.
January 1995: Camilla filed for a divorce from her husband, Andrew Parker Bowles.
Camilla and Andrew Parker Bowles, who married in 1973, announced they were getting divorced in 1995, amidst the media firestorm of Camilla and Charles' affair.
November 1995: In an interview that aired on the BBC, Princess Diana revealed her husband had an affair during their marriage.
She shared these thoughts during her now-controversial BBC1 "Panorama" interview with Martin Bashir in 1995.
The interview went into other details of the marriage, her relationship with the royal family and press, as well as her struggle with bulimia. She also admitted to an affair with her riding instructor.
Following the interview, Diana's brother, Charles Spencer, alleged Bashir showed Diana fake documents to persuade her to take part in the interview. The BBC apologized in May 2021 after an inquiry found "deceitful" tactics had been used to secure the interview, and Bashir resigned from his role as the BBC's religion editor.
August 1996: Charles and Diana officially filed for divorce after 15 years of marriage.
Diana received a generous divorce settlement, the right to continue using her title of Princess of Wales, and retained her apartments at Kensington Palace. However, the "people's princess" had to relinquish the title of Her Royal Highness and any future claims to the British throne.
In her interview with Bashir, Diana admitted she never saw herself ruling the United Kingdom, but wanted to remain "a queen in people's hearts."
Harry has been open about how their parents' split affected him and William when they were young boys.
"There was the point where our parents split and ... we never saw our mother enough or we never saw our father enough," Harry said in the 2017 documentary "Diana, Our Mother: Here Life and Legacy."
"I don't pretend we're the only people to have to deal with that, but it was an interesting way of growing up," he continued.
August 31, 1997: Diana died in a car crash in Paris, leaving behind her two sons.
In the early hours of August 31, 1997, Diana and her boyfriend Dodi Fayed were involved in a car crash that killed them and their driver, Henri Paul, in Paris, France. According to the Telegraph, Fayed and Paul were both killed on impact, while the then-Princess of Wales, aged just 36, died due to injuries sustained in the crash at a French hospital a few hours later.
Following her death, Charles traveled to Paris to bring her body back to England. He also reportedly halted plans to formally announce Camilla as his partner.
There was an immense public outpouring of grief for Diana, "the people's princess," following her death.
At her funeral, her brother, Earl Spencer, said in his eulogy, "For such was her extraordinary appeal that the tens of millions of people taking part in this service all over the world via television and radio who never actually met her, feel that they too lost someone close to them in the early hours of Sunday morning. It is a more remarkable tribute to Diana than I can ever hope to offer her today."
September 1997: Harry, then 12, and William, then 15, grieved their mother publicly, which Harry later called "strange" and "hard."
In his and Meghan Markle's documentary series, "Harry & Meghan," which premiered on Netflix in December 2022, Harry said that when his mother died, he and William had "two hats to wear."
"One was two grieving sons wanting to cry, grieve, and process that grief because of losing our mum," Harry said. "And two was the royal hat: Show no emotion, get out there, meet the people, shake the hands."
"The UK literally swept me and William up as their children. An expectation to see myself and William out and about was really hard for the two of us," he continued.
1998: William reportedly met Camilla for the first time. Harry was not there for the initial introduction.
After the public's emotional response to Diana's passing, Camilla and Charles kept their relationship out of the public eye, but still made an effort to integrate their newly open relationship into the royal family.
William, then 16, had a 30-minute meeting with Camilla at St James's Palace in June 1998 after he dropped by unexpectedly, The Sun reported in 1998, according to The Guardian, which confirmed the account with a spokesperson for Charles. Charles was also there, according to the report.
Shortly after, Camilla met Harry for the first time.
Camilla and William met twice more — over tea and lunch — before she was introduced to Harry, according to The Sun's and The Guardian's 1998 reports.
Harry later described her in "Spare" as "bored" during their meeting, saying it was "pure formality" for her to meet with him given that he wasn't the heir and would not be an obstacle in their relationship.
He said they made small talk about horses during their first meeting, but that he couldn't help but wonder if she would become his "wicked stepmother."
August 1999: Camilla reportedly accompanied Charles and his sons on a trip to Greece, indicating that their relationship was growing closer.
It appeared to the world that William and Harry were starting to get closer to their future stepmother in the summer of 1999.
According to the BBC, the foursome took a trip to Greece together that year.
2004: Harry and William "begged" their father not to marry Camilla.
Almost two decades later, Harry wrote in "Spare" that he didn't think it was necessary for Charles to marry Camilla and that he and William asked their father not to marry a second time.
"'We support you,' we said. 'We endorse Camilla,' we said. Just please don't marry her," Harry wrote in the book.
"William and I wanted our father to be happy … We asked him not to get married, he chose to, and that's his decision. But the two of them were, and are, very happy together," he told ITV News at Ten presenter Tom Bradby in January 2023.
April 9, 2005: Charles and Camilla married after years of courtship. Prince William and Prince Harry were both in attendance.
After moving into Clarence House together in August 2003, the couple announced their engagement roughly two years later.
More than 30 years after the couple met at a polo match, Charles and Camilla married in a civil ceremony at Windsor Guildhall.
Prince Harry and Prince William were in attendance, as were Camilla's children from her first marriage, Laura and Tom.
September 2005: Harry publicly supported his father's marriage to Camilla and said that both he and William "love [Camilla] to bits".
"She's a wonderful woman and she's made our father very, very happy, which is the most important thing," he said during an interview for his 21st birthday, according to Hello! magazine. "Look at the position she's come into. Don't always feel sorry for me and William, feel sorry for her. We are grateful for her… we're very happy to have her around."
"To be honest, she's always been very close to me and William. But no, she's not the wicked stepmother, I'll say that right now," he continued.
August 31, 2007: Camilla did not attend a 10-year anniversary memorial for Princess Diana.
Prince William, Prince Harry, Charles, and other members of the royal family attended Diana's memorial service. However, Camilla was notably not in attendance, saying in a statement released through Clarence House that she believed her presence "could divert attention from the purpose of the occasion which is to focus on the life and service of Diana," ABC News reported at the time.
2016: Royal author Christopher Andersen claimed Camilla may have been a factor in William and Kate Middleton's brief breakup in 2007.
At the time of the breakup, "everyone" thought William was going to propose to Kate, Andersen told The Daily Beast in 2016, so he was shocked to learn of the split.
"And then people started telling me that Camilla was behind it," he said.
"She did not look at Kate as someone who was worthy of joining the Royal Family," Andersen continued. "Kate is the first working-class woman to be accepted into the Royal Family. She is descended from coal miners and her mother was a flight attendant."
Andersen, who has covered the royal family for 40 years and published multiple books about them, told The Daily Beast that he had "people telling me information about what's going on behind the scenes," both on the record and not.
He added, "I was told at the time of the breakup, and later on as well, that Camilla basically whispered in Charles's ear that it was really time to make — to force — William to make a decision one way or the other."
William and Kate have never shared the reason for their split, although other reports have pointed to pressure from the media and William not being ready to commit. Following their 2010 engagement, the royal couple spoke about the breakup in an interview with ITV News.
"We were both very young," William said. "We were both at university, we were both finding ourselves as such, being different characters. We were both trying to find our own way with a bit of space, we were growing up and ... it worked out for the better."
Kate added, "I think I at the time wasn't very happy about it, but actually it made me a stronger person. You find out things about yourself that maybe you hadn't realised, or I think you can get quite consumed by a relationship when you are younger. And I really valued that time for me as well although I didn't think it at the time, looking back on it."
June 8, 2019: Harry and Camilla rode in an open carriage together during Trooping the Colour, the last time they were photographed conversing together in close proximity.
They took the carriage with Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle.
Shortly after Harry and Meghan attended the Trooping the Colour parade, the couple shared their decision to be "financially independent" and take a "step back" from the royal family in January 2020.
March 2020: The royal family attended the Commonwealth Day service at Westminster Abbey. Harry later said he felt "distant" from his family at the event.
In March 2020, Meghan and Harry returned to the UK for their final engagements as senior royals and attended the Commonwealth Day service at Westminster Abbey. Footage of the service showed the couple sitting behind the Queen, Charles, Camilla, William, and Kate, however Harry and Meghan's relationship with those senior royals appeared tense.
Richard Fitzwilliams, a royal commentator, told Insider that the interactions between Meghan and Harry and William and Kate, or lack thereof, were visibly "frosty." The couples acted noticeably cold to one another, barely making eye contact or speaking to one another, despite being seated just one row apart.
"I felt really distant from my family," Harry later said in Netflix's "Harry & Meghan."
He added, "So much of how they operate is about what it looks like, rather than what it feels like. And it looked cold. But it also felt cold."
July 1, 2021: Charles and Camilla did not attend the unveiling of a new statue of Diana on what would have been her 60th birthday.
Charles had a trip planned to Scotland during the unveiling, Insider reported, citing The Sun.
A source told The Times of London, "He does find it terribly difficult. These moments have the potential to resurface old wounds, and it brings back memories for him; happy, sad, regretful."
However, their sons, William and Harry, did attend the unveiling of the statue, designed by Ian Rank-Broadley, at Kensington Palace's Sunken Gardens. Harry traveled to the UK from his home in Santa Barbara, California, to attend the event.
"Today, on what would have been our mother's 60th birthday, we remember her love, strength, and character – qualities that made her a force for good around the world, changing countless lives for the better," the brothers said in a joint statement. "Every day, we wish she were still with us, and our hope is that this statue will be seen forever as a symbol of her life and her legacy."
October 2022: Royal author Angela Levin claimed Prince William doesn't see Camilla as a step-grandmother to his children.
"William has made it clear that Camilla is the wife of his father, but not a step-grandmother to his children" and that William's three children — George, Charlotte, and Louis — know they have "two grandfathers but only one grandmother," Levin wrote in her book, "Camilla: From Outcast to Queen Consort."
"William and Harry were 23 and 20, respectively, when Camilla officially became their stepmother in 2005," Levin wrote. "She was more of a friendly grown-up they saw occasionally at royal gatherings. She tried to be encouraging rather than influential."
January 2023: Harry revealed he believed his stepmother and a member of her and Charles' press team had leaked stories about him and William to the media.
Harry claimed that negative news stories about him and William were leaked by members of the royal family, namely Camilla, and their press offices to warm the public to Charles and Camilla and "rehabilitate her image" after Charles' and Diana's marriage ended.
Harry also claimed that William knew Camilla had been behind the leak and that he had told her about a disagreement between him, Kate, Harry, and Meghan over a bridesmaid dress ahead of Harry and Meghan's wedding.
The story was later reported by the press, and Harry alleged he and William knew Camilla had been the one to tell her press office about the incident.
"Stories began to appear everywhere, in all the papers, about her private conversation with William, stories that contained pinpoint accurate details, none of it which had come from Willy, of course. They could only have been leaked by the one other person present," Harry wrote in "Spare."
"And the leaking had obviously been abetted by the new spin doctor Camilla had talked Pa into hiring," he continued.
"If you are led to believe, as a member of the family, that being on the front page, having positive headlines, positive stories written about you, is going to improve your reputation or increase the chances of you being accepted as monarch by the British public, then that's what you're gonna do," he told Anderson Cooper on "60 Minutes."
Buckingham Palace has not commented on any of the claims made in "Spare," and when asked for comment on Harry's "60 Minutes" and "Good Morning America" interviews, they declined to do so unless they were provided with the interviews prior to airing. Neither "60 Minutes" nor "Good Morning America" did so, per their policies.
January 9, 2023: Harry clarified his comments, saying he has "compassion" for Camilla but that they "haven't spoken for a long time."
"We haven't spoken for a long time. I love every member of my family. When we see each other, we're perfectly pleasant with each other. She's my stepmother. I don't look at her as an evil stepmother," Harry told Michael Strahan during an interview for "Good Morning America."
"I see her as someone who married into this institution and has done everything she can to improve her own reputation and own image for her own sake," he continued.
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