Derek and Marissa Eligio are learning how to best give each other space and time during the quarantine.Derek Eligio
- Due to COVID-19, many people are quarantined with their partners, and spending more time together than ever before.
- As a result, they're learning a lot about their significant other, as well as about their relationship overall.
- Here, 9 people share the main thing they've learned about their partner as a result of being quarantined with them.
- One woman discovered that her husband needs alone time each day, while another realized her fiancé's work ethic is making her more productive.
- Their stories show how spending so much time in close quarters can often bring couples closer together.
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With cities across the world in various states of lockdown due to COVID-19, many couples are suddenly finding themselves quarantined with their partners 24/7. Some have never spent this much time together, especially as they navigate challenges like working from home and childcare.
To make sure things go smoothly, licensed marriage family therapist (LMFT) Jennie Marie Battistin, founding director of Hope Therapy Center, suggests that couples do 10-minute SOS (Save Our Soul) check-ins to "help reduce stress, increase emotional connection and understanding, and a sense of 'we are in this together,'" she told Insider.
She recommends doing the check-in over a cup of tea or while playing some soothing music, and starting with "I appreciated when," followed by "I am feeling or thinking 'x' about 'y' and I need 'z' from you." When you reverse the discussion, instead of offering solutions, ask: "Is there anything I can do to help?"
Battistin also recommends that each person create a "sanctuary zone" which can be something like a room, favorite chair, or patio area with some of their favorite things.
"When you enter into your partner's zone, consider it a no-go on discussing negative feelings or problems — save it for your daily SOS check-in time," she said.
From all the togetherness, many couples are also discovering new things about their significant others, as well as about their relationships overall.
Here, 9 people share the primary thing they've learned about their partner as a result of being quarantined with them.
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