The former head of the FBI's behavioral analysis program says there are 3 strategies you can use to connect with anyone

Ever walked up to a stranger at a party, a networking event, or just a new acquaintance and wanted to make sure they left the conversation with a positive impression?

Robin Dreeke, the former head of the FBI's behavioral analysis program, a current FBI agent, and coauthor of "The Code of Trust" shared three strategies with Business Insider to connect with anyone, anywhere. Following is a transcript of the video.

Three ways to build connections with people is by asking questions, active listening, and decoding nonverbal behavior. It's really pretty simple because when you ask questions, the other person's brain's automatically engaging. It's the best thing you do.

Again, when you're asking questions, again, nonjudgmentally or in a challenging way, but from a seeking to understand way, you're demonstrating their value and you're demonstrating an affiliation, and their brain is really rich and rewarded for it.

Did you ever hear the expression, "Hey, you want to plant seeds for someone to think about tomorrow?"

You don't do that by telling someone what to do, or telling them your thoughts and opinions. You do that by asking them questions because their brain will engage those things and they can't stop. So, that's the first one.

Active listening - that is really simple for me because, by just demonstrating that you're listening by following up on the statements and information they're giving you during an encounter.

Get rid of the things that you think you had to say in any kind of script, and pay attention to what they're saying and follow up with even deeper questions about understanding who they are and their thoughts and opinions.

And finally is the nonverbals. And what we're in nonverbal behavior to demonstrate that we actually do have affiliation and liking going on, is we're looking for the smiling, maybe a little head tilt, exposing a carotid artery, trusting the world not to rip out my jugular. Palms up, ventral displays, eyebrow elevation, all these things are saying and demonstrating we have liking, we have affiliation. As opposed to the eyebrow compression, lip compression. This is saying you're not doing something right, and you need to adjust what you're doing in order to make that connection.