8 tips for surviving the workday when you're going through a divorce

Find a safe space

Feeling stressed? Take a break.

"Go for a walk, get a cup of coffee, or go sit in your car or a quiet corner and shut your eyes for 10 minutes and just breathe," he suggests.

Keep your mind busy

Take on tasks, join group conversations, and add to your workload to stay busy, says Frank. "The more you have to do, the less time on your hands to focus on the divorce."

Be selective in who you share this news with

"Inform your supervisor," he says. "Let them know that you are going through a life-changing event, and although you may seem off at times, that you are very focused on the job and will ensure your duties are performed."

Don't talk to everyone about your divorce — nothing good will come out of it. "Do you really need a dozen people asking you every day, 'How's the divorce going?'"

Leave the drama at home

When you enter your job, commit to the next eight hours and leave your drama at home, he advises. "Keep your cell phone in the drawer. Avoid the texts from friends and family, agitating emails from the lawyer, and any communication from your spouse that can disrupt your day."

Have a go-to answer prepared

Coworkers are going to recognize that something is off, and having a response ready for when they ask you what's up is important. "Something like, 'I'm currently going through something person, and do appreciate your concern — but I'll be fine, thank you' is a good option," says Frank. "Let them know that you appreciate the concern, but are not open to further discussion."

Identify quick mood boosters

Know what will help boost your mood so you can do that thing whenever you start feeling down. For example, is listening to music brings you up, have a few upbeat songs downloaded on your work computer. "Put on your headphones or speakers, and listen to your favorite tunes, preferably something that is relaxing," says Frank.

Clean up your desk and clear your mind

"No need to stare at pictures of you and your soon-to-be ex on vacation in Mexico, or looking a family picture all day," Frank says. "Those are sure to set off emotions that will interfere with your ability to focus."