8 rules for living harmoniously with your parents at 30

Get a job! In my case, I set up shop as a freelance writer. You are bound to feel your freedom being hampered when you live with Mom and Dad, but having money is a version of freedom. Income lets you go out for drinks with friends and buy yourself nice things.

Beyond this surface-level stuff, earning money places you several rungs higher on the household ladder. It puts you in a position to contribute, which leads immediately to my next point.

The bigger idea here is “find ways to ease your burden on Mom and Dad.” When I moved home, it represented a 50% increase in household population.

The fridge couldn’t stay full enough, and I was a big part of the reason why. It was a no-brainer for me to spend a little money on the occasional grocery run.

Mom and Dad didn’t keep financial score on the food I ate, because my gesture of bringing resources into the house was more valuable than the eggs that disappeared every morning.

In simplest terms: Clean your room. The bonus power move is to tidy up after your parents, but beware of doing so passive aggressively.

Nothing will solidify your family unit quite like eating together on the regular. Ask your parents about their days, their friends, and their plans.

Have positive things to say when they ask you about yours. Put your dishes in the dishwasher when you’re finished eating. You likely know these moves from when you were younger.

How better to avoid the negative, stereotypical perception of “stay-at-home loser” than by visiting new places and doing interesting things? In my case, I took a twice-a-week Russian class and joined a local chess club.

No matter how small or undesirable you consider your hometown, there is worthwhile community to be found outside of your family.

Do you drink and smoke? Do you have a beloved vice that is totally alien to your parents? Minimize it, hide it, or replace it with something constructive.

How do you want to remember your time with your parents? Disagreements are probably inevitable, but screaming matches are a choice. The ball is in your court to tip the scales in favor of positive memories over negative memories.

One way or another, you will have your own living space in time. So pass that time with your parents peacefully.

These are the people who created you, after all.