I'm married to a twin. Here's my advice on marrying one.

• I've always been obsessed with twins, and while I don't have twins, I did marry one.
• My husband has a twin sister.

Twins are inherently special and attract attention. For both of these salient reasons, I was obsessed with multiple births while growing up.

Back then, I set my future sights on either being best friends with a set of twins or giving birth to my own. While neither of these aspirations came true, something else did. I married a twin.

At first, things seemed great despite me being anxious

I vividly remember the first time I met the sister who my husband had shared a womb with. I'd been anxious about it because I had no navigation system for this kind of terrain. To up the ante, by the time she flew to LA to meet me, I had already proposed marriage to her brother, Drew, live in front of four million TV viewers on the KTLA Morning News. The show's producer, whom I worked with regularly as a Los Angeles publicist, had explained that on Valentine's Day of a leap year, women were allowed to turn the tables, so I shot my shot.

Drew took his sister and me to dinner at a lovely Italian restaurant near Hancock Park that first night. I found Michele, who worked as a corporate trial attorney in Philadelphia, to be open, warm, and lovely. The two of us talked and talked while Drew beamed — and said very little. Toward the end of the evening, I asked my future sister-in-law to be one of my bridesmaids at our upcoming wedding.

At our reception a year later, I approached her and asked, "Could I borrow your bouquet for the cake table? The photographer wants to take a few shots."

"Oh, I gave it away at the church after the ceremony — to someone who could enjoy it," she replied and then turned to one of her young nephews, who'd come running up to her in tears. I turned away, the better to hide my own. My heart pounded while negative thoughts swirled inside my head. Why couldn't she enjoy her bouquet? Was our wedding more of a mourning for her? Did she think I would come between her and her brother?

I struggled at first, but now we have an incredible bond

I must admit that during the first year or two of our marriage, I struggled. I knew I was being petty, but I still resented having to share my man "with another woman." Fortunately, as time passed, those feelings did too. I became pregnant with our first child, and when my son was born, my sister-in-law became an amazingly attentive and doting aunt, which she did while living on the opposite side of the country. Later, when our daughter arrived, we asked her to be the godmother. Today, my sister-in-law and I share an important bond, one that we've forged on our own.

These are my top 5 tips when it comes to being married to a twin

1. Support and encourage private time for the twins whenever you visit. While what they do together may change over time, their need for privacy will be a constant.

2. Know that twins don't refer to "my" birthday but to "our" birthday, and they highly prefer to be together on that day.

3. Nip in the bud your spouse's probable tendency to call his or her twin for relationship advice. Set boundaries on what your spouse can and cannot share.

4. Be prepared to meet more twins, as your spouse will have a twin-dar (or twin radar), meaning they will attract and connect with people who are also twins.

5. Realize that twins share an impenetrable code of silence. The good news is that your spouse will also be able to keep your secrets. And don't fret about theirs, as these take-it-to-the-grave scoops are almost always about past childhood capers or scrapes.