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I'm almost 7 feet tall. My problems include dating and meeting strangers — here are the most difficult challenges.

Dec 9, 2023, 21:18 IST
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The author is taller than most doorframes.Courtesy of Mark Cusack
  • I'm exceptionally tall, and it comes with some big challenges.
  • People are always badgering me with questions and comments about my height.
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I'm almost 7 feet tall. I have always been taller than most of my peers. I got it from my father, who's the same height as me, measuring 6 feet 9 inches. I have two brothers who are about the same height.

Many people assume that being tall is a good thing. Don't get me wrong; it's not the worst, but when you're exceptionally tall, life can be tricky in several ways.

People are always — and I mean always — commenting on my height

People comment on my height every day — every single day. After years of these comments, it has become utterly mind-numbing. I appreciate the few people who don't mention my height upon meeting me. For that precious moment, I almost feel like a normal human being.

People also love asking me precisely how tall I am. It strikes me how asking someone for any other bodily measurement would be weird and even rude, but asking me my height seems to be fair game.

Then, when I tell them, they stare at me — stunned. It's like they suddenly realize that they have no use for the information. "Wow," they usually say and then just leave an awkward silence as if I am expected to grow horns and clamber down a nearby beanstalk or something. It's a bizarre experience.

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I'm constantly bombarded with pointless questions

After strangers ask how tall I am, I sometimes get follow-up questions. These include, "Do you play basketball," and, "I've got a friend who's tall — do you know him?" to, "Do you struggle to find clothes?"

Some of the weirder ones I've had are, "Have you been to the Netherlands — they're really tall there," and, "Can you lift me up?"

The interrogation is endless. I'm left there thinking: "Why are we having this conversation?"

Dating is strange for me as a supertall person

If I am dating online, I have to remember to tell people my height. I sometimes put a carefully taken picture in my profile to make it obvious. People very often get weird when they realize it. I have had people tell me I'm "too tall to date."

I also get people who are really into me because of my height. That's where it gets even weirder. I'm frequently reminded that I'm a fetish. You wouldn't believe the number of times people have asked me whether I'm "in proportion." It's outrageous, but they ask it anyway.

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People make unwanted sexualized comments to me and gossip about my size all the time. I have also encountered people who want me to send them pictures of me "looking like a giant" for them to get off on.

It feels like the world isn't made to fit people like me

In addition to all this, there are the daily challenges of getting around. The standard doorframe is shorter than me, so I hit my head all the time. Buses and most other public transportation don't have room for my legs. I often can't even stand in metros, and I don't fit in most cars.

I also cannot buy clothes; no jeans or pants fit me — none. It's like every store just decided that tall people don't need clothes.

The worst is any sort of crowded event. I can't stand anywhere without the person behind me getting aggressive. "I can't see now. You're in the way," one person yelled at me. The problem is, I'm in the way everywhere.

There are only so many times I can apologize for existing.

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I have always felt self-conscious about my height

Anyone who doesn't fit the norm will know that sometimes it can get you down. The strange thing about being tall, though, is that most people presume it's this great thing. People say, "I wish I was your height," without thinking about what they're wishing for.

This also goes for the comments. People don't seem to think that I may feel uncomfortable about my body being constantly commented on. I'm a very self-conscious person and not confident in my body for this reason.

So the next time you see a supertall person, why not give us some love? Come and chat with us about anything — just not our height.

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