I went to a flirting class with a dating expert and she taught me her 4 surefire techniques to attract dates

Julia NaftulinAug 28, 2021, 18:32 IST

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I took a one-on-one flirting class with a dating expert who specializes in text-based flirting.
She said leading with curiosity is more important than finding a match who is similar to you.
We practiced flirting via text message, during a first date, and with a random stranger.

On any given day, you can find Amy Nobile sitting in front of eight iPads, messaging singles through different dating profiles that belong to her clients.

As the founder of Love, Amy, Nobile works one-on-one with singles to teach them how to flirt on dating apps, secure quality matches, and find meaningful relationships.

Through the iPads, Nobile is able to log into her clients' dating app profiles at the same time they do. It leads to a collaborative experience, where Nobile show clients how to flirt over text and then lets them take the wheel.

For $5,000, clients get three months of flirting coaching, in-person date coaching, and on-demand support from Nobile.

I met with Nobile in her West Village apartment in Manhattan, where she walked me through the lessons she teaches singles looking for love.

This is Amy Nobile. She the founder of Love, Amy, a dating app-focused matchmaking service.

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Nobile runs her dating app service out of her apartment in Manhattan. That's where I met her for our one-on-one session.

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Before meeting a client for a full session, Nobile interviews them about who they are and their relationship history.

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Next, Nobile explained what fruitful flirting entails. To my surprise, she said it's more about your attitude than what you're talking about.

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To practice flirting over dating apps, Nobile printed out a real man's Bumble profile and handed it to me. She instructed me to play myself and send an initial message, and said she'd play Mike, my mysterious suitor.

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To practice flirting over dating apps, Nobile printed out a real man's Bumble profile and handed it to me. She instructed me to play myself and send an initial message, and said she'd play Mike, my mysterious suitor.

Nobile didn't take it easy on me. As Mike, Nobile played up our differences and questioned our compatibility. She wrote that my love of napping could be a deal breaker.

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Unsure what to say next, I decided to end the text banter with Nobile-as-Mike. I wrote, "Fair enough."

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Nobile told me not to worry, as flirting via text is the concept her clients find hardest to grasp.

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After admitting my worry of coming off too negative during the dating app test, Nobile also showed me a Tyra Banks-inspired exercise she does to get into the flirting mindset.

Nobile said she "flirts with her eyes" to complete strangers and it instantly boosts her mood. Crystal Cox/Insider

After admitting my worry of coming off too negative during the dating app test, Nobile also showed me a Tyra Banks-inspired exercise she does to get into the flirting mindset.

For my final test, I had to flirt with Nobile during a mock first in-person date.

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Once Nobile gets clients through the flirting phase, she supports them as they get to know a match through real-world and on-demand dating advice.

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I went to a flirting class with a dating expert and she taught me her 4 surefire techniques to attract dates

This is Amy Nobile. She the founder of Love, Amy, a dating app-focused matchmaking service.

Nobile runs her dating app service out of her apartment in Manhattan. That's where I met her for our one-on-one session.

Before meeting a client for a full session, Nobile interviews them about who they are and their relationship history.

Next, Nobile explained what fruitful flirting entails. To my surprise, she said it's more about your attitude than what you're talking about.

To practice flirting over dating apps, Nobile printed out a real man's Bumble profile and handed it to me. She instructed me to play myself and send an initial message, and said she'd play Mike, my mysterious suitor.

Nobile didn't take it easy on me. As Mike, Nobile played up our differences and questioned our compatibility. She wrote that my love of napping could be a deal breaker.

Unsure what to say next, I decided to end the text banter with Nobile-as-Mike. I wrote, "Fair enough."

Nobile told me not to worry, as flirting via text is the concept her clients find hardest to grasp.

After admitting my worry of coming off too negative during the dating app test, Nobile also showed me a Tyra Banks-inspired exercise she does to get into the flirting mindset.

For my final test, I had to flirt with Nobile during a mock first in-person date.

Once Nobile gets clients through the flirting phase, she supports them as they get to know a match through real-world and on-demand dating advice.