Classes with an intuition coach gave me the confidence to start dating again after my long-term relationship ended
- I attended Goop's first cruise in partnership with Celebrity Cruises, which included intuition classes with clairvoyant Deganit Nuur.
- In each class, Nuur guided a small group through meditations that helped us to tap into our own intuitions.
As I waited to board my flight to Miami for the first-ever Goop at Sea cruise, I pulled out my phone, and checked Tinder. It was my first time using the dating app, which I downloaded earlier that week, three months after my 10-year relationship ended.
I stepped onto that cruise ship, my first big trip since becoming single, just as I was taking my first tentative steps into the world of online dating. Since my long-term romance started when I was 17, dating apps were uncharted territory I'd only experienced through my friends.
After two months of intense grief, I started to think about meeting new people. I told myself the longer I waited to try dating apps, the scarier it would be. So I'd downloaded Tinder and started chatting with a mélange of handsome strangers. Still, I couldn't wrap my head around going on my first first date in 10 years. I couldn't shake the feeling I wasn't prepared.
The intuition classes I took aboard the cruise, led by Goop-commissioned clairvoyant Deganit Nuur, came at the perfect time. I didn't attend the cruise looking to mend my heart — in my mind, this would be a happy distraction.
To my surprise, it became a guiding light for my love life.
After taking four classes, which involved small-group guided meditations with Nuur, I felt more like myself than I had in weeks. In fact, one specific meditation led me to realize I was ready, even excited, to date again.
I got in touch with my intuition during 2 guided meditations
The first time I met Nuur, she sat on stage by herself in the boat's auditorium.
I sat among 20 other women, scattered throughout the seats, as Nuur explained what intuition was.
Nuur has used her own intuition in more than 22,000 sessions with thousands of clients, she told the class. She's since put those one-on-one sessions on pause to teach others to tap into their own inner voice, which can help you live more intentionally, Nuur said.
"We are all born intuitive. It's the music between the songs. It's a whisper," Nuur said of the concept, before jumping into the first of two guided meditations to help us tap into our intuitions.
During each meditation, I cried and released pent-up anxiety and fear. After, I felt more grounded and in touch with my emotions and personal goals.
I'm not one for manifesting, but the imagery exercise was surprisingly powerful
According to Nuur, 80% of former clients have asked whether they should continue or leave a romantic relationship.
When it came time to test my intuition by silently posing a burning question to myself, I also decided to explore romance.
We sat in a circle and each had a burning question in mind. Nuur asked us to visualize a television screen with static and a vertical line down its center. Then, she said to pick any two plants to picture and place one of each side of the screen. I chose a sprig of lavender and a sunflower.
As Nuur instructed, I closed my eyes and observed each flower, one at a time. My lavender spring, which symbolized staying away from dating, wilted and died. The sunflower, which symbolized my return to dating, bloomed and grew so tall I had to place it on my apartment's balcony.
I'm not one for crystals and manifesting, but I resonated with that imagined image, which Nuur said was an extension of my intuition.
Deep down, I knew I wanted to date again. I realized I valued romance and intimacy, and dating could be a way to embody the human connection I craved. I only stopped myself out of fear, which stemmed from dating horror stories I'd read about or heard from friends.
Watching that sunflower grow in my mind, I felt vibrant and sure of myself.
After class, I headed to the boat's buffet, where I ate fajitas and swiped left and right.