A matchmaker reviewed a 43-year-old's Hinge profile and said she should ditch the sunglasses photo and use the prompts to showcase her personality more
Julia Naftulin  Â
- Michele, a 43-year-old marketing professional, had her Hinge profile reviewed by an expert for Insider's Dating App Clinic.
- Expert Rori Sassoon suggested Michele use fewer adjectives and swap out photos to show her personality more.
- Sassoon loved the quality of Michele's photos and her sophisticated vibe.
Michele, a 43-year-old marketing professional in London, volunteered to have her Hinge profile reviewed for Insider's Dating App Clinic, a series where we ask experts how to revamp your dating profiles to increase your chances of finding a match.
Michele said she's currently using Hinge, Facebook Dating, and Inner Circle to date around. She's looking for someone who is reliable, kind, and loyal.
Michele said her deal breakers are drug use, smoking, and no interest in marriage. Ultimately, Michele wants to get married and start a family, she told Insider.
"I get too many replies from men who just want a fling, when I clearly state I'm not looking for a fling. I have a lot of love, friendship, and wonderful qualities to give for a long-term partner," Michele said. "I'm easy-going and responsible, live life to the fullest, and enjoy simple pleasures."
Rori Sassoon, the CEO and co-founder of New York City matchmaking service Platinum Poire, told Insider how Michele could improve her dating profile and increase her chances of finding a match.
Right away, Sassoon enjoyed Michele's sophisticated photo choices and thoughtful prompt responses.
"She exudes a bright, cheerful presence, while looking quite put together," Sassoon told Insider.
She also said it's obvious Michele crafted her profile with her intentions for a long-term relationship in mind.
At the same time, Sassoon said Michele could take a less rigid approach to her profile.
"Her profile screams more interview-friendly, rather than, 'I'm a single, sophisticated, independent woman seeking a relationship,'" Sassoon said.
She suggested Michele take a lighter approach to Hinge's written prompts, and use more examples and less adjectives.
For the "Two truths and a lie" prompt, Michele could write about places she's traveled or her favorite pastimes, according to Sassoon.
She said a match can learn your values when you meet in person, while your profile should give just a taste of your personality.
Here, Sassoon said Michele could pick a photo that shows off her vibrant personality more.
"The photos seemed to be on the staged side, causing her to minimize her personality," Sassoon said.
She suggested including a photo that showcases a favorite hobby, like reading, hiking, or going to the beach.
Sassoon also suggested Michele swap out this photo with a full-body one where she's not wearing sunglasses.
Dating experts say dating app users should always include a full-body photo, since people often become disappointed after finding their in-person date looks nothing like their profile image.
"I always tell my clients at Platinum Poire to include full-body photos and toss the sunglasses aside. We want to see Michele's face, not the shades," Sassoon said.
Last, Michele should focus on showing, not telling, her matches the relationship she wants, said Sassoon.
Overall, Michele's profile gives a direct idea of the person she is and what she's looking for, according to Sassoon.
From an outside perspective, her approach may come off as too textbook, but a few simple tweaks can help.
Sassoon suggested Michele think about what "thirst for knowledge" and "compassion" mean to her. Then, she can give specific examples of what that would look like for her in a relationship.
"If she wishes to meet someone to volunteer with, type that instead! She can build a potential connection on a shared interest, instead of listing adjectives," Sassoon said.
Finally, she suggested Michele take her new personality-filled profile to other platforms like Match.com and the Lox Club to widen her dating pool.
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