A matchmaker reviewed a 29-year-old's Bumble profile, and said he should remove the mirror selfie and redo his written bio
Julia Naftulin
- Jeremy, a 29-year-old in South Carolina, had his Bumble profile reviewed by an expert for Insider's Dating App Clinic.
- Expert Thalia Ouimet suggested Jeremy put more thought into his written bio and try professional photos.
Jeremy, a 29-year-old living in South Carolina, volunteered to have his Bumble profile reviewed for Insider's Dating App Clinic, a series where we ask experts how to revamp your dating profiles to increase your chances of finding a match.
Jeremy said he's looking to date other men, and he's seeking someone who is fun, interesting, and honest. He said his deal breakers are liars, big attitudes, and smoking.
He described himself as fun and inviting. Ultimately, Jeremy wants to find his soulmate and possibly get married.
"I want more matches that are not just looking to have sex, but want more out of the relationship," Jeremy told Insider.
Thalia Ouimet, a matchmaker who works with clients in New York City and Miami, reviewed Jeremy's profile and offered advice on how he can update it.
Right away, Ouimet enjoyed the authentic and unedited vibe of Jeremy's photos.
According to Ouimet, singles on dating apps often make the mistake of using over-edited or outdated photos.
Jeremy's photos clearly look like him and convey the inviting personality he wants to convey, Ouimet said.
At the same time Ouimet suggested Jeremy should remove his mirror selfie. Photos should show off your interests and personality, she said.
"You want to put your best foot forward and mirror selfies are not ideal," Ouimet told Insider of her rule on mirror selfies.
If Jeremy can afford it, Ouimet suggested he invest in professional photos for his profile.
Professional dating profile photos don't have to feel stuffy, and can be a great way to get crisp and flattering images of yourself that also reflect your interest, Ouimet said.
She suggested Jeremy pick out four outfits for a photoshoot that show him in more than a simple T-shirt.
Always pick outfits you feel like yourself in, professional photographer German Marin previously told Insider.
If a professional shoot is out of the question, Marin said you can pull off a DIY photoshoot by working with a close friend, adding movement to your photos, and showcasing your hobbies and favorite places to spend time.
Jeremy should try to sell himself and his personality through his written bio, Ouimet said.
When it came to the written portion of Jeremy's profile, he focused on filling out prompts available to all Bumble users.
While prompts can be a great way to start a conversation, Jeremy's come off a bit vague and could leave potential matches wondering who he really is, Ouimet said.
She said Jeremy should consider ways to sprinkle his personality and sense of humor into the written parts of his profile.
Dating coach Amy Nobile said she often suggests clients use the prompt like "two truths and a lie" because it allows you to include two fun facts about yourself while also giving an opportunity for humor.
Nobile said to focus on three prompt categories: One that tells matches about you and what you stand for, one about what you're looking for on the apps, and one that shows your humor and lighthearted side.
Ouimet said she doesn't mind the inclusion of social media accounts on a dating profile. At the same time, she wishes Jeremy would write more about who he is.
For some singles, their social media accounts offer more insight into their current interests and hobbies. In those cases, linking to those accounts on your dating profile is a plus, according to Ouimet. But if your profile is out of date, she suggested leaving social media links out.
Ouimet added that she'd like to see a bit more writing from Jeremy here, so matches have a better idea of who he is. She suggested something simple like, "Hi my name is Jeremy, if you're looking for someone adventurous, optimistic, and funny, I could be the right guy for you :)"
Ouimet also tells clients to write three things about their personality or life journey that positively reflect who they are.
Consider ditching the group photos.
She said she tells clients to think of their dating profile like their resume.
"Would you have other people's qualifications on your resume? No, and your dating app shouldn't be any different. You want your dating profile to only represent you so that you can attract your dream partner," Ouimet said.
Additionally, Jeremy should remove the two photos that show him making a similar expression and replace them with ones that highlight his interests so matches can see his multi-faceted personality.
Jeremy's profile could be more consistent with his relationship goals, Ouimet said.
Here, Jeremy indicated that he's OK with a casual connection. But in his profile, he said he's looking for long-term commitment, a soulmate, and maybe even marriage.
Jeremy shouldn't shy away from what he really wants, Ouimet said. That's why she suggested he remove "something casual" here.
"It's important for someone to stay consistent on their profile so that they can attract the right person," she said.
Overall, Jeremy is off to a good start. His profile could benefit from colorful details and photos, according to Ouimet.
Currently, Jeremy relies on Bumble's in-app features, like tags and prompts, to show who he is.
Though it's a good starting point, taking a more deliberate approach with a personally written bio and varied photos could take Jeremy's profile to the next level, according to Ouimet.
In addition to revamping his profile, Jeremy also tweak his dating strategy. Ouimet said she tells her clients to dedicate 30 minutes to an hour each day on dating apps if they want to find a compatible match.
It can take time, but consistency works, Ouimet said.
"Stay open minded and don't get discouraged. Dating is hard. When the timing is right, you will find the right match," she said.
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