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A dating coach reviewed a 33-year-old's Tinder profile and said he should remove 3 photos and make his bio less crass

Julia Naftulin   

A dating coach reviewed a 33-year-old's Tinder profile and said he should remove 3 photos and make his bio less crass
Tee submitted his Tinder profile to be reviewed as part of Insider's Dating App Clinic.Insider
  • Tee, a 33-year-old railway worker, had his Tinder profile reviewed by an expert for Insider's Dating App Clinic.
  • Expert Blaine Anderson said Tee should save his dirty jokes for in person and remove three photos.

Tee, a railway worker living in the UK, volunteered to have his Tinder profile reviewed for Insider's Dating App Clinic, a series where we ask experts their advice for revamping your dating profiles to increase the chances of finding a match.

Tee said he's looking for a woman who is easy to get along with, who has a passion for something, and who looks after herself mentally and physically.

His deal-breakers are smoking cigarettes and using any kind of drugs, living too far away, and having no interests to talk about.

Tee described himself as approachable and humble, yet confident. He said he has interests and passions, and isn't afraid to look goofy.

Blaine Anderson, a men's dating coach, told Insider how Tee could improve his dating profile to increase his chances of finding a match.

Tee said he thinks he displays his interests and sense of humor well in his profile, but asked for Anderson's help with pinpointing spots where he could be unintentionally putting women off.

Right away, Anderson could tell Tee is handsome and has a quick-witted sense of humor.

Right away, Anderson could tell Tee is handsome and has a quick-witted sense of humor.
Men's dating coach Blake Anderson reviewed Tee's Tinder profile as part of Insider's Dating App Clinic.      Insider

"I think Tee's profile captures his charm and personality well," Anderson told Insider.

When it came to the written portion of Tee's profile, Anderson suggested tweaking his opening line and removing a crass joke to avoid turning women off.

When it came to the written portion of Tee
Anderson suggested saving dirty jokes for after a few dates, when trust has been built.      Insider

"The first two sentences of Tee's bio are hurting him, particularly because many women may not read past them, to the better parts of his bio," Anderson told Insider.

She said the words "some random" could leave a strange first impression for a potential match. Instead, Anderson would write "a new friend I met on the train."

Tee also made a joke about shaving his testicles, which Anderson said he should reconsider changing to "my back," or removing completely.

"It's obvious to me that he's making a joke, and mildly sexual jokes like that can often work in-person, but they tend to be a turn-off online, when they're decoupled from the smile and warmth I'm sure Tee communicates them with in real life," Anderson said.

She went on to say she loved Tee's third line ("Apollonian, Dionysian, and Epicurean (IYKYK) vibes") and found it clever.

"It's deliberately a little vague, and yet it undeniably communicates his sensuality. It will create an immediate connection with the right woman," Anderson said.

Tee's photos clearly show what he looks like, which is a huge plus, according to Anderson.

Tee
Always lead with a clear and current photo of your face, Anderson said.      Insider

According to Anderson, many single men on dating apps obscure their faces or bodies in their first profile photos with things like sunglasses and too-far-away shots.

"In our world of nearly infinite choice on apps like Tinder, if a woman can't clearly and immediately tell what you look like, she's swiping left," Anderson said.

Fortunately, Tee's lead profile photo is a clear shot of his face. If Tee really wanted to impress, he could get a professional headshot, but it's not necessary, Anderson said.

Anderson also loved this photo because of its "whimsical" vibe, she said.

Anderson also loved this photo because of its "whimsical" vibe, she said.
This photo conveys Tee's relaxed yet quirky personality, according to Anderson.      Insider

According to Anderson, this photo gives a sense of Tee's relaxed personality. She suggested he place it in the second photo spot on his profile.

Anderson said she'd ditch this photo, and replace it with one highlighting a favorite activity, like cooking.

Anderson said she
Illustrate your hobbies through your photos, Anderson said.      Insider

Anderson suggested something that illustrates Tee's love of cooking because he wrote about being "epicurean" in his bio.

"It's a clever and evocative description, and would make for a powerful visual," Anderson said.

Tee has three selfies in his profile, but Anderson said one is plenty. She'd remove this one.

Tee has three selfies in his profile, but Anderson said one is plenty. She
Don't hide your eyes in dating profile photos, experts say.      Insider

Dating experts say showing your eyes in your photos, rather than hiding them behind shades, increases your chances of attracting potential matches.

Though the sunglasses and tank show Tee's relaxed personality, there are ways to convey that without wasting a photo spot, according to Anderson.

Anderson said Tee could use this photo as his first picture, or replace it with one of him in a dressier outfit.

Anderson said Tee could use this photo as his first picture, or replace it with one of him in a dressier outfit.
Mixing up the types of clothing in your profile photos adds depth, Anderson said.      Insider

"Tee is wearing super casual clothing in almost all of his photos, and a photo in a nicer outfit could help show his range, and add helpful depth to his profile," Anderson told Insider.

Anderson said Tee should consider removing this photo with his spider friend, since it could give some women the creeps.

Anderson said Tee should consider removing this photo with his spider friend, since it could give some women the creeps.
Some women might swipe left if they see this photo, Anderson said.      Insider

"Unless spiders are a huge part of his life, he should remove it ASAP," Anderson said.

This photo does a good job of showcasing Tee's lifestyle and appearance, Anderson said. She'd like to see a higher-quality version.

This photo does a good job of showcasing Tee
With a few tweaks, this could be the perfect photo, according to Anderson.      Insider

Anderson said she likes that Tee shows off his arms in this photo. The quality isn't terrible, but leaves a bit to be desired, she said.

"It's washed out, and the photo composition is poor because Tee is leaning off to the side. If he doesn't want to get a new photo, he could use his existing tank top photo here instead," Anderson said.

Finally, Anderson suggested using a different scuba diving photo where Tee is mask-free.

Finally, Anderson suggested using a different scuba diving photo where Tee is mask-free.
Anderson thinks a few tweaks could help Tee's profile stand out.      Insider

"Scuba is a great activity to highlight with a picture, but Tee's 100% masked up in the photo, so it's impossible to tell it's him," Anderson said.

She said a photo on the dock before diving in would be a better choice.

Overall, Tee was effective at showcasing his personality, according to Anderson. He did however make a few common mistakes that could turn off matches, but they're easy to fix.

Ultimately, it's up to Tee to decide how he wants to use his humor in his profile, Anderson said.

"Tee did mention that he likes displaying his sense of humor, even if it's in poor taste, in his profile — ultimately he'll have to decide for himself whether it's worth including the line about shaving his balls, and missing out on matching with many women who'd probably like his sense of humor in-person, after a little trust is built!"

Anderson suggested Tee branch out to a second dating app, like Bumble or Hinge. She tells her clients to choose two apps to use so they can increase their dating pools without feeling overwhelmed with too many profiles and messages to manage.

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