scorecardA dating coach reviewed a 31-year-old's Bumble profile and said he should be more conversational and add a full-body photo
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A dating coach reviewed a 31-year-old's Bumble profile and said he should be more conversational and add a full-body photo

Julia Naftulin   

A dating coach reviewed a 31-year-old's Bumble profile and said he should be more conversational and add a full-body photo
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  • Brad, a 31-year-old in Virginia, had his Bumble profile reviewed by an expert for Insider's Dating App Clinic.
  • Expert Sara Tick suggested Brad find creative ways to explain his personality and dating goals, and to add a full-body photo.

Brad, a 31-year-old living in Arlington, Virginia, volunteered to have his Bumble profile reviewed for Insider's Dating App Clinic, a series where we ask experts how to revamp your dating profiles to increase your chances of finding a match.

Brad said he's looking for a woman who is open with her feelings, enjoys being active and exploring the world, and is proud of her career. His deal-breakers are extreme political views in either direction, women who have been divorced more than three times, and one-way relationships.

Ultimately, Brad said he wants a long-term relationship.

"I'm not someone who is lazy and sits at home all the time. I like to enjoy life. I'm intelligent, funny, and moderately outgoing," Brad told Insider.

Sara Tick, a therapist and founder of men's date-coaching service Modern Meet, told Insider how Brad could improve his dating profile to increase his chances of finding a match.

Right away, Tick said she was impressed by the quality of Brad's photos.

Right away, Tick said she was impressed by the quality of Brad
Brad submitted his Bumble profile to Insider's Dating App Clinic.      Insider

She said it's important to have "current and consistent" photos on your dating profile so you don't mislead potential matches.

"Any woman viewing them knows that he's providing an accurate representation of himself," Tick said of Brad's photo choices.

At the same time, Tick suggested Brad swap out a few photos, like this one with sunglasses, to add more variety. Photos can act as conversation-starters, she said.

At the same time, Tick suggested Brad swap out a few photos, like this one with sunglasses, to add more variety. Photos can act as conversation-starters, she said.
Brad submitted his Bumble profile to Insider's Dating App Clinic.      Insider

"Brad should remove any photos where he is wearing sunglasses because women look at a man's eyes to gain a sense of whether or not he appears trustworthy, so covering them up is a huge no-no," Tick said.

She added that she'd love to see Brad include photos of himself at a concert, traveling, and partaking in his other hobbies.

"The goal is for a woman looking at his profile to envision herself standing right next to him and having a great time," Tick said.

Since Brad said he's looking for a long-term relationship, Tick suggested being more forthright about that goal in his written prompts.

Since Brad said he
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"There's nothing listed in Brad's profile that suggests he's looking for a romantic partner and it almost reads like he's searching for new friends," Tick told Insider.

She said Brad should write as if he's speaking to his dream match to add a romantic flair.

She suggested he add something like, "If you are passionate about your life, feel excited about your career, and value open and honest communication, we would really get along well."

Here, Tick suggested Brad write, “My goal is to see 52 concerts this year, and I’m looking for the woman who can dance beside me the whole night and still have energy for midnight breakfast afterward.”

Here, Tick suggested Brad write, “My goal is to see 52 concerts this year, and I’m looking for the woman who can dance beside me the whole night and still have energy for midnight breakfast afterward.”
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According to Tick, writing in a more conversational tone and expressing your desires adds an emotional component to a person's dating profile, which is something women often look for.

For the same reason, Tick also said Brad should remove the sentence, "Let's see where things go." Instead, he should opt for something more committal, which shows confidence.

She suggested: "I would love to take you out to a brewery and relax over drinks, or if you're feeling adventurous, I'm up for axe throwing or even a go-kart race."

"Women don't want to be in charge of planning a first date, so if Brad conveys that he has a plan, women will immediately feel more at ease and more open to meeting him," Tick said.

Brad leaned into his love of dogs, which Tick said was a great idea.

Brad leaned into his love of dogs, which Tick said was a great idea.
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"It's a great way for dog owners to easily connect with him through their messages," Tick said.

She suggested adding a photo of him with his own dog if he has one, since they're crowd-pleasers.

To attract more matches, Brad should express his personality using specific examples rather than basic adjectives, Tick said.

To attract more matches, Brad should express his personality using specific examples rather than basic adjectives, Tick said.
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Instead of saying "I'm dependable," Brad could write, "I'm the guy you call when your car breaks down on the side of the road," she said, adding that this approach is more engaging.

To get creative juices flowing, Tick said Brad should think about the superlatives he may have won in school and how his friends describe him.

Finally, Tick suggested Brad add a full-body photo to his profile.

Finally, Tick suggested Brad add a full-body photo to his profile.
Brad should make this his opening photo, followed by a full-body shot, Tick said.      Insider

She said she always instructs clients to open their profile with a clear headshot, followed by a full-body shot.

If Brad wants to venture onto other apps, Tick suggested Hinge, saying its user-friendly prompts could allow him to really show off his personality and start conversations.

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