A dating coach reviewed a 26-year-old's Tinder profile and said his 'NATO' — not attached to an outcome — approach is smart

Julia NaftulinJan 13, 2024, 02:05 IST

Aaron submitted his Tinder profile to Insider's Dating App Clinic.Insider<ul class="summary-list"><li>Aaron submitted his Tinder profile for review by an expert as part of <a href="https://www.insider.com/category/dating-app-clinic" rel>Insider's Dating App Clinic</a>.</li><li>Expert Erika Ettin said 26-year-old Aaron's "NATO," or not-attached-to-an-outcome dating mentality is beneficial.</li></ul>Aaron, a 26-year-old using Tinder to date, submitted his profile for Insider's Dating App Clinic, a series where we ask experts how to revamp your dating profiles to increase your chances of finding a match.Aaron said he's looking to date women. He's seeking someone who is independent, respectful, and caring.He said his deal breakers are someone who is clingy or dependent, close-minded, or cynical."I'm extremely passionate about life. I love everything about living, like adventures, art, music, food, learning, and everything in between," Aaron told Insider. He said he can be a "goofball" but also has a more "clinical and calculated" side.He said his ultimate goal is finding a life partner, but wants to date more casually fine casually dating for the time being.Aaron said he thinks he accurately portrays his physical appearance and personality through his photos, but would like help figuring out to frame his new casual dating goal in his profile."I've never 'casually' dated, but I would like to, as I would like to get to know more people before I decide to settle down again. But I feel like saying that I'm searching for something 'short-term' implies that I'm just looking for sex, and 'new friends' implies that I have no romantic interest. How can I find my middle and embrace my casual?"Dating coach <a href="https://www.alittlenudge.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Erika Ettin</a> told Insider how Aaron could update his Tinder profile to increase his chances of finding a match.If you'd like to have your profile reviewed by experts, submit <a href="https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Iia2ZIvwYAuq3Va5TjQlIvNDwix7QlUL4apvVZjGkIc/viewform?edit_requested=true" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener">here</a>.

Right away, Ettin said that Aaron is physically attractive and has an empowering dating mindset.

Dating coach Erika Ettin reviewed Aaron's Tinder profile and offered tips on how he could improve it for more compatible matches.Insider

Ettin said she'd edit Aaron's written bio to better highlight his most enticing details.

Aaron's written bio could stand out with a few tweaks, Ettin said.Insider

Aaron should also consider removing this group photo, since it could be confusing for potential matches, Ettin said.

Dating experts recommend avoiding group photos in dating profiles.Insider

Ettin said Aaron's photo selections could use an update, since some of the current ones could give potential matches the wrong first impression.

Aaron should consider swapping out this silly face photo for a full-body shot, Ettin said.Insider

Here, Aaron comes off as "bro-y," which could deter potential matches, Ettin said.

Aaron should set aside time to take more current photos for his profile, Ettin said.Insider

Ettin said she'd also replace this photo, but would understand if Aaron wanted to keep it.

This photo, like a few of Aaron's others, has a bro-like vibe, Ettin said.Insider

Finally, Ettin suggested Aaron remove the "short-term fun" tag from his profile.

Presets on dating apps, like tags for your relationship goals and interests, can confuse potential matches, Ettin said.Insider

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A dating coach reviewed a 26-year-old's Tinder profile and said his 'NATO' &mdash; not attached to an outcome &mdash; approach is smart