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13 things mentally strong couples don't do, according to a therapist
13 things mentally strong couples don't do, according to a therapist
Amy MorinJan 15, 2024, 22:23 IST
Therapist and author Amy Morin says good habits won't save the relationship as long as the couple engages in counterproductive bad habits.Goodboy Picture Company/Getty Images
Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker, and bestselling author.
She says good habits won't save a relationship if couples also engage in counterproductive habits.
Many couples who enter my therapy office say, "We do all the things we're supposed to do — like go on weekly date nights and use one another's love language, but our relationship is still struggling." They don't realize their good habits won't save the relationship as long as they engage in counterproductive bad habits.
Throughout my years as a therapist, I've noticed that the mentally strongest couples don't just create good habits — they also focus on avoiding the unhealthy habits that damage relationships. As I share in my book, "13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don't Do," here are the habits that separate mentally strong couples from everyone else.
Allow your partner to have privacy.Emilija Manevska/Getty Images
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3. They don't hesitate to set boundaries
Boundaries and time apart can help couples.d3sign/ Getty Images
4. They don't become martyrs
People in healthy relationships don't give up everything at the expense of their own happiness.Alexandre Morin-Laprise/ Getty Images
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5. They don't use their emotions as weapons
When someone raises their voice to try and get their way that could be an unhealthy habit.Murat Deniz/Getty Images
6. They don't try to fix each other
Couples must give each other freedom.Laurence Monneret/Getty Images
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7. They don't communicate with disrespect
In a healthy relationship, partners try to understand each other's perspective.Fergus Coyle/Shutterstock
8. They don't blame each other for their problems
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9. They don't forget why they fell in love
Strong couples have to remember the things they love about each other.The Gender Spectrum Collection
10. They don't expect the relationship to meet all their needs
Hanging out with people outside the relationship can strengthen the relationship.DisobeyArt/Getty Images
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11. They don't neglect their partnership
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12. They don't take each other for granted
Strong couples value each other.MoMo Productions/Getty Images
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13. They don't stop growing and changing
The relationship should grow as each individual grows.FreshSplash/ Getty Images
Build your mental muscle
It's wonderful when both partners are interested in developing a stronger relationship. More often than not, however, one individual is more into building mental strength than the other. Fortunately, one person can make a huge difference to the overall health of the relationship.
When you refuse to engage in unhealthy habits that can rob your relationship of mental strength, you can grow stronger as an individual and as a couple.