11 of the best sex tips we learned from sex educators, therapists, and a dominatrix in 2021

Julia NaftulinDec 22, 2021, 04:05 IST

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One-third of Americans say they were more experimental with sex in 2021.
Trying new things in bed could be connected to pandemic-related anxiety and stress, a sex researcher said.

This year Americans ramped up their sex lives, reporting more satisfying and experimental sex, according to a July LoveHoney report.

According to Justin Lehmiller, a Kinsey Institute research fellow and Lovehoney scientific advisor, times of extreme anxiety and stress can make it more difficult to get in a sexy mindset, which can lead to innovation.

"One way that people might cope with this is by trying new and immersive sexual activities that allow you to be in the moment and free your mind of distracting thoughts. Trying new things is also a way that people can 'feel alive' during periods of stress and boredom," Lehmiller said in a press release for the LoveHoney report.

In 2021, therapists and sex educators told Insider their top tips for improving your sex life, whether with a partner or on your own.

To spice up your sex life with a current partner, try making a sex script.

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To rewrite your 'sex script,' Kerner suggests first creating one that captures how you currently have sex with your partner.

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Also dedicate time to explore new turn-ons, kinks, and types of sex with your partner, Kerner said.

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Kerner often suggests couples use mutual masturbation to reignite their sex lives.

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Some evidence suggests cannabis could boost your sex life.

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To use cannabis during sex, start with a low dose and avoid edibles.

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Get into a sexy mindset beforehand.

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If you're having sex with someone new, prepare to be honest about your anxieties.

Standing sex can help you try new things and invigorate your love life.South_agency/Getty Images

If you want to spice things up, try verbally dominating your partner.

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If you want to have no-strings-attached sex, write down your boundaries beforehand.

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You should also fantasize about the sex, but not the future if you want to hookup casually, according to Holmgren.

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11 of the best sex tips we learned from sex educators, therapists, and a dominatrix in 2021

To spice up your sex life with a current partner, try making a sex script.

To rewrite your 'sex script,' Kerner suggests first creating one that captures how you currently have sex with your partner.

Also dedicate time to explore new turn-ons, kinks, and types of sex with your partner, Kerner said.

Kerner often suggests couples use mutual masturbation to reignite their sex lives.

Some evidence suggests cannabis could boost your sex life.

To use cannabis during sex, start with a low dose and avoid edibles.

Get into a sexy mindset beforehand.

If you're having sex with someone new, prepare to be honest about your anxieties.

If you want to spice things up, try verbally dominating your partner.

If you want to have no-strings-attached sex, write down your boundaries beforehand.

You should also fantasize about the sex, but not the future if you want to hookup casually, according to Holmgren.