Therapy is one of the best tools at your disposal to get through trauma. Allowing thoughts to rush around in your head without vocalizing them can lead us to obsess and find ourselves in a negative spiral, so it's nearly always better to speak about what you're feeling out loud than to ruminate.
But it's not as simple as finding the first therapist near you, talking at them, and hoping for the best. In fact, your therapist may not be a good fit for you, and therefore won't be as helpful as they could be, according to breakup recovery and dating coach Cherlyn Chong.
"It's not that therapy doesn't work, it's just that they don't get the results from therapy," Chong told Insider. "One client had a therapist for one whole year, and she got nothing done. And within two weeks of working with me she got so much done, she fired them."
There are a few reasons that therapy may not be working for you. Here are some signs that could be red flags that mean you should stop seeing yours.