If you're angry at work, you shouldn't pretend everything is okay - do these 6 simple things instead

The problem with anger is that it fires up the emotion centers of the brain, making it challenging to be logical, wrote Emma Seppälä, the science director of Stanford University's Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education.

So, while it's okay to be angry, you'll need to calm down a little bit before you can address the situation that's frustrating you. Otherwise, you could say something that's emotionally-charged and potentially insulting.

"Cool your flames and you'll see more clearly and communicate far more effectively," Seppälä wrote. "Breathe, take a walk, distract yourself with a funny movie, meditate, exercise, pray — anything to help you regain your composure but also some perspective."

If you don't have time for any of that, try this breathing exercise.

Then, revisit the situation when you're more calm.

Reframing your thoughts is an important way to get to a logical conclusion. Angry thoughts can often be "very exaggerated and overly dramatic," according to the American Psychological Association.

For instance, angry thoughts often capitalize on something "never working" or "always going wrong," wrote the APA. That's almost definitely untrue — few people are consistently awful, and few things are always awry.

Instead of thinking "My whole life is ruined and this entire situation is horrible," the APA recommended thinking along the lines of:

"This is frustrating, and I understand why I'm upset. But it's not the end of the world and I can't fix this by getting angry."

When it comes to your coworker that may be ticking you off, Seppälä said to understand that they're probably not out to get you. They likely have no clue that they're making you furious.

"Most of us don't run around with evil intentions — but many of us do make mistakes and hurt or anger others accidentally," Seppälä wrote. "Chances are, the person you are angry with is not purposefully trying to hurt you."

For instance, your boss with a tendency to micro-manage probably believes she's following appropriate management protocol, not that you're a clueless idiot who needs constant hand-holding.

And your super-competitive coworker who always steals your ideas might not even realize what he's doing.

The best way to express problems in a relationship is to be positive, avoid blaming the other person, use "I" statements, and discuss your own perspective and needs, Business Insider's Rachel Gillett previously reported.

One way to do that in a professional setting is the "gentle startup" technique, developed by Dr. Michael McNulty, a master trainer from The Gottman Institute and founder of the Chicago Relationship Center.

It looks something like this: "When X happens or happened, I feel Y, and I need Z."

You could say, "When you pitched the revenue-saving idea in today's meeting, I felt frustrated because I mentioned that idea to you last week. I need proper credit for my own ideas."

Or, " When you asked for a five-page write-up of the sales meeting I held yesterday, I feel that you don't believe I'm a competent employee. I need more freedom and trust."

People become incredibly self-centered when they're angry, according to Seppälä. And they try to look for any evidence that they're right, and the other person is wrong.

It's important to move away from that in order to resolve the situation.

After expressing your feelings, take the time to ask why the person is doing the thing that frustrates you.

"When you make room for another person's point of view and ask 'why' instead of immediately assuming the worst, you are actually inviting true communication to occur," Seppälä wrote. "The result is that you develop understanding, a deeper relationship based on communication and civility, compassion, and empathy."