I stopped using credit cards completely in an attempt to get out of debt - here's what happened

As I committed to paying them off and not charging, my credit card balances went down more quickly than I expected. I paid off about $10,000 in credit-card debt, plus a $10,000 business loan, in 18 months.

I will never forget the first month after my balances went down to zero. I got to keep the big chunk of my monthly income that had gone to repaying my debts. Without the burden of credit-card payments, I felt a little bit rich.

A couple years later, while applying for a mortgage, I discovered one big downside of not using credit cards: I had no credit score.

My credit score wasn't bad – it was nonexistent. Despite the fact that I had bought and paid off two cars, my lack of current credit meant I was dead to credit-reporting agencies like Equifax, Experian, and TransUnion.

To remedy the situation, I re-activated a credit card I had gotten after college. The bank was willing to reopen my card with my original membership date, which provided the kind of long-term credit history I needed. On the advice of my mortgage broker, I used the card and paid the balance in full every month, to boost my credit score.

Once I had my name on a mortgage, I cut up my credit cards for a second time. Now my home loan provides my credit score.

Without credit cards, I needed to create my own financial reserves. The trouble was, I was as feckless about spending down my savings as I had been at spending up my credit cards.

I became a saver thanks to some unusual advice from a friend who is good with money. I was deciding how to spend a tax refund and my wish list was about three times the size of the refund, so I asked my friend's opinion. He suggested I put the money in the bank for three months, then decide how to spend it.

It seemed like an odd plan, but I decided to try it. When the three months were up, a strange thing had happened: the money felt like it was mine and I wanted to save it, not spend it. That three-month pause changed my relationship with savings; I've been able to keep money in my emergency fund ever since.

My wise friend had one more piece of advice: the rule of thirds. Now, when I get an unexpected windfall (such as a tax refund), I put one third in savings. I spend one third on living expenses, and the final third goes to fun.

The rule of thirds recognizes the importance of the balance between prudence and splurging. It helps me manage my money without feeling deprived.

I still love to shop. There are still plenty of cute things I must buy. But my purchases don't put me in debt now, and for that I am grateful.