- Tatiana Banks is the daughter of Errol Lindsey, a 19-year-old man murdered by Jeffrey Dahmer.
- Banks said the Netflix show based on Dahmer is too disturbing to watch and has opened old wounds.
The daughter of one of Jeffrey Dahmer's victims said she hasn't been able to sleep in weeks and has been having nightmares about the serial killer, even seeing him in her nightmares.
Tatiana Banks is the daughter of Errol Lindsey, a 19-year-old man who was murdered by Dahmer in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, in 1991. Lindsey, the youngest of six, met Dahmer in April of that year. Dahmer lured Lindsey to his apartment, where he drugged and experimented on him.
Banks, a 31-year-old currently living in Arizona, was born six months after her father was killed.
In an interview with Insider, Banks said she learned what happened to her father in bits and pieces over time, through family members and the media. Growing up in Milwaukee, it was hard to avoid stories about Dahmer.
"When I was young I was told that he was killed by a Milwaukee serial killer," she said, adding that she was about 4 or 5 when her mother first told her about her father's death.
She remembered reading a newspaper article about the murders when she was around 11 or 12 and started looking online for more information, which prompted her to ask her mom more questions about what happened.
"I still think about it to this day," Banks said, adding that she is still learning new details about how her father ended up crossing paths with one of the world's most notorious serial killers.
Dahmer's killing have received renewed attention since the release of Netflix's new series, "Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story."
Banks's aunt, Rita Isbell, was depicted in an episode that recreated the emotional victim impact statement she delivered at Dahmer's sentencing about the loss of her brother.
Isbell previously told Insider that watching the scene brought back all of the emotions she experienced at the time.
"Her hair was like mine, she had on the same clothes," Isbell said of the actor who player her. "That's why it felt like reliving it all over again."
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Banks, who never had the chance to meet her father, said she feels like her grieving is different; complicated by the fact that she never knew him.
Still, she says the Netflix show has opened old wounds for her as well: Like Isbell, she said she was not contacted by Netflix about the show.
"I feel like they should have reached out because it's people who are actually still grieving from that situation," she said, adding she was at a place where she had in some ways come to terms with what happened to her father. "That chapter of my life was closed and they reopened it, basically."
Banks, who has largely avoided watching any shows or movies about Dahmer, watched just one episode of the Netflix series — the one that depicts her aunt's victim impact statement in court. She said it was "heartbreaking" to watch: "I wished I could be there to take her pain away."
She couldn't watch any more of the show, saying it was too disturbing, but Banks has been unable to escape the renewed interest in the Dahmer case.
"Honestly ever since that show's been on I haven't been able to sleep. I see Jeffrey Dahmer in my sleep," she said.
Social media has made the problem worse — and she's been especially bothered by people online talking about her dad and even victim-blaming. She said people have critiqued her father's actions, with some even assuming he was gay and using that as a reason to dismiss what happened to him.
Banks said she still has many questions about what happened to her dad, including some that may never be answered.
But of this she was certain: "He didn't deserve this. I don't deserve this. None of the victims deserve it."