Former Navy SEAL commanders who have worked with more than 400 businesses explain how to decide whether to mentor someone - or fire them
- Jocko Willink and Leif Babin are former Navy SEAL commanders with a new book, "The Dichotomy of Leadership."
- They have worked with more than 400 businesses since founding their leadership consulting firm, Echelon Front, in 2010.
- They said that their experience in combat taught them the value of having a personal connection to every member of their team, while still keeping the team's needs above all else.
- In business, this can help determine when to mentor and when to fire an underperforming team member.
As Navy SEAL commanders, Jocko Willink and Leif Babin were not only responsible for completing missions, they were responsible for protecting the lives of their men.
It's an extreme context, but it's one that taught them a universal lesson on how leaders must invest themselves in both the personal success of individual team members with the overall success of the team, and how to balance those, Willink and Babin explained to Business Insider.
"You should care about their personal lives, you should care about their family, you should care about them as individuals," Willink said. "And that should run deep in your heart, when you want to take care of your team. However, as a leader, you are also responsible for accomplishing the greater mission. And that's a hard dichotomy to contend with."
Willink was the commander of US Navy SEAL Team 3 Task Unit Bruiser - the most highly decorated US special operations unit of the Iraq War - and Babin was one of two platoon leaders who reported to him. In 2010, after their service, they founded the leadership consulting firm Echelon Front, which has worked with more than 400 companies in the last eight years.
In their new book "The Dichotomy of Leadership," Willink and Babin explain how to be "close, but not too close" with those who report to you.
When to mentor and when to fire
During the training that took place ahead of a deployment to Iraq, Babin remembered, one of the fresher SEALs in his platoon was struggling to keep up during drills. This SEAL was a team member everyone was friendly with, and he had a good attitude. Babin decided to get one of the more experienced members of his team to mentor the younger SEAL, but even with hours of extra training, it didn't seem to stick.
Babin consulted with Willink, and the two decided that there may be a role on the team that would be helpful without getting in the way. If Babin cut him from the team, he wouldn't be able to get a replacement ahead of the deployment and would have to go a man short; and if Babin fired him from the deployment, a Navy board would likely review his underperformance and permanently strip him of his SEAL designation, crushing his career ambitions.
But as training progressed, the young SEAL still underperformed, even at the alternative roles Willink told Babin to consider. Babin knew that no matter how optimistic this young SEAL was, or how much his teammates liked him, a mistake made during combat could result in that man's death, the death of his team members, or the death of innocent civilians. It was a painful choice, but he had to fire the SEAL, who was indeed dismissed from the SEALs. That said, this man went on to find a role in the Navy better suited to his capabilities and had a successful career, Babin said.
Willink wrote he saw a similar situation on a construction site, where a manager's concern for the well-being of his employees was leading to a botched job.
"The loyalty of the entire team is more important than the loyalty to one or two individuals, and that can be hard for leaders to understand," Willink told us. "And you can watch leaders in bad situations ride that horrible downward spiral into the ground, hanging onto these people that they care about. And they end up letting everyone down because now no one has a job because you've got a company that's out of business."
But before getting to that point, Willink and Babin explained that it is necessary to give an under-performer a chance at redemption.
Babin said that when working with clients considering firing an employee, he'll tell them to talk to that person on a personal level to find out what they think is happening, and not to make an assumption the employee is incompetent.
"And oftentimes as leaders start digging into that, they realized, 'Wow, I had no idea that this guy, or this lady, was dealing with that situation. We can actually help them out. Let's cut them some slack,'" Babin said. "And that actually builds a tremendous loyalty to the team, and shows great leadership."