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I'm a public school teacher trying to save money for grad school. I'm on my parents' phone plan and they pay for my tickets to see them.

Jul 24, 2024, 17:17 IST
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The author's parents help her by paying for plane tickets to visit them, but they also encourage her to be financially independent.Courtesy of the author
  • I'm a 23-year-old public school teacher, and I'm trying to save money for grad school.
  • My parents paid for my college, and I'm still on their phone plan.
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"Here it is!" my friend announced, passing me her phone. Swiping through photos of the renovated Manhattan apartment her parents had just purchased for her, I felt a twinge of longing.

Sure, the pre-war apartment that I shared with two roommates was economical and charming, but imagine being able to live alone in a home with in-unit laundry instead of carting clothes to the Laundromat in 90-degree heat.

My parents have financially supported me, too. They paid for college, for one thing. Though I graduated over a year ago and work a full-time job, I remain on their phone plan and benefit from our Netflix and Spotify family plans. When I visit them in Pittsburgh, they also graciously purchase my plane tickets.

However, they directly communicated the expectation that supporting myself after college is my responsibility.

Being a public school teacher can make New York City really expensive

I pay for my own rent, utilities, healthcare, food, clothes, entertainment, and other expenses — which add up in New York. To emphasize the importance of investing in my financial future, last Christmas, my dad even gifted me a bundle of hand-selected books detailing the history of our financial system and best budgeting practices.

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Grad school is the most daunting expense at this stage in my life. Saving for it is time-sensitive, as New York state requires me to earn a master's degree within the next four years to maintain my teaching certification. As a result, I budget and invest my money seriously because, let's face it, I'm not rolling in cash as a 23-year-old public school teacher. And while my parents helped me consider how to fund my degree without taking out loans, they told me early on that I alone would pay for it.

These considerations can stress me out, especially when friends suggest going to dinner at places where I know an entrée that I could cook myself for $5 will cost upward of $25. When my roommates and I moved into our apartment, we celebrated at a restaurant that self-described itself as "upscale." Although we dined with an NYC Restaurant Week discount and had a good time, the inflated bill still made me cringe when I thought of the impending costs of a master's degree.

My parents' approach means I'm thoughtful when spending money

Despite challenges, though, I appreciate that my parents encourage my financial independence. Their policies make me thoughtful about my spending choices and, to my friends' delight, extremely knowledgeable about which establishments offer $5 happy hour cocktails. When my parents treat me to a meal or a plane ticket home, I appreciate the gesture that much more because I understand the effort it takes to save money.

One of the most valuable insights I've gleaned from managing my finances is that I have to be deliberate with how I fund larger purchases.

Last year, I was invited to present research at conferences in three different states. The cost of three round-trip plane tickets, hotels, and registration fees added up quickly, but the events were important to me. On the phone with my mom, I was tempted to ask for help, but before I could, she said, "Sounds like you should apply for scholarships."

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I swallowed my request, did some research, and applied for awards. My effort was rewarded with four grants and a transformative time at the conferences. I learned that if I wanted something, I had to use my resources to problem-solve and respect my budget.

I'm not alone on this journey toward financial independence. I talk to my older sister about how she navigates it and regularly call my dad for advice on investments or building credit. Luckily, they're happy to help, and I know that managing my own money will equip me to make wise decisions once my parents aren't around to advise me each step of the way.

I may sometimes envy acquaintances whose parents cover their rent or an Uber to the airport. But ultimately I know my parents' expectations are fair and well-intentioned. I may have rolled my eyes at those books at Christmas, but eventually, I'll read them. And I'll be better for it.

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