We asked 5 relationship experts to react to some of the most iconic moments in the history of 'The Bachelor'

Gabbi ShawFeb 12, 2021, 20:56 IST

Luke Parker and Hannah Brown.ABC

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When "The Bachelor" first premiered in 2002, it would've been impossible to predict the impact the franchise would come to have on both the television landscape and its loyal fans, Bachelor Nation. Over 25 seasons of "The Bachelor" and 16 seasons of "The Bachelorette" later (plus various spin-offs), it's worth asking the question - what can we learn from the show's depiction of relationships?

We asked five relationship experts, Jessica Dubron, Monica O'Neal, Rachel DeAlto, Jaime Bronstein, and Susan Winter, to react to five of the most well-known moments (both controversial and heartwarming) in the show's recent history.

They shared their thoughts about the on-camera break-up of Arie Luyendyk Jr. and Becca Kufrin during "The Bachelor," Hannah Brown eliminating Luke Parker after a season of manipulation and gaslighting on "The Bachelorette," Zac Clark proposing to Tayshia Adams on "The Bachelorette," Demi Burnett coming out to Derek Peth as bisexual on "Bachelor in Paradise," and Ivan Hall and Adams' moving conversation about the Black Lives Matter movement on "The Bachelorette."

Keep scrolling to see what each expert thinks - the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Jessica Dubron, a clinical psychologist, called the on-screen break-up between Arie and Becca "brutal" yet relatable for many people.

The break-up. ABC

Dr. Monica O'Neal, a clinical psychologist and relationship expert, called the moment "unduly sadistic."

Becca and Arie. ABC/Paul Hebert

Rachel DeAlto, a former litigator and relationship expert, called his actions "incredibly selfish and hurtful."

Arie. ABC/Hulu

On the other hand, Jaime Bronstein, a relationship therapist, life coach, and host of "Love Talk Live," applauded Arie for telling his truth, but also criticized him for doing it on camera.

Arie. ABC/Paul Hebert

On the other hand, Jaime Bronstein, a relationship therapist, life coach, and host of "Love Talk Live," applauded Arie for telling his truth, but also criticized him for doing it on camera.

Susan Winter, a relationship expert and author, noted how Arie realized that "logic and heart don't always match up," which applies in real life as well.

Arie and Becca. ABC

In the infamous break-up between Luke Parker and Hannah B., he attempted to shame her for having sex with multiple men. Dubron thought Luke should have been more vulnerable during the conversation.

Luke P. and Hannah. ABC

In the infamous break-up between Luke Parker and Hannah B., he attempted to shame her for having sex with multiple men. Dubron thought Luke should have been more vulnerable during the conversation.

O'Neal called this her favorite "Bachelor" moment of all time, due to Hannah's "very clear, very strong, very confident message."

Chris Harrison and Hannah. ABC

DeAlto said that, in most situations, Luke's comments would be "completely understandable."

Luke P. ABC/Ed Herrera

Bronstein thought that Luke "seemed to lack empathy," but praised Hannah's strong sense of self-love.

Hannah. John Fleenor via Getty Images

Winter said their relationship had a "very unhealthy dynamic" during this clip.

Luke P. ABC

Our third moment is a happier one - Zac's proposal to Tayshia, which many heralded as one of the most sincere proposals in the franchise's history. Dubron called it her favorite "Bachelor" moment ever.

Tayshia and Zac. Craig Sjodin/ABC

Our third moment is a happier one - Zac's proposal to Tayshia, which many heralded as one of the most sincere proposals in the franchise's history. Dubron called it her favorite "Bachelor" moment ever.

O'Neal, however, called the moment "fairly shallow, albeit sweet."

Tayshia. Craig Sjodin/ABC

DeAlto noted that, to her, it seemed like Zac was more into Tayshia than vice-versa.

Zac and Tayshia. ABC

Bronstein has high hopes for this couple - she called the proposal "beyond touching."

Zac and Tayshia. ABC

Winter called it "the fairytale ending we all hoped for."

Tayshia and Zac. Craig Sjodin/ABC

The fourth moment comes from "Bachelor in Paradise," when Demi came out to Derek as bisexual - a first for the franchise. Dubron said Derek "provided a healthy model of how to respond."

Derek and Demi. ABC

The fourth moment comes from "Bachelor in Paradise," when Demi came out to Derek as bisexual - a first for the franchise. Dubron said Derek "provided a healthy model of how to respond."

O'Neal said it was "one of the most mature, least dramatic moments of the entire franchise."

Demi and Derek. ABC

DeAlto called Derek's reaction to Demi's truth "ideal."

Derek. Bob D'Amico/ABC via Getty Images

Bronstein called Demi "courageous" - rightfully so.

Demi. Eric McCandless/Getty Images

Winter also thought Demi showed "great bravery" for coming out on national TV.

Kristian and Demi. John Fleenor via Getty Images

The last moment also came from Tayshia's season, when she and Ivan had a real conversation about race. Here's what Dubron thought.

Ivan and Tayshia. Craig Sjodin/ABC via Getty Images

"Knowing where your partner stands on crucial political ideology is incredibly important and should be a deal-breaker," O'Neal said.

Ivan and Tayshia. Craig Sjodin/ABC

DeAlto praised the conversation as well, saying, "vulnerability is everything."

Ivan and Tayshia. ABC

Bronstein "felt as if history was being made" while watching the "incredibly emotional and powerful" clip.

Ivan and Tayshia. The Bachelorette/ABC

Winter thought that Ivan and Tayshia verbalizing their "deep internal damage" would help the audience understand them both.

Tayshia and Ivan. Craig Sjodin/ABC

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We asked 5 relationship experts to react to some of the most iconic moments in the history of 'The Bachelor'

Jessica Dubron, a clinical psychologist, called the on-screen break-up between Arie and Becca "brutal" yet relatable for many people.

Dr. Monica O'Neal, a clinical psychologist and relationship expert, called the moment "unduly sadistic."

Rachel DeAlto, a former litigator and relationship expert, called his actions "incredibly selfish and hurtful."

On the other hand, Jaime Bronstein, a relationship therapist, life coach, and host of "Love Talk Live," applauded Arie for telling his truth, but also criticized him for doing it on camera.

Susan Winter, a relationship expert and author, noted how Arie realized that "logic and heart don't always match up," which applies in real life as well.

In the infamous break-up between Luke Parker and Hannah B., he attempted to shame her for having sex with multiple men. Dubron thought Luke should have been more vulnerable during the conversation.

O'Neal called this her favorite "Bachelor" moment of all time, due to Hannah's "very clear, very strong, very confident message."

DeAlto said that, in most situations, Luke's comments would be "completely understandable."

Bronstein thought that Luke "seemed to lack empathy," but praised Hannah's strong sense of self-love.

Winter said their relationship had a "very unhealthy dynamic" during this clip.

Our third moment is a happier one - Zac's proposal to Tayshia, which many heralded as one of the most sincere proposals in the franchise's history. Dubron called it her favorite "Bachelor" moment ever.

O'Neal, however, called the moment "fairly shallow, albeit sweet."

DeAlto noted that, to her, it seemed like Zac was more into Tayshia than vice-versa.

Bronstein has high hopes for this couple - she called the proposal "beyond touching."

Winter called it "the fairytale ending we all hoped for."

The fourth moment comes from "Bachelor in Paradise," when Demi came out to Derek as bisexual - a first for the franchise. Dubron said Derek "provided a healthy model of how to respond."

O'Neal said it was "one of the most mature, least dramatic moments of the entire franchise."

DeAlto called Derek's reaction to Demi's truth "ideal."

Bronstein called Demi "courageous" - rightfully so.

Winter also thought Demi showed "great bravery" for coming out on national TV.

The last moment also came from Tayshia's season, when she and Ivan had a real conversation about race. Here's what Dubron thought.

"Knowing where your partner stands on crucial political ideology is incredibly important and should be a deal-breaker," O'Neal said.

DeAlto praised the conversation as well, saying, "vulnerability is everything."

Bronstein "felt as if history was being made" while watching the "incredibly emotional and powerful" clip.

Winter thought that Ivan and Tayshia verbalizing their "deep internal damage" would help the audience understand them both.