"The Notebook" isn't as romantic as it seems, said one expert.New Line Cinema
- Insider spoke to couples therapists to find out which romantic comedies they love to watch, and which ones they don't.
- Romantic comedies are often unrealistic, and you shouldn't compare your relationships to what you see in movies, the experts told Insider.
- One expert praised "Isn't It Romantic" for poking fun at rom-com cliches.
- "Crazy, Stupid, Love" and "The Big Sick" received praise for their realistic portrayals of certain relationship issues.
- Some pointed out that classic flicks like "The Notebook" and "Pretty Woman" depict problematic and unhealthy relationships
It can be hard to decide which romantic comedies to queue up and which to skip. To narrow down the options, Insider spoke to real-life couples therapists.
Right off the bat, it's important to note that many experts believe romantic comedies to be unrealistic.
"They only highlight the initial limerence phase of a relationship where we are genuinely obsessed with our partners and only see the good," said Irene Schreiner, licensed marriage and family therapist and owner of Solid Foundations Therapy. "They span a very short amount of time and typically do not address any real obstacles that couples truly face in relationships."
Even so, Aleigh Huston-Lyons, associate therapist at AisleTalk, said that romantic comedies have come a long way over the years.
"Over the past decade, romantic comedies as a whole have taken off their rose-colored glasses," she said. "They've upped their nuance game, moving away from classic push, pull, and finally get together plotlines in favor of a deeper, more complex view of the full spectrum of love and its intricacies."
Still, even the best rom-coms should be taken with a grain of salt. And, Schreiner said, you should avoid comparing your relationship to what you see on screen.
Here are some of the best and worst romantic comedies to watch, according to couples therapists.
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