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The trauma caused by the pandemic will haunt us for years. Here are 6 ways to cope and start healing now.

Jennifer Yaeger   

The trauma caused by the pandemic will haunt us for years. Here are 6 ways to cope and start healing now.
Many people do have past experiences of trauma that are being triggered by our current circumstances.Fabio Pagani/EyeEm/Getty Images
  • Jennifer Yaeger is a licensed professional counselor and the owner and clinical director of Sea Glass Therapy.
  • She says that many people are experiencing ongoing trauma during the pandemic — meaning a good chunk of their energy is going towards surviving the current situation.
  • To navigate this trauma, she recommends six strategies people can employ; reprioritizing, mindfully exercising, and sharing experiences can all help.
  • "Our lives have been turned upside down. It's helpful to feel our feelings, to express them in the healthiest manner we can, and to move through them," she writes.
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As a licensed professional therapist who specializes in trauma, I have had several people question what constitutes this pandemic as a trauma. This is understandable as we are being asked to stay home, which for so many people is a safe place. A trauma is defined by our response to an event. The way we process events is determined by: our past experiences, variables that happen alongside these events, and our personal narrative, which is the story that we tell ourselves about our lives.

While we have no real frame of reference for a pandemic, as none of us have lived through one before, many people do have past experiences of trauma that are being triggered by our current circumstances. People who have felt trapped, isolated, or helpless, for example, may be experiencing the emotions they felt during that previous trauma.

While some people are fortunate enough to keep their jobs and work from home, we also know that there is a widespread financial instability that will affect our communities, presenting a compounding variable of fear. Our personal experiences of what is happening now consists of changing events every day, which is confusing and unsettling, as it is almost impossible to plan for the immediate future.

Jennifer Yaeger.Courtesy of Jennifer Yaeger

A trauma is a physical, mental, and emotional response that happens when an event triggers a hormonal response that our brain interprets to mean that we are in danger. Our senses take in data from the occurrence, and we interpret these as either a reminder of a previous experience in which we had a trauma response or a new experience that appears threatening.

We then feel a variation of fear on an emotional level. Our brain releases hormones that mobilize our physical systems to alert us to the danger we are in and create a fight, flight, or freeze response. Once this happens, we are no longer operating in our optimal range of responding to everyday situations.

The responses that I am seeing from the majority of people during the pandemic have been an oscillation from high anxiety to a somewhat depressed affect (fight or flight), and then periods of numbness (freeze) — all of which are typical when experiencing ongoing trauma. A lot of people are having days when they feel okay and even enjoy being at home and this new, slower pace of life, but they will then have moments or days when they experience sadness followed by anxiety, or vice versa. Some people also experience periods of apathy or numbness.

It can be a confusing reality to navigate, as we have not all experienced some of the more intense consequences of the pandemic yet.

What can we do to navigate this trauma that we are currently living through?

When experiencing trauma, we are limited in our ability to process many other experiences at the same time, as so much of our energy is going toward surviving our current situation.

For example: In order to go to the grocery store today, I have to plan for using a mask, gloves, not touching my face, staying farther away from other people, touching as few things as possible, and then disinfecting my groceries, my clothes, and my body upon returning home. While I am in the grocery store, my mind is occupied by thoughts and feelings about wondering if anyone in this store is carrying the coronavirus. Previously, I went to the grocery store, bought what I wanted, and came home. Today, it is a nerve-wracking experience requiring much more physical, mental, and emotional energy than the grocery shopping trip than I am used to.

Here's what we can do about it.

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6. Sharing our experience with others while we are experiencing difficulty is the connection that we desperately need, especially during this time of social distancing.

6. Sharing our experience with others while we are experiencing difficulty is the connection that we desperately need, especially during this time of social distancing.
It's healing to see and hear someone else.      Rawpixel.com/Shutterstock

Hearing someone's voice and seeing their facial expressions is healing, so utilizing video chatting is very helpful.

We will be dealing with the lasting effects of living through this pandemic for years to come. By employing these coping strategies, we can lessen the fallout. So, accept what you are feeling, lower your expectations, and increase the grace and love for yourself and others.

Jennifer Yaeger holds a B.S. in human development and family studies and an M.A. in marriage and family therapy and is a licensed professional counselor; she is currently the owner and clinical director of Sea Glass Therapy. She has worked for the last 18 years in all levels of care providing inpatient, intensive outpatient, outpatient, and teletherapy in a variety of settings including hospitals, community mental health centers, and private practices.

5. Because trauma includes a physical response to mobilize our bodies for danger, it is vital that we spend time and energy both burning off negative energy and then calming our bodies down.

5. Because trauma includes a physical response to mobilize our bodies for danger, it is vital that we spend time and energy both burning off negative energy and then calming our bodies down.
Calm your nervous system.      Getty Images

This includes mindfully exercising (or cleaning), while consciously thinking about our fears or anger in order to express them. It includes allowing ourselves to cry when we are watching the news. It includes practicing deep breathing and possibly yoga to calm the nervous system as it has been in overdrive.

4. We can validate every emotion we have, knowing that they will come and go and change, and knowing that there is a reason that we are feeling them.

4. We can validate every emotion we have, knowing that they will come and go and change, and knowing that there is a reason that we are feeling them.
Don't create unnecessary internal conflict.      Rafael Elias/Getty Images

When we tell ourselves that we "shouldn't" feel our feelings, we are negating our experience and will create unnecessary internal conflict. There is no such thing as an abnormal response to a completely abnormal occurrence. Our lives have been turned upside down. It is helpful to feel our feelings, to express them in the healthiest manner we can, and to move through them.

3. As a society, we tend to value work over most things.

3. As a society, we tend to value work over most things.
Learn to be okay with reprioritizing.      Shutterstock

This is an opportunity to alter our priorities and not feel inappropriate guilt about it. Inappropriate guilt manifests when we have been taught to believe something we no longer believe as strongly, or at all. We may be placing a higher value on relaxing or hobbies or family time now — whereas previously we were prioritizing work — and we can learn to be okay with that.

2. We can alter our expectations of our physical, mental, and emotional capacity, knowing that so much of it is already being utilized in other areas.

2. We can alter our expectations of our physical, mental, and emotional capacity, knowing that so much of it is already being utilized in other areas.
Take the time to rest.      Stokkete/Shutterstock

We feel more tired. This can be a time to place a higher value on resting. Rest and relaxation are vital to our wellbeing, yet we do not usually spend enough time doing either.

1. We can accept that we may not have the energy to accomplish all of the things that we think we should be doing with our time.

1. We can accept that we may not have the energy to accomplish all of the things that we think we should be doing with our time.
Give yourself a break.      Shutterstock/Blackregis

Because our culture places great value on achievement, we feel pressure to do many of the things in the house that we have been putting off. Most people simply do not have enough energy left from dealing with this new reality to get many of those things done.

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