Don’t let the weekend get away from you
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Welcome to the weekend, buds. Hope you're staying warm on this wonderful Saturday — a lot of the coldest temperatures recorded in every state happened during January.
Speaking of weekends, I chatted with some time-management experts about how to get the most from your weekends. That's today's big story.
What's on deck:
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- Life: Dermatologists debunked 10 common myths about washing your face.
But first, what're you up to this weekend?
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The big story
Don't let the weekend get away from you
Weekends seem like such a simple concept — two days away from work. But most people aren't feeling refreshed or rested after their days off.
"People are so tired from the week that they get to the weekend and they think they want to do nothing," Laura Vanderkam, the author of "168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think," told me.
"The problem is, it's impossible to do nothing — you'll do something. But it might not be nearly as rejuvenating as if you put a tiny bit of thought into it," she added.
So time-management experts shared how to prevent that from happening to you.
Plan "anchor events" for your weekend
Vanderkam defined an anchor event as something you want to do during the weekend — any activity that's loosely planned ahead of time. She recommends having three to five of them over the course of a weekend.
And Vanderkam has a general formula of three activity categories that lead to people feeling they had a good weekend: socializing, physical activity, and a spiritual activity (when you feel part of something bigger than yourself).
"If you think of choosing one thing from each of those categories and putting it somewhere in the weekend, you will probably hit Monday feeling like, 'Oh yeah, that was good.'"
Time-bound your responsibilities — and your free time
Vanderkam said there are 36 waking hours between 6 p.m. Friday and 6 a.m. Monday. So there's a lot of time to balance responsibilities and time for yourself.
She recommends thinking of the weekend in five chunks: Friday night, Saturday day, Saturday night, Sunday day, Sunday night. This can help you time and plan weekend activities and responsibilities.
Time-management coach Alexis Haselberger told me that a lot of her clients struggle with relaxation and putting work down.
This can be worsened when you schedule an unrealistic responsibility load into your weekend. The outstanding tasks in the back of your mind can make you feel like you didn't have a weekend — and makes you feel bad for not completing it.
She recommended making a manageable to-do list and blocking time off to complete the tasks. People can experiment with balancing responsibilities and free time, she said, since creating a fulfilling weekend is so individualized and requires work.
Plus, Vanderkam said if you do finish all your tasks — don't go looking for new ones to do.
Try something new
You're not really creating new memories while binging Netflix, scrolling TikTok, or chilling around your home. So this can make it feel like you did nothing over the weekend, Haselberger said.
She told me that people often think doing these activities will help you decompress from the week — "and it does in the moment, but then it doesn't. And then we're scrambling to do all of the things."
Haselberger recommends that people ask themselves: What can you do on the weekend that is outside of something that you would normally do to make the weekend feel like it was a prolonged period of time?
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