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Marriage is a life goal for some people - not all.
- Marriage is a lifelong dream for many - I can't say the same for me.
- Though I've had my fair share of long-term relationships, there's many reasons why I'd rather not get married - like my independence and polyamorous relationship style.
- Here's why I'll never get married.
A walk down the aisle has never been part of my agenda. I never bought into the whole "happily ever after after" scenario. To me, the concept of marriage is akin to being buried alive. Ditto for baby making.
That said, I know I'm in the minority - marriage and parenting are life goals for a lot of people.
An editor at a major wedding magazine once told me, when critiquing one of my articles, "I don't think you're marriage-minded enough to contribute to our magazine." I wore that feedback like a badge of honor for ages.
I've done the long-term coupling thing, so I'm certainly not a commitment-phobe (most recently I was in a relationship that lasted 11 years). In every relationship, I've always had the same agreement with my partners: I want the both of us to show up on a daily basis because we actively choose to - not because we're bonded by a piece of paper and a promise.
And if/when we reach the point when either of our hearts or minds are no longer in it, we agree to have that conversation and go from there. In my experience, this arrangement has led to civilized splits - plus it's much easier than negotiating a divorce. I'm a low-key person who doesn't like drama - this relationship style works well for me.
Here's are few more reasons I'm never going to get married: