10 Things 'LOVERS' Should Be Careful About In Their College Days

We breathe fresh air two times in our life. One- of the earth-when coming out of mother's womb and second-of independence-when we step into college life or more accurately our college-hostel life. In the first instance we have the warmth of family and guidance of parents to understand this world better and mould ourselves suitably. But in the second instance we are left to be guardian of ourselves. Like a horse without reign, our curiosity and adolescence drives us to taste experiences particularly with the opposite sex. Many factors consisting of emotions, hope, shyness, desire, confidence or over-confidence subtly play a role in making us act in ways which we wouldn't have preferred if we were constantly under someone's umbrella. Mind and actions largely remain out of control driven by emotional outbursts and inexperience in love affairs. Here are ten points you should remember if you are an aspiring college going 'lover'.

Immaturity- prevent falling in love in the very first instance
First year love may be too immature yet intense and may tear you apart. This may primarily happen due to your inexperience in regards to human psychology and ways of thinking. You might often think others thinking in your own path but the fact is everyone has a different line of analyzing and understand things. So be careful not to fall in intense love at the very first instance.

Friendliness- stop getting lured by it
For boys: If a girl is too friendly, don't take her for granted and, stop imagining, that she really likes you.
For Girls: If a boy behaves in an extremely affable way, the matter is just reverse of the aforesaid point. The boy either wants to have a bodily affair or might be thinking of getting into a serious relation soon.
In either case be careful not to profess love too soon. If things are going fine, you might express them implicitly to know the real intentions of your friend.

Physique - be simple, nobody wants too much
For boys, if you are looking for a long term relation, be slim in physique but don't build up yourself like a wrestler. Girls prefer bodybuilders as boyfriends rather than considering them as soul-mates. For girls, same thing prevails. Boys feel unsecure with girls having ultimate dashing looks and style. So be simple in physique and never too awkward.

Marriage promises - never ever during college days
Never promise marriage in college life. It might pose difficulties for you to change the course of your later life. When you pass out of college, job life brings many a twist which might disrupt even a free flowing and healthy relation. So if you are a keeper of promises or if you are an emotionally sensitive person, be careful to stay away from it. But if promises are as good as half baked cakes for you, you might think otherwise.

E-unfaithfulness - avoid it or hide it properly
'Intentional e-unfaithfulness' is rampant in facebook and watsapp. You must be smiling at this but please avoid it if you are happy because it might invite unwanted troubles in a smooth flowing relation. 'By chance e-unfaithfulness'- this is led by long term physical or mental blocks and the person involved might be luring himself/herself into something over internet that might not have healthy outcomes. Be careful to hide it, if you have at all committed such a thing. In both cases if your unfaithfulness is cracked, you are making way to serious quarrels that may perturb you to the extent of sleepless nights.

Extracurricular activities- art, culture and literature are the preferred ones
Extracurricular activities especially those related to arts and culture play an important role in creating attraction for either sex. In College level- arts, culture and literature have an upper hand over sports as far as love relations are concerned. So if you are good in drama, poetry or dance, build upon them, and you can really impress the one you wish to.

College sex- be careful and don't be too bad
Don't be afraid to be physical if that really drives you but get it clarified with your partner you both are having it for pleasure or looking forward towards something called divine relation in future. Needless to say, gain some mental experience and idea before you really perform it. Bad performance might end up diminishing confidence. Of course carry protection.

Hanging out- hang out as much as you can
This one is one of the coolest ways of developing love affairs during college days. Evening hangouts after classes may increase the comfort in a relation which might have long term effects in years to come. Maximum memories develop during chit chats while hanging around streets, food corners or shopping malls etc. which helps in preserving the emotional sensitivity for serious lovers.

Heroism- avoid it unless it's too necessary
Heroism and violence in solving problems which could have been otherwise solved brings down your impression in front of the ones you are trying to impress with these elements. Forget love, your opposite sex won't even prefer to be your good friend. So if you are thinking of copying actions from movies, the sequence of outcomes might run in a direction opposite to your intentions to impress.

First kiss- you have to be good
It is as dangerous as exciting it seems! Get some good Hollywood movies and notice the kissing scenes. Brush your gums well and go forward. Wrong style of kissing or foul smell in the first instance brings in catastrophic disaster in most love cases. If you fail to have your first kiss properly, be sure your face won't be as attractive as before to your mate.

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(About the author: Sonnet Mondal is an Indian author and founder of 'The Enchanting Verses Literary Review'. He has been a contributor at the International Writing Program(University of IOWA), the Sheepshead Review(University of Wisconsin), The Penguin Review(Youngstown State University) and Two Thirds North magazine(Stockholm University) among others. More about his works can be found atwww.sonnetmondal.com)